Codependency Personality Types #shortvideo #shortsvideo #shorts #short

In honor of January being National Codependency Awareness Month, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, created a 4-part series on codependency. In this video, Ross discusses Codependency personality types.

ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG

Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering codependency contributions are responsible for the sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developing a treatment program that permanently resolves it. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops.

His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel with 27 million views and 275,000 subscribers and the sale of 165,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

[trishwilliams]

Omg! I’ve been all of these!😅
I spent years in Al anon thinking it was because I was the adult child of an alcoholic. I went at it from every angle possible, knowing there had to be a way to be happy. Blaming myself, blaming others. I had insights here and there, but really no real understanding as to what was going on with me. I’m so deeply grateful for your teaching/work!!! Your integrity! Much of the content out there has merit, yet much of it adds fuel to the fire. Thank you 🙏

[mlmiller]

Thank you for bringing awareness with regard to the connection between codependency and narcissism. It is very important for codependent people to understand they are like magnets to narcissistic people.
I don't know who needs to hear this, but here goes...
This guy i was with whom it turned out was ANOTHER Narcissist and whom i was "crazy about" for the first few months (because I AM SICK WITH CODEPENDENCY) told me at the end, "Yeah, I am a man who will have to have a really strong woman...i thought you were gonna be it, but i guess not." Of course, this was preposterous to hear coming from an abusive and esp. vile and evil male Narcissist speaking to a 50+ y/o woman who has literally been thru Hell and back and is still standing tall. But here's the thing...I can either continue to "fall in love" with every Narcissist who tries to draw me in, or i can deal with MY CHARACTER DEFECTS, one of which is MY NEED TO "FIX" PEOPLE. This is, IMO, the driving force behind codependency. If you are born an Empath and when you were a child there was someone significant in your life (usually a parent) who needed "fixing" and also crossed emotional or other boundaries with you, that was a recipe for your disaster of being a codependent adult. Unfortunately, it will be you who either pays the high price or does the hard work of "fixing" yourself later on, after being an accomplice in your own destruction, when the pain becomes too great or so unbearable you no longer have the will to live. The fact of the matter is that it was never our responsibility to fix anyone other than ourselves. That someone in our childhood placed that burden upon us, either consciously or unconsciously or accidentally or with malicious intent, was certainly unfair and very possibly caused insurmountable damage to our developing psyches. However, we cannot afford to continue taking on Narcissists as our "projects" because they are getting with us to literally HELP US ALONG WITH OUR ULTIMATE DEMISE. We must assign all of that energy we think we are using to "fix" them, but which they are really using to survive, and we must use it to HEAL OURSELVES. The longer we stay sick and the more Narcissists we invite into our lives (who are PURPOSELY DRAINING US OF OUR ENERGY AND USING IT AS THEIR LIFE FORCE), the harder it will be to heal from the trauma that keeps us stuck in this self destructive cycle. We must take responsibility FOR OUR PART IN IT and we must find our way to heal from our pain and trauma so that we can try to be healthy and functional for ourselves and those people or children in our lives who really do love us and count on us. IF WE HAVE CHILDREN, WE MUST ALSO BREAK THE CYCLE FOR THEM. If you are sick with codependency, one (or more) of your children may see YOU as the parent who needs "fixing" and assume that role and then you may have inadvertently created another YOU. Think about that...

[ziggystardust]

Can you advise how to deal with cerebral codependancy so we can be clear on what that looks like in more detail? There may be some who are still in the process of healing, who can benefit from your home truths. Your videos are insightful!

[thelordcomanderwhocriedwolf]

Thanks for sharing and calling me out.❤ I needed to hear and read this. Through out the years I have been them all, now the two dominant ones I recognized myself in are the cerebral and the "anorexic" codependent. It makes so much sense now. But I find it so hard to reconnect with myself and the real underlying issues on a more emotional level. I have so much knowledge know, but don't know how to put it into practice yet. It has not really clicked yet. The mental health care system in my country has changed a lot, but it has still been a beast of a project to find the right therapy and organization that can provide certain types of (specialised) care. I have been trying to figure much out on my own, but I feel so tired and I need someone to be with me during this process of healing. I feel scared and lonely and it has made me hostile, something I truly feel sorry about.

[heatherofthemountains]

I never knew about the types of codependents. I just thought it was one way of being, not many. I relate to all of these, really. And yes, it makes me angry and sad. None of it is fair or just. The question that always runs through my mind is "how dare he do this to our family? Our marriage? Our life?!" All because he wants to be in total control and be perceived as "the best of the best" as he "plays to win" and approaches everything as a win or lose situation. Never realizing that he's already lost. It's maddening, really. 😢

[margaretvaughan]

Narcissists thrive on co-dependants. I've been there so many times in Christian social relationships The only way for anyone to survive in those situations is to never challenge the status quo - and go down with it. We don't grow and mature until we learn to stand alone in our faith and stop depending on the validation of others. Oh boy, are we hated for doing just that! We're the enemy, the troublemaker, the ones who don't 'fit in' with the chaos. But we still must never blame others, even when our heart is breaking. Did Jesus really say that? To the, healed soul, yes?!

[kismypencek]

I didn't know there were different types...

[GloriaWatkins-cu]

Excuse me no relation no communication ..ruined show goes vacation ha nice audience who would hear or listen mean unforgiving spirit ride on whatever supplies