How to help your kids get through narcissistic abuse

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Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That’s me - Ben Taylor a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook.

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[sarahcraig]

I have a 12 yr old he has seen his dad's narcissist behaviour and is in the grieveing process at the moment, he don't want to see him again but still has to get through the fact that it's his own dad. I constantly have to council him and build his confidence back up.

[age]

There is so much content for adults who experience narcissistic abuse, but nothing really for the children and it's DESPERATELY needed. It'd be amazing if you could make more content on this area.

The most frustrating part is that the court system enables these parents. Mental health is considered when it's depression or addiction, but a toxic personality disorder isn't. I've been searching for any material that addresses the impacts that ASPD has on parenting and the way it affects a child and there's nothing!!!

[nonserviam]

I have a 10y old child that needs a lot of help and treatment from a specialist to recover from the narc stepdad and narc biological dad. I've been in therapy for months, my senior care is to heal my child from the abuse. Not only for him to be healthy but also for preventing him to grow to a narc adult. Thank you Ben 🙏

[KM-fdbw]

Mine… I think they still idealize him… pretty sure I’m the main recipient of abuse so far (although we’ve been separated for several years now), but I know it probably won’t stay that way. 😢

[chargarland]

6.03 my son popped up and yells that's Dad. The parent that needs feeding..wowsa

[noelcarter]

Wow, this was very eye opening. My step sons bio mom, is a Narcissist. In the beginning, it used to mentally drain me & I always felt I had to be one step ahead. As I’m healing & growing, I’m realizing i approached stuff wrong. I’m now approaching it from a place of understanding and boundaries .
Thank you, for the truth ❤
I will always be my step sons biggest advocate & stand in the gap with truth .

[emilytabara]

Very important message to me I have a 12 year old son and 20 year old daughter everything you said was real 🙏😢

[angelawilliams]

Thank you! I needed this so badly I don’t know how to handle things I’m fine when people hurt me but not when my children get hurt that’s when I get angry and need to find a way to set boundaries and protect them

[Jenny-Jo]

Wow!!! I can't wait for after work today to learn everything I can from you! I have a 10yr old boy and 8 yr old girl that I need to help grow up to be healthy people. They have a horrible dad that we have to deal with this issue on. Thank you so much for helping the kids!

[darkangel]

Yes my 20 1/2 is stuck at the age between 12&15. He's caused SO MUCH DAMAGE I WISHED I know what I know now & NOT be so BLIND

[HomeFrendsten]

Create awareness among children that some people in family are npd narcsts

[jeryuen]

Thanks.
Court is next Thursday.
During an interview with the court appointed assessor, I told her
How can I show compassion to my son, while trying to answer questions he doesn't know he is asking?
His birthday is two days before.
Two years this is what she is giving to him, not only for his birthday but for the rest of his life.
I hope things change, if not with her then through the court.
I feel a lot of shame and guilt, but when we have our time together we make memories
My mother used to call me ugly.
Instead, I say
You are beautiful
You're doing a great job.
Daddy is very proud of you
And I love you very much.
Stay warm

[nene]

Thank you so much for your video. This is so difficult to explain to a person who does not understand narcissism but everything you said happened to my teenage children now and I am forced to watch their pain and neglect.

[lmorman]

My kids are 12 & 6. The differences btwn them are obvious. My oldest was exposed to all of the chaos, the lies, the hatred, the uncertainty, the substance abuse, the emotional, psychological & at times physical abuse of my ex. My youngest was exposed to those things but only for a short while. CPS kept getting involved & finally required my ex get therapy & take it seriously, learn to stop blaming, stop lying & learn how to be accountable-and they forbade him to be near the kids or me until he did those things. It has never occurred. The devastation he left behind is apparent in my oldest. He has become so defensive, so mistrustful, so depressed & he doesn’t seem able to move forward. My youngest wasn’t exposed to as nearly as much so he’s not having as many issues. Though they’re both heartbroken after being abandoned & also bc they’ve been learning who their father figure truly was/is. My ex scapegoated my oldest (nearly as terribly as he did me) & treated my youngest like the golden child. In any case, I wonder if you can do a video on how to help your children (& adults) work through the narcissistic defenses we unintentionally pick up while being narcissistically abused. I had the kids & i in therapy but can no longer afford…as my ex robbed the kids savings accounts as well. He of course pays no child support nor does he help with medical expenses so we are left uninsured. It’s on me to try to help our kids. Thanks so much for what you’re doing. You help so many of us! ❤

[noraabdulla]

When is good age talking kids bout narcissistic if u have certain family member r acting abnormal dont feel safe negative feelings emotional around them people talking badly bout them warning but they r not related to them neighbors these people know something not right bout them u don’t see courption cause depending commuity u live in