THE GOLDEN RULE NOT SO MUCH; PLATINUM RULE ROCKS | Jennifer Furlong | TEDxEvansStreet

[Igoeallout]

The Golden Rule is not relationship advice.
You're not going to have a relationship with everyone you come across. It's a measure on how to react/ respond to people the way you would want to people to react/respond to you.
It's not about you're preferences, likes/dislikes. It's not a lack of acknowledging the likes and dislikes of others.
It's about showing respect, kindness, patience, understanding, gentleness, self-control. All the behaviors you would want anyone you come across to hopefully possess.

[thisismynameok]

Mrs. Furlong was the best public speaking professor I could've asked for! She taught me quite a lot in such a short semester :)

[xrjx]

To make your self your center is good. Making others your center makes you neglect yourself which is bad. The Silver rule is a better alternative to the Golden rule. They are not the same. The silver rule says don't do to others what you'd not like done to you. Don't let others do to you what they would not like done to them. The silver rule does not obligate anything. It does prohibit you from doing some things though.

[istherenooneleft]

I recently heard the Platinum rule advocated for in a DEI brief. I completely disagree with this rule. It sounds good when you say it, but doesn’t pass scrutiny at all

[christiansoldier]

She doesn't have a grasp of what the Golden Rule means. It doesn't mean to give someone tuna because you love tuna. It means to be considerate of someone else.

[smsimms]

It's naive beyond belief to assert that it is more moral to treat others as they would have you treat them, give the selfish, greedy nature of human beings. Most others would have you give them whatever you can, regardless of their willingness or ability to act in kind.

[Scott-dfoq]

How do I poll Facebook friends and get a TED Talk?

[jeffday]

With all my respect and from merely a personal pov, I do not think and never seen anyone being capable to treat others in the way that they wanted to be treated. What I mean is that the idea, the golden rule 2.0, it is not just a change in the mindset that to consider others more that only stays in the mind, it is a capacity that needs practice and competency. However, as a soul lives in one flesh, we, self is the main base of all our beings and happenings, self is the centre that radiates all energy outwards no matter positive or negative. Each individual is so unique, different and complex, we can, with the intention, to know others to a certain degree, but talking about treating them in the way that they wanted, personally I think it's a way overestimation of self power, are we capable? Once again, it is not merely a change in the mindset, it is a capability and competency. If then in another case, we really put every other people that are close in our lives to the centre and get to know them so well and always behave in the means that they wished for, then it's to me will be a disaster, as I would lose myself completely for the reason that all my focus was on other people, it wouldn't be my soul living in my flesh any longer, it's other people's ideas and wishes in my flesh. In a word, to treat others involves consciousness, and consciousness is always, and can only be subjective and from self, so yet every single person is the centre of each self. Yet it doesn't mean we could just be self-absorbed and not to concern social decency, that's another point. Nothing more than personal thoughts, would like to hear voices that prove how narrow-minded I am or evidence me with new perspectives, Ta.

[Typesmacker]

Let's not ignore the fact the everybody expects something from everybody else. Part of the unwritten law of society.

[tonyalessandra]

The Platinum Rule® is a federal trademark of Dr. Tony Alessandra

[DR---]

If I followed the golden rule I would be in jail. We really need to get rid of the golden rule because it makes people unempathetic.

[Superman]

Umm lady, you don't seem to understand the golden rule. Because your 'rule' is just a subversion of the same rule

[ghostphoenix]

BTW, APPLY PLATINUM RULE TO YOUTUBE AND DON'T BE DELUSIONAL, THE GOLDEN RULE HAS HUMILITY TOO, SO, GOOD LUCK, AND DON'T EVER, BE CHILDISH, THE PLATINUM RULE INCLUDES HUMILITY TOO!

[sbresni]

I enjoyed this lecture that explains the golden rule is a powerful tool for reciprocal ethics for building empathic relationships that can be nuanced into this platinum rule as a way to help people understand there is a bigger picture than just themselves.

[matthewharvey]

Only works with people who are seeking good things.

[Typesmacker]

I really don't see a problem with the golden rule and I feel the need to speak out: "Do unto others you want others to do to you." Let's break it down: "[You] do unto others..." (You are the focus to do things to others and not expect anything done to you first): Example: Treat others the way they want to be treated. "...so others can do the same to you" (expect something 'after' doing something at the beginning, which is a natural law [action and reaction]): They will treat you also the way you want to be treated if they know how to reciprocate. If you do good to someone very likely thing is he/she will do good back to you. Simple. Hey, what do you know! it's still the golden rule! Not sure what the fuzz is all about. It's like saying chocolate ice creams are good and all ice creams are bad. A (golden rule) is a superset of B (platinum rule). Not trying to act smart or anything, just want to share my discovery or of things forgotten at this age and time.

[markmaloney]

We are what we have been taught to be…

[Epck]

Quite nieve to assume we can simply know better than the countless generations of our forefathers across hundreds of different cultures and time periods