I'm Over 40 and I've Never Been Married. This is Why

This was a hard topic for me to talk about- in fact, I've never really talked about this with anyone but family. But I hope there are lessons in my journey that might help you or people you know. Let me know.

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[leahgilliam]

I got married at 39, a month shy of turning 40. Funny thing is my now husband was someone I had met 4 years prior. We spoke for a while, and I ghosted him. Then I saw him again two years later and we were inseparable. We got married two years after that. Sometimes you can meet the right person but not at the right time. We both went through things (both together and apart) that prepared us for where we are right now.

[kathleenmckenna]

I didn’t get married until 42. Child of an alcoholic (low self esteem, low confidence) and I dated men who were unavailable. Took me years to figure out who I am and I wasn’t going to settle for any man. Then in 2000 broke my car mirror and had to go to the dealer and he was an advisor there, rest is history. He had two children and we had one when I was 47 naturally. Yes, in this life one has to follow one’s own journey and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise 😊

[playingwithkids]

I needed to hear this. God has given me everthing I wanted except a husband. I would have never imagined I still be single at almost 43. It is so hard to date as you get older.

[carolan]

There are certain advantages in being married and there are certain advantages in staying single... trouble is we can't have both... Nevertheless, true happiness does not depend on whether or not we're married.

[hadijatkubrat]

I’m over 40 and I do not regret that I am not married. I refuse to settle down to just anybody just bc I want a relationship that may not be conducive to mind body and soul. And that is important to me.

[Dr.Thandi]

I think we need to normalize being single. People act like it’s some sort of disease or sign of dysfunction, as though the married folks aren’t dysfunctional too!

[annamaria]

I got married a year after meeting my husband. It was too soon. I was only 25 but the pressure (society) was high. A decade later, we still have issues and we both know that we’re not soulmates. It’s 💔 to be in a marriage and feel so lonely. But the most painful thing is our kids thinking that what love looks like.

[cdosby]

BABY! At 56 almost 57, never married, no children and happy as can be! There is NO SHAME in this!!

[rebeccabamford]

The only thing worse than being alone is wishing you were.

[latonyahunt]

I’m 45, newly engaged!And I can truly say I took my time, dated, and enjoyed my life. I was proposed to at 23 and 27, but called both of them off. So, I’m my opinion, when your over 35 or 40, you know what you want and what your looking for in a companion! I can truly say my fiancé is a man who loves his mother and is a devoted father to two beautiful girls!And we have strong communication, vulnerability and consistency in our relationship from day 1!So, please keep these attributes in mind. GOD HAS SENT MY COMPANION AND HE WILL SEND YOURS, God’s timing is the best timing !!

[Colt-iiqn]

I know a female doctor that married once 30 yrs ago and never remarried. No kids, her Doctor husband ran off with a nurse. Never got over it, never wants to talk about marriage. She’s now 57, her career and church volunteering is what she does. That’s what she wants now. You are a D.O. That’s an incredible accomplishment, married or not you are a winner 🎉👍

[elizclark]

Let's skip and go straight to how this lady is absolutely gorgeous and doesn't look older than thirty years old. I am married and wouldn't mind being single again. It's about time women stay true to themselves and appreciate who they are. Very inspirational ❤

[guinessbusinesstv]

Jen, be happy with where you are. Being single is a blessing for some of us. I was with a man for 24 years and had 3 lovely children. He walked in 2020 with his young girlfriend half his age. My life is great. It doesn't matter what anyone thinks about you. Enjoy your single life.

[cherylpgh]

Being a black, educated and a professionally successful woman is kryptonite to some men. I’ve literally had men say to me, “what do you need a man for?” So short sighted! Settling is a dangerous concept when you are considering a lifetime commitment. I’m over fifty and after being single for over a decade found the right one. He’s out there but it may take a minute. Cheering you on Doc!

[Dr.Thandi]

Not everyone wants to be married and that’s ok.

You’re gorgeous. Amazing. And if you want to be married you will be. It’s just a matter of time

[nycgirl]

❤️ You Dr.Jen. You remind me sooo much of my daughter who’s turning 40 this month (you both are kind, smart and beautiful women) and she hasn’t found her “one” yet either. Like I tell her…God has a plan for you, stay prayerful and live your life to the fullest in joy and peace.

[francessimon]

Exactly, so many people stay in toxic relationships just to say they have someone. I took years to heal trauma and learn self love and inner peace, and now being in my 40’s. I can finally say, when I enter into a relationship, that’s a healthy relationship. I can enjoy it while still growing and continue on my self love journey❤❤

[justmyopinion]

It’s OK to be single. Don’t worry about what other people think or say about you.
It’s better to be single and happy than married and miserable.
New subscriber here.

[monye]

Don't worry Dr Jen, you're wonderful just live in peace, people who are married are not better than those who are not married, there isn't anything wrong with anyone who isn't married over a certain age.

[rhondaburrell]

I am so glad you made this video! Because I’m over 50 not married and no children. Let me tell you I struggle but constantly I remind myself not to settle. I could go on and on but thanks again for the conversation ❤