Is it HOCD or am I just Bisexual??

Another age old HOCD question!

[RosfieldCont]

Great tip: when you're feeling the need, the urge to do compulsions, to rethink things, to test yourself looking at someone, wait a few seconds, wait a minute. The urge will go away or decrease greatly.

[RenePeraza]

Great content! One breakthrough comment a therapist once told me was: "you have a problem with ambiguity." At the moment, even that statement stumped me until I got it. I was always black or white thinking. I thought pure logic was truth. BUT, we are humans with lots of dichotomies and paradoxical thinking that somethings are not worth solving with any metrics. Just be. "Hello, thought... Goodbye, thought."

[AshyAnimations]

Well this video made me feel worse. i have a big HOCD, not only do i not wanna be gay, i dont wanna be ANY sexuality other than straight. all i want to be is straight my whole life.

[lookatmego_ohyes]

4:27 to 5:05 this is exactly what i went through. it happened everyday, then every half day, then every hour until i woke up and i still needed to be assured. Up until i finally decided to accept the uncertainty of "maybe i am maybe i am not i'l l accept it" i literally did not even think i could live a normal life which seems crazy now but back then it felt probable. I am not saying that I am "fixed" by any means, I just know that i challenge the intrusive thoughts by acknowledging that i may never know.

[BackTo]

hahaha that "bit" you did at the beginning about having no pants on, then staying on it. Talk about a sneaky exposure hahaha classic

[lasdj]

Im tired of it I can't even watch videos about bestfriends without thinking theyre gay, and this sht triggers me when I saw ANY above average looking men and a shirtless men and my brain is like testing me to look more if I feel something but I would just feel like my gf cheated on me, I used to be comfortable about my sexuality back then I can even make gay jokes and not overthink it now the slightest touch 2 men do makes me think theyre gay

[jaimepena]

Yeah, thats the point, most hocd people, me before, dont understand that Feeling disgust to other atractive men means that you are hetero, and overcoming that is what help you to improve your situation, thanks man great vid.

[paulcooneyjr]

Hey Man,

Thanks a lot! Wow I could totally relate to a lot of stuff in here.

I am many years into this journey (it's called life) and I am -- a work in progress. I was caught in a very bad marriage when I met a guy who unbeknownst to me was gay. He was good looking and charismatic and he dropped lots of hints. I really didn't want to ignore the signs that were there and yeah, I've been through a lot of what you discuss.

I'm still going through it.

With a great girlfriend and a really supportive family member who both accepts my sexuality and understands OCD (gf accepts sexuality, family member accepts sexuality and really is a OCD student).

This was super helpful! Glad to know / hear someone else (I remember the disgust -- tried to imagine being sexual with my best friend. A guy I truly loved. Couldn't do it.) So I've been there. Kudos to you for talking about it!

[cleangoblin]

Im at it again after abusing alcohol.
Alcohol rarely done me anything good and i pray to God to help me overcome it.

I dont care anymore if im bisexual really.
I dont wanna control what i cannot.

I'll just let it be.
I cant reason again hocd and recounting the days im straight and i acted sus, would just make me more confused.

Im ok now being bi if thats what i truly am.

If im bi then much better.
More for me then.

But i never really pictured myself fantasizing or in awe about men.

Everytime i let my heart choose, i just melt at thought of a woman

[mjl]

I seem to get caught up in the part where if I accept uncertainty I start to not feel a lot of anxiety or panicky but my brain will tell me “well since you just had an Intrusive thought about wanting to be with a women and you didn’t get fear or anxiety then maybe you are bi or lesbian”. But I guess even just that thought causes anxiety so it’s OCD trying to reel me back in?

[hanakovacova]

Thank you so much for this video it helped me so so much. I feel so seen after everything you said about looking for the feeling of disgust. I have had Hocd for 2-3 years on and off and it still is hard to accept uncertainty.

[walker_]

In one moment, my mind was completely destroyed. I used to have very strong thoughts about myself who I am and now here I'm wondering if I'm bi or not. It is incredible. Maybe some fates worse than death.

[mrbrandonfoley]

Are you trying to trigger us by telling us you're not wearing pants? -- great content on your channel. thank you.

[-ce-]

I have recovered from hocd feel free to ask me any questions 👍

[howto-wiki]

This is the best channel so far for HOCD

[joebrat]

I fell into some dodgy porn after an escalation, and while it was limited to the internet, eventually i tried acting out something to feel the disgust last year and i only felt 100 times more confused after, as in i didn't know my identity. I never had sex with the person, the mere thought made me uncomfortable, just sat there and talked to them but I've had severe HOCD since then and stopped watching porn altogether, but i can't stop trying to reassure myself I'm straight. May be I am just 5 per cent bicurious. May be I'm bisexual. May be i'm straight, may be i am something in between. I suppose I just need to be content with AMBIGUITY and uncertainity. I have a bit of an anxiety problem which can portray itself in many different forms, and all of them have a common theme: constantly seeking reassurance and not accepting uncertainty.

[gotyy]

How do you know if and when you genuinely want to do something? The answer would be: "you don't know, accept uncertainty" but, taken SO-ocd as example, what am I supposed to do with masturbation to porn or real life sexual experiences? When I get those urges it feels like I want them, so I struggle distinguishing the compulsion from the actual desire... Should I do them and habituate to them? Or is it detrimental for me?

[TheFelcardon]

Oh man you are too handsome, all of my kind

[igallagher]

Hey man. I was wondering if you could do a video on urges- if that's something you encountered during your time suffering with this disorder.

[christophercurrie]

Great content! Thank you! What would you advise if someone were in a position where they want to commit to a long term relationship with someone but are aware that they genuinely are unsure whether they could be happier longer term in that relationship because of unknown sexuality and doesn’t want to hurt someone, people (in my view) don’t generally want to embark on a relationship when you cannot make a commitment and one is getting older and wants to have a family (and the ocd has been around so long that it is impossible to know what is ocd and what is authentic)?