10 Key Lessons After Being Discarded by A Narcissist

Here you will learn 10 things that you will likely realize AFTER a romantic relationship with a narcissist ends. I will also explain the most important thing that you need to learn in order to avoid being a victim of narcissistic abuse again in the future.

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Video Chapters:
Introduction (0:00)
1: Their Love Was Conditional (0:43)
2: Their Lies and Deceptions (1:52)
3: You Are Easy to Replace (2:46)
4: You'll Learn About Narcissism (3:51)
5: Narcissists Don't Change (4:42)
6: They Keep Messing With Your Mind (5:36)
7: You Experienced Gaslighting (6:38)
8: You Will Learn About Yourself (7:58)
9: You Will Research (9:07)
10: Boundaries (9:58)
What You Need to Know to Avoid Narc Abuse (10:50)

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[joshslaton]

When she wasn't able to control me anymore she began the discard phase. I've been studying narcissism now for almost 7 years because I didn't understand how a human being could be so evil

[DannyThomas-fbdm]

1. Love was conditional (it was fake)
2. You discover their Lies, deceptions, manipulations.
3. You will be replaced quickly.
4. You probably didn't understand narcissism before this relationship.
5. Narcissist don't change. Personality traits, lack of empathy
6. They will mess with your mind long after the relationship is over of you let them. Don't follow them.
7. You were gas lit. Invalidated, not recognized, you value was not recognized.
8. You will learn about yourself and your dark side. Deep introspection and self worth issues.
9. You will do a ton of research about Narcissism
10. Learn the need to have strong boundries to protect your self. Decide what you will do if boundries are not respected. Don't accept love bombing.

Yes yes yes. All the above. Lise just read my mind knows my story and what I've been through without ever meeting or talking to me.

[Individualliberties]

It is incredible how they get into your mind, possess you, so you are not able to notice anything else but them.
After discard, you are like a newborn baby - helpless but full of potential.

[OnderHassan]

No one gets to stay young and attractive forever. We all make our own beds and will have to eventually sleep in them. So I have no worries. Karma doesn't discriminate.

[Champman]

mine discarded me after 7 years. Rebounded after 2 weeks(probably he was in the picture long before). But reading the comments here, I am happy that I didn't marry her. I beat myself up for that, for months. But now I realize, it wouldn't have changed nothing. The communication problems, the lack of empathy and the devaluing...
I dodged a bullet, but the trauma bond is strong

[northernsoul]

I just deleted all of our photos and was reminded of all of the good times. I was really sad and started crying and missing her a lot, so I came to your channel to watch a video since that worked so well last time and once again every point you made was my relationship exactly. This was what I needed to be stronger. Thank you again.

[davidwarburton]

Best one yet. Two years out, I stopped watching narc videos a year ago but come back sometimes for a reminder, and this was so spot on. Thank you for the healthy reminder

[supportthejerseymob]

I was accused of being a narcissist.. I came To these videos only to find out she is 1000% the narcissist, the videos are helping me but the trauma bond is so strong ..

[Eli_J_]

Was recently struggling with being discarded and replaced so quickly until I started watching these videos. My covert Narc was my wife. These videos are spot on. I’m still uncovering her deceit.

[Buster-imso]

"Never accept someone's 'Love Bombing'"!

[viviandevilliers]

My marriage to female covert narcissist just ended. I’m a man. I feel totally lost, confused, much shame, inferior, incredibly sad, misunderstood, I used to have interests, friends, activities. I ended up isolated and alone and lost.

[gettingschooled]

I like your point about " coming to terms with your own negative traits after a narcissist relationship". These people can bring out the worst in you through constant stress that they put on you.

[josephmyatt]

Oh believe me I have cried myself a many times at 68 you never think that another can attack you emotionally so deep! I feel for you

[thebeckyboopshow]

I just ended things with the narc i was dating a few days ago. He tried to triangulate me with another woman, and when I wasn’t having it, he caused a fight, gave me the silent treatment and when i wouldn’t capitulate, he blocked me, and then used that as an excuse to talk to the other woman.

Now, this isn’t about hating the other woman, but in my opinion she had so little to offer compared to what I did and all we had built together. But that’s when I realized how easy it is to be replaced - he didn’t care about the things that made me unique, how much I loved him, or that I would have moved heaven and earth for him. He just needed another woman with a pulse to be supply, that was it.

[RedMedic]

Absolutely. Strong boundaries are critical. If boundaries are not respected, run. It will save you a lot of trouble and may even save your life.

[glicmathan]

Wow this PERFECTLY addresses everything I am going through following a relationship discard by a highly narcissistic covert. The cruel way she left me (as if I had wronged her) was the final confirmation of her full blown narcissism. This is the woman who laid down the law for me early on — “no cheating.” So imagine my surprise to discover that she cheated on me and lied repeatedly to cover it up! No empathy for me and my pain when I finally worked it out — just fixated on her own shame and anger; upset that she was exposed, her reputation tarnished etc. I really needed this video and just subscribed! Thank you! 🙏

[brunolanglois]

Once again you nailed it: I literally see my past relationship sail before my eyes. It is good to be reminded of the manipulations we've been subjected to and how our deepest love has been used to one's own benefits. The road is still long. Thanks again for the support.

[michaelhussey]

That is such a key point Number 8, about being confronted with our Shadow. The impulse to insult, to denigrate, to level the score, can make us feel ( because WE have conscience and can be self critical ) that we are '' just as bad '' as the narcissist.

[OSTARAEB]

One I suspect had covert BPD said, « I’ve done favors for you ». Yes. She was a pathological liar and extremely manipulative. It’s dangerous and scary.

[uppercutgrandma]

I've been two months no contact and she's been smear campaigning me since then. I haven't responded to any of it (since I legitimately have no idea what's being said). But, I guess she started pulling more people into it and they're rejecting her narratives. Hopefully, this will sort itself out. I wasn't a great lover but, I was kind and caring. Either way, here's to tomorrow. Keep your chins up, homies.