The ONLY Premarital Counseling you need || How to Stay Married AFTER the Wedding!

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I wish I had someone tell me this premarital advice BEFORE I got married ten years ago. It would have changed everything in my marriage. We had no idea how to cultivate intimacy and connection and emotional safety and conflict resolution, and we paid the price for it with distance and disconnection. Don't let that be you.

[Ysa]

My parents just come to a couple understandings,
1. It’s not a fight against each other, it’s fight against the problem.
2. You don’t have to sleep in the same bed if you both are light sleepers that snores.
3. Different people are good with different chores .
4. Letting each other do their own hobbies in the same area counts as a date. My father likes kayaking my mother likes fishing for example.
5. Enjoining each other company while not speaking is quality time.
6. Saying what is wrong is better than not saying.
7. Tell each other you love them.
8. And lastly, remember you probably wouldn’t find someone better than this person outside.
And they are doing pretty good for themselves, so here you go.

[jesusiskingalways]

Getting married is easy, being married is hard, but staying married is beautiful

[wugimzu]

My husband and I have spent hours and hundreds of dollars listening to marriage helps and recently found you. What a gift you are, and we love the humor. We can so easily relate to everything you have to say. THANK YOU!

[idontknowyouthatsmypurse]

“What separates marriage from divorce is your ability to handle conflict without hurting each other in the process with your words and actions and reactions.”

🔥🔥🎯🎯

[EtherealZaftig]

My husband & I started our marriage with one goal: "This will be our one and only marriage, so we need to make it work."

[javaskull]

My late husband and I had both been previously married, and had both been in relationship counseling before those divorced. While those marriages ended, we had both learned valuable skills in that counseling, and brought those skills into our relationship. It made such a difference! We were together 25 years until his death. We both worked at respect, patience, expressing our needs, expressing gratitude for the other, self awareness and honesty, and forgiveness. We had a really good marriage, even in the hard times. I still miss him and love him.

[yaffajm]

Do you have any idea how much of a gift this is? EVERYTHING in this video was perfectly executed - from the delivery, to the balance of humor... you seem to know exactly how to convey information and communicate in ways that definitely stand the chance of being absorbed! Major BRAVO!

[tiffani]

That “no conflict” marriage… that was mine exactly… my abandonment issues, not bringing up issues or conflict because he was defensive, hated to talk things out, wouldn’t bend or compromise… gave the silent treatment, no dates nor affection… people were shocked when I asked for a separation that led to a divorce.. my mom said “ you all never argued!!”… I realized that we didn’t argue because we didn’t talk or communicate.

[xwzsedw]

I started my first serious relationship in my mid 30s. After 7 years we still love each other madly and what this guy says is at the heart of our relationship- we let ourselves and each other be like children that we couldn’t be when we were growing up - vulnerable, trusting, unconditionally loved. We heal our wounds through our arguments, teasing, heart wrenching confessions and crying together and for each other. It is the most amazing thing ever. But also I wonder maybe it took those 30+ years for us to be in a place where we could do this in a relationship.

[jojorey]

I’ve been married 3 times to the same man (no divorces just renewed vows), it cost us a total of $150 each being $50. We’ve been married since 1980 and met in 1976 when I was 19 years old. So, you’re right it’s not about a Cinderella wedding. It’s about love and commitment which can take years to figure out. We are more in love today because we’ve made it through many a storm and stayed committed. The only thing I wish I had done was get a proper photo on that day.

[LovePantsu]

You just literally spared thousands people of many years of suffering by a single video. This is brilliant. Thank you.

[nebj]

Tried online marriage counseling, getting advice from older married couples (never divorced), but you're the first person my husband actually listens to and immediately put the advice into action😊

Thank you for being passionate, honest and energetic in putting all this content out❤

[Kevin]

After watching this, I am more convinced than ever that Morticia and Gomez Addams are THE model marriage.

[AloeVeraAxolotl]

“If you don’t care about their feelings, you don’t care about them” So real!!! 💯💯

[aliasgirl]

Individuals need to see this, not just couples. I only wish I had known about my conflict avoidance and people pleasing earlier. We are still married (20 this July) but it’s been tough sometimes. I’m o ly now learning how to deal with my issues. So many people need to know this stuff. I’ve sent this to my 17yo. I’ve been telling him for the past couple of years that I want him to be able to have a healthy rel’ship sooner — to do better, to be better at this than his father and I are.

I think it’s vital for parents to speak encouragement and growth into their children even if they didn’t get it right themselves. One or two more steps in the right direction is further than three or four in the wrong direction. 😊

[BlueGoblin]

Premarital counseling is a must. Despite how passionate you are.

[REALCaptainAmerican]

How did this dude say everything you gotta do and he only took 6 minutes? You are talented dude keep doing what you are doing and this channel will take off like a rocket ship. Comment made at 64k followers. For future reference when it’s hundreds of thousands

[MelisJoy]

I have NEVER seen someone deliver this information in this way, you are phenomenal. It's like you're an evangelist of the relationship gospel 🤣 not even reading it or hesitation. I have studied psych, sociology & mental health as well as interpersonal relationships for years..I am 10 classes away from a Bachelor's in psych & couldn't spit all this out at once like you did. You are singlehandedly one of the best gifts on YouTube & saving love all over the world ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for your hard work & big heart

[ZP]

Facts and laughs in equal measure😂 Every engaged couple needs to see this! (Heck married ones too)

[lightnindawn]

You may not be a counselor or a coach but good on you because you blow them all out of the water. I've been watching videos done by professionals on here for a year & a half trying to save my relationship, by myself, and I cannot believe your videos are just now showing up on my feed. Ive only seen 2 so far but I am damn impressed!