5 Signs Your Affair Turned Into Love

My name is Stacey Chenevert and I am an infidelity recovery coach. My mission is to equip people with the tools needed to promote healing, growth, and complete transformation after infidelity, through nonjudgemental, authentic coaching. So you can heal from the past, live in the present, and become the woman you want to be without fear of the future.

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[AJ-mlkc]

God will never send you someone’s husband or wife. A home is not built on another persons tears

[northshorelight]

This person is on my mind all the time and I think it's an unhealthy attachment that I want to shake. I also see so many red flags and know that we won't work out. He has a lot of character flaws. Yet, why do I feel so obsessed about him? I need to get rid of it.

[melodykubiak]

Hi Stacey~ When you have a minute, could you please explain the difference between reminders and triggers? Thanks so much and Happy New Year!

[benscott]

Hi Stacy. You have my intrigue in this video. I was in love. It’s been 10months without. I stay busy now. Work. Self work. I’m currently searching for what happy looks like in my future. I’m emotionally disconnected from life.

[ratmistress]

Affairs are sinful relationships built on lies. How can love come from that?

[robertgonzales]

The truth is they can’t give empathy in the Fog state. It’s the core wound that always existed. It almost never about the betrayed. The betrayed person has issues too. It’s important that both walk a journey of reflection and growth. The betrayed many times is the main catalyst for healing.

[jennifer]

Love is a choice. You choose to love everyday whether you feel it or not.

[dougie]

Aren't women just lovely. They have no empathy for their husbands.
They never ever take any responsibility or accountability.
There gaslighting is astonishing.

[danolesk]

you should make a video for the "other guy" the one she's cheating with, cause now I'm full blown in love we have been sneaking around for almost 7 years behind her husband's back and Im to the point where I want her ask her to leave him and come be with the man she claims makes her the happiest she's ever damn it why are you still with I promised myself I would never ask her to and look desperate so here I sit every day in my own head going crazy over cant even date other women if I wanted to because I'm so stuck on her!

[yesfreak]

The following are a few thoughts from listening to your video. (Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable… These are all conversations adults need to have.)

Feelings of indifference= self sabotage/disconnected/shut down

Devaluing partner (villain) to over value (hero) the next partner

The issue starts with mother/father… But will manifest in adulthood (12/16/24/33/45/52)…..

Enemy (in-side-of-me)= our enemies will be us/or within our close circle

Love is blind =often we are delusional (for those on the outside, things may be black and white, but when you have your love glasses on, you lose all logic)

Circle of friends (always inventory your friends/your coworkers/your family members) most those of the people who support you in your affair activities/or the people who help you navigate away from any dangerous land mines

Media (social/commercials/tv shows/blogs…. Remember garbage in garbage out )

[carlarogers]

I have a friend who was in an emotional abusive marriage and having an affair help her cope with the emotional abuse and eventually boost her self confidence back up. I’m usually the friend speaks against affairs but in her case I must say that I understand. I’m just glad to see her happy again I guess 😅 Do you think that has the same outcome of all affairs?

[timcomstock]

Your husband in order too get his confidence back. Should do the same. And maybe he'll pick you

[timcomstock]

Sorry but your affair partner Stacey was just in it for the nookie 😢

[northshorelight]

I was already on my way to divorce my husband. The affair partner definitely helped me feel more motivated to divorce, even though I was having a lot of doubts about it. My husband and I have always got along and I wish things didn't turn this way. I would choose my husband over the affair partner but my heart is having a hard time doing that right now.

[ShaunyP]

The more I watch your videos the more I know how utterly hopeless it was to save my marriage as a betrayed spouse. It’s funny, because in many ways it really doesn’t matter what a husband does when his wife chooses to deny him intimacy and give it to someone else. That’s what I’ve learned over and over again. A woman can completely disconnect and trap her husband in limbo for years and feel no guilt whatsoever, because the only thing she really honors is her commitment to the other man. She might feel shame when she’s at home around her husband, but she falsely attributes that as proof of her unhappiness. Of course the shame is alleviated when she’s around the AP because he is complicit. It’s really a sick cycle like a snake eating it’s own tail. Meanwhile the betrayed spouse is deprived of emotional oxygen and drained of all happiness, while these two cavort and carry on with each other. Ultimately the real cost then gets dumped on us.

Maybe the women you work with feel bad, but my guess is they don’t. It’s pure selfishness and abuse of the highest order. I realize none of this makes a difference, but you have no idea how much it hurts to be on the other side. To try like hell to save your marriage and realize you were lied to and deceived to protect some guy who couldn’t even be loyal to his own wife. I can’t ever get back those years or those memories that are now polluted with the stink of betrayal. I hold no hate in my heart for her or anyone else caught in one. But all of you need to think real hard before you assault your husband with words that can never be taken back. Leave. Apologize. Don’t kick his heart in as you walk out the door.

[HarryAcorns]

If im to the point where i get physically ill when i cant see or be with my emotional affair partner, will it ever just settle into friendship? Im going through counseling with my husband. Mainly for problems i feel hes caused. I hope that the counselor will agree and prescribe medication for him. And if that works i can fall back in love with him. And just be friends, and my love will fade with my AP. I guess if the medication and counseling doesn't work i can leave him then. I dont feel at this time to disclose my emotional affair. It will just hurt my husband to much. I think its best to just not say anything. What should i do? Basically, i want to hold on to my AP while going through counseling, and he'll either be a friend or i will leave with him. But i don't want to lose my children or house. Maybe if counseling doesn't work ill just keep my emotional affair going un noticed. I think what I'm going to do is act like counseling is working while I'm at home. But go out with my ap when I can and just bring that happiness home like counseling is working. That way I can have everything.