How Men Fall In Love

Wondering how men fall in love? It’s different than you may think. It turns out that what makes men fall in love, the stages they go through, and how they show their love can be quite a bit different when compared to women. Stick around and I’ll tell you how.

Hi, I’m Amy North, dating expert and author of The Devotion System, a foolproof guide to meeting, dating, and settling down with the guy of your dreams. I’ve dedicated my career to helping women get the guy so I know a thing or two about falling in love.

First, I just wanted to say that men and women, at the end of the day, aren’t all that different, deep down. We all want to love and be loved. We care about the people around us. And we all are just doing our best.

But there are some key differences between how men and women feel, experience and express love. Let’s get into it.

1. Men fall in love with their eyes first.

The first thing a guy notices about a woman is how she looks. It’s also the second, third, and fourth thing. You may say men are shallow, but the truth is it’s just that men are much more visually driven than women.

A 2004 study from the Center for Behavioral Neuroscience found that male and female brains respond differently to stimuli. It’s pretty technical but basically, the emotion control center of the brain, the amygdala, showed significantly higher levels of activation in males viewing sexual visual stimuli than in females viewing the same images. This means that men are more emotionally stimulated by what they’re seeing. So it’s not that men are shallow as much as their sight has a greater impact on their emotions than it does for women.

Whereas women can be attracted to someone purely for their mind, their sense of humour, or other factors, men need that visual element first and foremost to feel attraction. And without attraction, there can be no love.

2. For men, respect builds slowly

Men can date, sleep with, and even get into a relationship with women who they don’t respect. This is something that many women don’t understand as we’re usually not attracted to someone who we don’t respect.

This may be a cynical way to look at men but it’s quite often the case that they don’t respect you as a default. But men will never fall for a woman unless they can come to respect her. With that in mind, show him that you’re someone with character. That you stick to your word. And don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and your feelings. While many women try to be agreeable at all costs, for fear of scaring guys away, it’s actually better to lean in the opposite direction. This is because men can tell when you’re keeping your feelings to yourself and that lack of emotional maturity and communication will make it difficult for him to respect you.

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[pinksalamanders]

Oof. Who has time to deal with all this? Just get a cat.

[Douglas]

This is a really really good video. For me, number 4 is criminally underrated in why men fall out of love in today’s society

[TheAttractionTriggers]

*If you love them in the morning with their eyes full of crust; if you love them at night with their hair full of rollers, chances are, you’re in love.*

[mr.bridges]

Amy, your knowledge of men is amazing!

[carolynbowman]

Incredibly helpful. They really are from Mars aren’t they!!!

[jenaya_laila]

Sad you have to play all these games and can't just be "normal" and say:" hey, I like you"! This whole game just sux!!!!

[loriehamilton]

Amy great videos. Can you make one about how to date in the covid world. Can’t exactly meet people like we used to.

[charlesonikosi]

She is the BOSS can't look her in the beautiful charming eyes. Men are not conditioned td want to sleep with every woman they meet.Very dangerous and bad habit. Easy to fall in love in a meaningful relationship in this hectic lifestyle of TECH BUSY SAVVY

[Alex-bluh]

Playing hard to get works. But I hate it. I mean it worked on me and its just as you described. You ask yourself if she has other options and if she has or you just think she has, it creates some kind of urgency.

[charlesonikosi]

Is it the Wedlock approach to keeping him or telling him how you feel in simple terms. Amy made a comment on psychology, keep it out of your relationship, because when he finds out, it might be too late to express your desired feelings for him instead of sharing simple little things that build relationships into faithful exchange of love. It sounds like you have been hurt, and it would be sad to hangon to the negative feelings of wasting all your dearest treasures of LOVE on him. Life teaches us to look at disappointing thing in our life as charitable occurences and look on the brighter side of life. Keep it simple Amy, understand that psyche is a game not accommodating a gesture of affection. Keep it strong on green climate change.

[theindiescientologypodcast]

men fall in love with their eyes first, yeh and woman totally encourage and create this by doing themselves up so much with hair dyes, makeup, fancy clothes and wearing short skirts

[smitapunjabi]

You have a ‘ om ‘ symbol behind ! How ? What’s the Hindu connect ? ( m from India )

[theindiescientologypodcast]

this chic literally sounds like chat gtp with her polite and professional anwers yet everything she says needs to be taken with a grain of salt like chat gtp

[parbattiesingh]

Hi Ms North Indi Singh Here #3 is a great point I'm single right now and not wiling to go for another relationship as yet

[lucyfunnell]

Thank you so much for your video it really help me out I have the perfect relationship thanks again. Lucy

[rociohernandez]

What do you do if your ex after not communicating for two months appears and asks you if you have a boyfriend? Then he disappears and five days later he starts se texting you …. Remembering and like wanting those things now and then he disappears again what do you think he wants and how should I answer him?

[yecyec]

2:43 ME WHEN I FART AND WANT TO MAKE SURE NO ONE KNOWS.

[Princess]

He said i have to work hard to get his physical intimacy. What does that mean?

[tamrinimelda]

Klo aku sih yang penting cwenya menerima aku apa adanya #SALAMtamringantenk

[arwa]

Like it, How can I get in touch with you for relationship advice.