How to Talk to Your Dad: Turning Conflict into Conversation | Madeline Poultridge | TEDxOlympia

Using skills from mediation in everyday arguments and interactions.

Madeline is entering her senior year at Avanti High School in Olympia, WA. She began her work in conflict resolution at age 15 with the Dispute Resolution Center of Thurston County. She is thrilled to share ideas and stories with the community.

[hewamd]

I was having a panic attack due to everything that’s going on at home, your calming voice eased me into a more comfortable spot. Thank you:)

[spawner]

Ok, what about when the other person speaking won't hear you, no matter what you say to them, and get angry if you prove them wrong?

[milenamartins]

What is your greatest concern?
What do you most want to see happen?
What do you most want the other person to understand?

[UnwantedCommentary]

Imagine having parents who would even let you bring things up

[TK-ncou]

As a dad just listen as much as possible. Correct when NECESSARY

[naomiminogue]

My dad is 89, hard of hearing, getting physically fragile but has a sharp mind and tongue. He is incredibly opinionated, stubborn and negative. It is so hard to have a conversation with him. He is a catastrophizer. Everything is going to end horribly. I will try these three golden questions. Thank you.

[josepablorodriguezfiscal]

Just to remind anyone reading this, must of the times we're more afraid of what might happen instead of what will actually happen, you will never know the outcome until the thing you're afraid happens.

[selamsimon]

I tried to be a mediator and ended up searching " what can you do if you don't want to end up like your dad or mom" Pray for me thank you :)

[tunamayo]

the way theres a whole ted talk on talking to dads

[singularity]

I am glad I saw this! My dad is currently out of the house and we have a conflict going on at the moment

[rod]

I absolutely love her voice and the way she enunciates

[cck]

How I wish this could work on Asian parents...but great techniques though :)

[louiithecat]

with some parents u can have as many golden question as u want, if they don‘t understand the question or just ignore it there is no sense.

[ojch]

im about to be 16 and i wanna talk to my dad but i ghosted him after a while and i feel really bad.. i just dont know or have the courage to start a conversation again with him and thats like the hardest part for me. only idea i have right now is when i get a new number or phone i would text him but its hard for me right now. after a while he started contacting my mom asking why im not texting him back and i said i didnt wanna talk to him anymore but now i regret saying that because me and him had a really close relationship .

[ahmed]

We should talk more about coming to solutions, easing problems in our realtions and ending the meaningless fights because they happen and people are not perfect and problems will never end but so our effort to solve them with those we love.

[queenanacaona]

Oh no, it's my dad, no one else

[Wholefitwellnessforlife]

This is very well done. I am impressed.

[adrianaflowers]

Super helpful. My dad was being very difficult today

[mysacredworld]

this was absolutely amazing. the best TEDTalk i've seen thus far!!!

[MegaDin]

Thank you very much!!! Just the three minutes of the vid, it already struck right to me!