Why Don't I Belong Anywhere? (The Curse of Non-Belonging)

Why You Don't Fit In & What To Do About It:

[DAClub-ufbr]

I interact with plenty of people. I don't ever connect with them.

[zebraCAkes]

Growing up as a black girl in the hood who listened to Ashlee Simpson and good Charlotte back in the 00s definitely helped me feeling alone, isolated and sad.

All the kids, even my adult family would mock my voice, my clothes. I once asked my mom if I could go to an evanescence concert. Her response? "Why not just paint your face white?"

So, today I turn 33. I have no friends. throughout my 20s I would attempt to enter Friend groups, but those were full of toxicity so...today I'm alone.
And lonely.
But I guess I feel safer alone. No one to make fun of me, call my interests stupid, talk badly about me behind my back. Too much

[roxanniemiller]

The more I grow/age I don’t feel like I belong anywhere in this world, I just feel out of it and alone. There is an emptiness within me.

[anentpsguidetothegalaxy]

I am ostracized because I am honest and I am my authentic self. The rest of the world seems to be in favor of a superficial existence that I don't subscribe to. Can you explain that

[CupcakeMcGregor]

Whenever I put myself out there I feel worse. It's too exhausting. I'm retracting the older I get.

[ozarkrefugee]

What I have noticed about those who feel like they do not belong anywhere is that they are the most intelligent and see through societies bullshit instantaneously. They also have an impossible time trying to force themselves to be as hopelessly stupid as everyone else.

[teestjulian]

I don't want to be like everyone else.
They all seem fake and things they are concerned about are dumb.
In 6th grade I was bullied by my entire class, the entire year.
I had a lot of "frirnds" in highschool, but found out recently that I was not liked by others and my "friends ' were invited to parties and I wasn't. Others didn't want me there. And I never knew until my 50s.
I have nobody that cares about me.
I'm disabled now, but want to disappear.
I was physically assaulted by my sister and her son 1.5 yrs ago and physically hurt badly and psychologically. And ended up in the hospital for 2 months and lost 60 lbs in less than 2 months because I couldn't believe they did that to me, for no good reason. I was so sick, I could hardly walk, sit or stand for over a year. I already had pre-existing conditions for the in my back from scoliosis. Rods were broken.
I'm in so much pain I can't take care of myself properly.

[faina_yevheniia]

I think that I just don't know how to belong, whilst other people do. I meet people, who seem to be so similar to me, but something just doesn't work. We may have very bright start of friendship, but it always fades

[maggiepatti]

First thing I've ever heard that resonates with me so deeply. I'm so lost and alone.

[sethflix]

I just discovered I have Asperger's syndrome, yet am so high functioning that I appear to be like everyone else. This explains why I don't feel I belong.

[veronicalagor]

Honestly, I haven’t even been able to find a therapist who can attune to me/mirror me. When not even the “professionals” can understand me….it’s a pretty hopeless place to be.

This video has been the only one I’ve found so far that seems to accurately capture the experience

[af]

This video was so well thought out and intricate, I feel seen for once.
I think the worst part in all of this is thinking that you will eventually “grow out out of those feelings/grow up” when the truth is not much changes. I think everyone needs reform. Seems like the only time people have some compassion or understanding is when something unfortunate happens.

[lilycat]

Yep, I have chronic non belonging, and it sucks.

[LAYDEEPINAYY]

So relatable. I’m 28, and have kept trying and trying to literally going to social events socializing with others, dm-ing people I thought were relatable as I’m social media, but still no reciprocation of wanting to be my friend. Always getting my messages ignored (literally I kid you not) when I try to ask people to hang out with a plan, people never replying back to my messages saying “I suck at texting I’m so busy” but they can make time for all their other friends, or to travel…. It sucks so bad, I will keep trying to somehow find my people.

[christopherleubner]

Did not help by having my family keep saying why cant you be normal. Over and over again, without explaining normal.😢

[michellewilliams]

It's weird. I can walk into a room smiling and matter what I do. Don't even have to say anything. The mood shifts. I get glared at, scoffed at or talked about. Many times people even move away. So disheartening. I'm actually nice, open and funny. I'm black woman adopted at 4 yo by a really nice and well meaning Caucasian family. They were very loving, but had no interest in helping me deal with being different. Sometimes I was the elephant in the room.Thanks for the video it explains a lot, and it helps to know this is a thing. It's hard to describe so people just call me paranoid.

[ZeldasMask]

I’ve never fit in with other girls and I try so hard to be nice, polite and respectful :(

[derekdowney]

As an adoptee, this is a prevailing theme in my life. I struggle with not feeling like I belong anywhere, no matter how much I tell myself that I belong. Thanks for sharing this insight.

[CorNigrum]

After more than forty years of neither conforming nor non-conforming, I find myself in a city where I don't know anybody, and, like many others here point out, very tired. I think some might not be entirely neurotypical, making life just that bit more of a struggle with little hope of a solution or some peace. We're sort of doomed to live neither in society nor completely out of it, because of basic human needs and social requirements.

[rohitsonone]

I have always felt like an outsider wherever I go. Some of it could be due to external situations. But mostly I feel it's my own doing and how I react and deal with situations or how I isolate myself mostly.