Feel Like You Don't Belong

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How do you feel when you take part in a group? For people with CPTSD, it's easy to feel like you don't belong. Take my quiz listing common signs that trauma from childhood has affected your ability to connect with others.

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[yourghost]

I always feel like the odd one in our group, even when there’s four of us. Like everyone is closer except with me.

[ramblinggypsy]

While I do have a need to belong I have an even stronger need to be authentic and to think for myself

[nancydee]

That’s because of our perception and trauma we think they are more whole then us, but truth is were all broken
Gotta find the right people . There’s a lot of crowds that I have left and it was for good reason I don’t wanna hang out with a bunch of mothers who drink wine lol I’m a recovering alcoholic! You have to know yourself and then find your people

[janeyrevanescence]

I used to sing Boulevard of Broken Dreams by Green Day as a teenager because the chorus hammered home what I was feeling about being excluded and shunned:

Sometimes I wish someone out there will find me.
‘Till then, I walk alone.

[JBz]

I used to feel bad I didn’t have many friends, but I have a happy marriage so I consider myself fortunate. I had a couple friends at work but when I retired, one good friend moved & nobody else gave me a thought. I’m still friendly when I’m out in public ..I talk to people then. These days I’m not concerned with friends. My kids are grown but don’t live close so we see them infrequently..I still choose to be happy.

[judylandry]

I've been people-free for over 10 years.
Learning to be alone changes everything The biases disappear.

[marthawilson]

I understand, but in my case a lifetime of extreme experiences has left me with very little dialogue to share that won’t spook people. My daughter suggested keeping a lid on it and just pretend to be normal. But if I’m not being myself what’s the point, they will only know the fake self.

[MaynardsSpaceship]

I'm ok being on my own. I don't relate to a lot of people, and that's ok. There are a lot of parts of our society that are sick, and I'm ok with not being able to relate to that.

[pdelaprimm]

This can be common with the different forms of trauma: One does not “matriculate” with one’s peers, one’s generation, due to early trauma. One doesn’t develop “formally”, past a certain age, in some instances.

Laurence Heller, in one of his developmental trauma books, refers to trauma as often “exiling” people.

[LovinDebsFits]

“feeling excluded” that is how I always feel and I know that the problem is me. Not the others.

[prussian]

Even at the very beginning of this it broke my heart

[nycjanedoe]

That tracks.
If there's one thing I've been, it's strong.
And I feel this to the very core of me.

[triplejmom]

This is me 😢 working on changing it. Trying to find healthy people & not pull away from them as well as learning to spot unsafe people & staying away from them. As well as how to stop being a chameleon & how to be comfortable being myself. I always feel like a square peg trying to fit into a round hole. 😢

[chrisadimitriadou]

I think that for ppl with CPTSD, the feeling of belonging has to serve a purpose or a common goal with others, that would be more important at the time than our attachment issues.

[stanjones]

I am so glad I found your channel and will be buying your book! I'm working on healing my Type 2 Diabetes and also my CPTSD. Thank you!!!

[randomvielleuse]

My very earliest memories of my mom and baby sister are from the only time I felt I was in the right place. After the age of five or so that went away and has never returned. I’m in a very successful relationship with my best friend, work partner and husband but… I still don’t belong anywhere. This is the best I’ve ever felt, I’ve done therapy with brilliant and caring people all my life and done a ton of work on my own… Yet this has never changed.

[jenergy]

Im completely unlikeable. I give up. I try my best to not inflict myself on others anymore.

[Daffodilmc]

I gave up on “belonging” I never belonged anywhere. And the fact that I accepted that gave me a sense of peace with myself. I expect nothing.

[carlasoledad]

I like my job but I cannot relate to anybody so I’m looking into early retirement. I cannot fix my trauma response😢

[FairyFoxDreams]

I have autism and CPTSD . I've never not been the outcast, and if people are "trying to make me feel included " 9/10 times, it's because someone is trying to use/abuse me, especially women. I made peace with forever being alone. Its better to be fine with your own company than be in a group that keeps ypu around to put you down.