How I reinvented my relationships

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3:08 Chatting about marriage
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Marriage is a journey of growth, transformation, and deep connection. When my husband and I first got married, life felt magical and full of possibility, but over the years, as careers, family, and responsibilities piled on, we faced challenges that tested our relationship. Moving to a new city, seeking therapy, and doing the personal work of self-discovery helped us realize that the key to a strong marriage is not about compromise but about negotiation and self-awareness. A relationship thrives when both people take full responsibility for their own happiness rather than expecting a partner to fill the gaps. Through years of learning, evolving, and sometimes struggling, we found that every stage of marriage is like a new marriage if you continue to grow together.

In this video, I reflect on the lessons we have learned and how deep personal work has transformed our relationship into something more fulfilling than ever. Relationships are not about fixing each other or filling emotional voids but about supporting each other's growth while staying true to ourselves. There is no secret formula, only the commitment to self-awareness, open communication, and the willingness to evolve. Whether you are in a long-term partnership or on a personal journey, I hope this conversation sparks reflection and inspires you to create the kind of connection that feels truly authentic and lasting.

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[amyspeers]

This June will be our 33rd anniversary. When we got married, I thought we would have a simple life. He was going to be a professor and I’d be the nurse in the university clinic. That never happened. I was a nurse and he got into IT. We had difficulty at times and I had a wonderful therapist. She told me a marriage is made of peaks and valleys and both people contribute to how high the peaks go and how low the valleys go. We now live in a small village in SW France and I love my life. I’ve had health issues for the past two years and I am so grateful for the love and support I have gotten from my husband. I did have a wonderful example of marriage from my parents. They were married for 60 years.

[tootietatum]

OMG, I love that 3 minute intro. Very nice way to set the tone.

[consueloabennett]

You had a lot of wonderful advice. Bringing GOD into our marriage profoundly changed our marriage - the Best Therapist!!!!

[sallyscrive]

Hi Cecilia. I got married in my 40s. We have no children and we are focused on our relationship, our common goals and trying to do something meaningful with our lives.
I believe in therapy, I'm currently going to a therapist to learn to manage my anger and depression. Everything you say resonate with me and with my experience, because even if I'm a young wife, I'm an "old" girl, I feel like I never properly heal from hurts I suffered when I was a child and later in my 20s and 30s. My husband is really a wonderful man and he's helping me a lot, but I go to therapy to avoid clinking on him and "vomiting" all my worries and rage on him. You're right, we have to take care of our own poop.
Thank you for your video 💛

[queens]

What you have said is so true and definitely challenging at times. My husband and I are married 46 years and there have been many peaks and valleys and some really difficult times. You are so right about the phases that a marriage will go through and that the person you were in your younger years is not the same as when you are say, 70 like me. The way you love each may change from that lust phase your in as a newlywed and that's perfectly normal. We all evolve as we get older and hopefully conflict can be resolved if we come from a place of love when we express what we need from each other. Don't think that the grass is greener elsewhere because it's not and you can end up just changing one set of problems for another.

[missglenellen]

Learning the language of your feelings. That might be the „secret“. In our society, especially with „regular“ school we are trained to unlearn, even to bury our feelings, our whole inner world. But we are free to re-discover our inner realms. And appreciate the good and transform what we don’t like. Thank you for this beautiful talk (I love your stunningly beautiful dark eyes, keep staring at them!)

[kathyesargent]

42 years here and we are really happy and have no conflicts really unbelievable ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[louiseperry]

You are such an inspirational, wise woman Cecilia.
We’re 46 years tomorrow and I am so thankful I met the right person when I was 19!
Love from NZ. ❤

[regineheine]

Thank you for bringing up this topic.It’s important to empower oneself not to outsmart your partner or to prevent her or him from outsmarting you, it’s about awareness, about being patient with oneself and the other one in the sense each one is able to look at oneself without prejudice but honesty. Some learn in their childhood they are wrong somehow because they are not a copy of each parent. This makes you feel ashamed, wrong and guilty.A shamed and guilty person is always the underdog, feels unpleasant to both. There is no one “ to fix” and the other one is obliged to fix you. You can reach out for the helping hand or the listening mind of your partner. There are ups and downs to each one of a couple. Dominance one over the other isn’t love but making the dominant one greater than he/ she really is and vice versa and causes even more friction.
I used to tell my former husband I don’t want you to come up with a solution instead let me talk about the issue and you listen, I’ll find a solution. You can give your partner a different angle to see things.

[rowandowland]

I'm one of 10 kids from a large Italian family, 7 boys, 3 girls. Moving from Australia to Italy in my 60s has been a way for me to be me. What I didn't anticipate was the way some of my siblings would still want to control our relationship and define my life and me as a person from the other side of the world. I've come to think that's what defines them....Listening to you comments made me wonder if you'd experienced something similar. Maria

[marcicaporizzo]

WOW…..I can’t begin to say how TRUE your words are!!! What a beautiful and deep conversation that was and if we all learn nothing else from it be it that we are only ever responsible for ourselves and our actions…what others do or say about our actions is their responsibility not ours. We are all imperfect and just walking each other home. I can see from all your chosen words and actions that the depth of your commitment to yourself and others is generous and passionate for all involved….what better way to approach life than that.

There is always room for improvement in our individual lives and our paths do change as we progress on our individual journeys….we get one chance to live here on earth school but so many people are traveling at such a great speed and miss the opportunity to engage with life and others. I believe that the universe puts lessons, people, and experiences in our paths to help us become truly the entities that we were created to be if only we embrace that it is our individual choices that make all the difference in what our experiences will ultimately be.

I just love your home and your choice to try a new path and to be willing to embrace all that comes with that. Your vlogs are wonderful and bring to me such wonderful peace and entertainment. My Dad who lived to be one hundred and two passing in my arms a year ago was an incredible man married to his beloved of seventy one years and was still living in the home he built for his family seventy six years ago. I spent the last four and a half years caring for him as a companion more than anything and during that time I got to know the Dad that I couldn’t because of my mothers emotional needs and he got to know his daughter. He was able to write the last nine years of the chapters to the book of his life and I got the blessings of learning what an incredible person he was. We ever in all the years of being his children an ugly word exchanged between them…not because we didn’t hear but because of the love and tolerance of each other’s differences and the ability to understand that they were individually different but joined thru an understanding that love meant holding their own selves responsible for their individual happiness which meant all the difference. I miss him terribly as he will be gone one year on February twenty fifth…just days away….i will celebrate his amazing life and all that he taught me thru his actions. Truly he was a friend to all and understood that life is for living the best we can and forgiving others is a choice well considered if you do want to be happy. Enough now….

Thanks for your willingness to share as you do and may your life be all that you dream of….love your Yorkie…I have had Yorkies for over fifty four years but now I’m enjoying a rescue Silky and two new Havanese girls…animals can teach us so much about life and living!!

[nickywilks]

What a very tranquil video. I just adore your home.

[sandrapfauenglund]

Loved this episode. I’ve been married 35 years. There are good times, better times and worse times. I so agree with you, however, that the personal work on myself, through therapy and spirituality, etc., is the “secret sauce”.

[AnnaMunzela]

I love how your little dog pops its head up every once in awhile ❤️ 💗

[Frenchcountryfriends]

A beautiful intro C, I wish you both another 35 years of continued support and acceptance. ❤

[daisyrosario]

You are so fortunate to be able to have that special kind of empathy
and yes
It's a 100% thing
to care enough to be there with the person you want to spend time with...

[zz]

Love the intro and ur outfit. You look Amazing btw. Great advice

[catherinesand-soll]

I agree with the comment that the intro segment sets a perfect ambiance to the video. It was exquisitely curated and provided an updated view of some of the beautiful spaces in your home. I am older and was blessed to have a wonderful marriage for almost 40 years before my husband passed. I resonated with many of the insights and perspectives you shared regarding how marriage evolves over time and the importance of maintaining and nurturing your self while building a cooperative relationship that embraces the joy and the challenges.

[valerieayla]

Thank you, love the kitchen, love the format of video. Honestly this is a sensitive subject for me —marriage, and so many women can be very insensitive and almost arrogant about this topic and it can be sooo painful to engage with those energies. But you are so lovely and loving AND gentle that it wasn’t triggering at all. Thank you. ❤🙏

[marieb]

Awesome doggy featuring ! 2 failed relationships made me stop and face myself, do the work to understand who I am and what are my responsabilities when I am interacting with people I love or work with.We have the tools, it is not easy but that is such a gift. I believe in all that you shared with us today, thank you !