3 Secrets The Narcissist Doesn't Want You To Know

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Managing a narcissist is much easier when you understand what you're dealing with, and these three secrets the narcissist doesn't want you to know provide insight that can help you beat a narcissist at their own game.
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*In this video, I share the tips, techniques and insights that have worked for me in my own journey of healing after narcissistic abuse along with expert tips and tools I've learned through years of coaching narcissistic abuse survivors. I am not a therapist and this video is not meant to provide therapy of any form. #narcissist #covertnarcissist

[margomiller]

I recently ended a 3 year relationship with a narcissist and I can't express how much these videos have helped me to finally maintain no contact. He managed to make me feel like I was going absolutely crazy and I have had peace since not speaking to him any longer.

[janicebing]

It really isn’t about winning or losing, its about protecting yourself from toxicity at the end of the day. True words.

[tiedyebritt]

So many times I will find myself rolling my eyes when I hear speakers say "just walk away" or "remove these people from your life" because it's not always possible. So hearing some advice for when you are stuck with a narcissist is so refreshing!

[regalchange]

1. It’s not about you (making it seem like you have to defend yourself but it’s really about them). Unable to sufficiently regulate emotions and self esteem. They use you to make themselves feel better. Don’t take it personally (thank God for that)
2. Every interaction is a transaction - they will be nice so they can make the transaction - don’t make yourself miserable to make them happy
3. Their games are optional and you can change the rules of the game of “I win” with the understanding that your relationship with them is transactional and avoid believing you exist to make them feel better

Great secrets, and you look lovely as always. Thank you! 🙏🏼

[vampireslayer]

4) They are cowards when isolated.

Yes, change the rules.

[Michael_RareZebra]

Once your eyes are opened to it there's no going back....Looking at it like a "transaction" is perfect description.

[kitsmith]

Narcissists are arrogant & pushy, despite the having nothing to offer emotionally or financially they expect gratitude & compliance

[severly]

"You you you you feel like you're being attacked but just like everything about the the narcissist its all about them. ITS NOT ABOUT YOU" omg so simple and obvious but true i cant believe i didn't realize this.

[noraromero]

I am currently dealing with a Narc that will not leave me alone. I try to use these videos for tools on dealing with the narc but from time to time I fall in his trap. Especially in those "I win" games. I just have to continue to work on myself and disengage with the narc

[Carol-wjgw]

To me they are like two people, they can be so charming and even funny around friends and others, but to those at home, and close, they can be brutal, not fair, name callers, just mean.

[monmonz]

So tricky and exhausting dealing with these types of calculated, manipulative, callous, and abusive cruel individuals. I left 'him' nearly one year ago, after nearly a two year relationship which was not a true one in the true sense and how I've since enlightened myself of what should be and feel like, no contact for nearly coming up one year, left him just before Christmas. He kept threatening me to leave until I finally took him up on his offer.

My heart goes out to people who are stuck with these individuals either by choice or having very little alternatives and have merged with them via children.. I hope those suffering and enduring these nonsensical, immature, self absorbed, ridiculous, sad, attention seeking suckers, braggadocious fools see the light and find their way. So much help and support 'out there'.

Thank you Christina and always grateful for your words.

Monica Corrotea.

[sparkabundancespirituality]

Never put anyone else above yourself, because only God deserves to be above you.
If you place a human being above yourself, you will eventually end up getting hurt and dissatisfied with yourself.
Your relationships keep failing and failing because the universe, God or whatever higher power you believe in want you to learn this lesson.
Love, peace and joy to you❤️

[moniquemonique]

I was dating a narc for 3 yrs ..in a long distance romance. I saw the warning signs and flags but ignored them as we do when we want to see the best part of a person. During that time he would take any issue that I would discuss with him about how he made me feel in whatever situation that made me upset...and turn it around to make himself the victim...even when it didn’t fit at all lol. He never apologized for the action..it would turn into an argument... not speaking for a few hrs...and then him contacting me to talk regular as if nothing happened. I walked away a few times but always came back bc I missed his “good” side. His “flag” for me was that I always walked away easily. My reason was ...if I wasn’t getting loved correctly ..why stay! Recently I walked for good...when he said something personal that really hurt my feelings...and seem to give 0 cares how I felt....and didn’t seem to get why I was upset and hurt...even after me telling him..and later texting him why...all he said was that I was gaslighting HIM! Smh lol. That was my cue to exit stage left and run far and fast and never look back!

[cymbolichuman]

For us living with them and sticking around, we have to have that information
to protect ourselves and move the situations to our favor. They can abuse you,
and yet, you have to come up with a way to redirect their evil actions towards you.
In the "Game of Life" there are no winners even though the Narcissists think they are.

[danield.]

wow what a great video that every single person who ever met a narcissist should watch, this is 100% true. thank you so much.

[coudgeb]

Thank you for this video. You have no idea how much you just helped me
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[darlenerego]

I tried so hard to make him happy! You've spoken about this! Thank you very much!

[sue]

I have watched a lot of videos on narcissistic behavior and you have the clearest, and most concise explanations! I ❤ you! Thanks so much! You are so helpful! You stay on topic and don't drag it out until I am confused...which BTW is easy to do when I've watched 10 videos in a week. Thank you! 😊

[MrTw]

Another great video! I wish I saw this video months ago!

[will_Iam]

I figured these things out the hard way over the last couple of years and twice in the last 3 months or so I have seen something that just blows my mind. My vulnerable/covert narcissist has gone into a complete emotional breakdown, accusing me of not caring about her, wondering where she stand with me, accusing me of not helping her, all with a major crying jag. Both times I have gray rocked and said nothing and did not react in any way. Stayed in the same room, listened and looked at her patiently, like watch a toddler having a tantrum, and lo and behold twenty minutes later she was acting normal and it was like what just took place, never happened. In years past she used this technique to get attention and I didn't know what was going on, felt guilty, tried to comfort her, apologized, did whatever I could to atone for whatever it was I did but couldn't figure out. Now that I am wise to what is going on I don't let it affect me and as you said, I know it's not me that cannot emotionally self regulate. Sad really how they use us or try to (in my case).