8 Phrases To Prevent Him From Pulling Away

Tired of finally letting your guard down only to have your man pull away? How can you stop him from putting up walls?

Hi, I’m love coach Amy North. I’ve been working to understand what makes men pull away for years and I’ve finally figured out what is behind this primal drive.

Men pull away for several reasons. They feel pressured, they’re testing the waters, or they’re simply unsure how else to relate to women. But not anymore. I’ve created 8 simple phrases that will make any man think of you differently. If you follow my advice he’ll go from ice cold to red hot in seconds.

Phrase 1...Let’s take things slow

Many men have one foot out the door early on in a relationship. They’re trying to avoid getting into a serious relationship before they’re ready. And they also want to avoid getting too attached. That’s one of the reasons relationships fall into this push-pull cycle. One way to keep things on an even keel is to tell him that you actually want to take things slow. This doesn’t necessarily mean waiting to have sex or only seeing him once a month. It basically means that you want to get to know him before you rush into anything. This is something that men love to hear. They’re used to women who are always pushing to get serious right away. If you offer to take things slow, it'll be a refreshing change of pace for most men. Just remember that you’ll need to put your money where your mouth is. Don’t say this one if you’re planning on texting him ten times a day and seeing him every night.

Phrase 2...You know you can tell me anything

Part of a relationship is being one another’s confidante. This can only happen if you two can establish trust. Let him know that you’re not going to judge him based on what he tells you. He needs to know that you care about him so much that there’s nothing he could say that would change that. If you can make him feel that way then he’s going to want to be around you more and more.

Phrase 3...No problem

Often men will pull away to pick a fight and then that gives them the excuse to distance themselves even more. This is all happening on a subconscious level and it’s part of a man’s desire to keep women at a distance. You can prevent this from happening simply by not taking the bait. Even early on in the relationship you need to allow him his own space. Getting clingy is just going to scare him off. “No problem” tells him that you’re easygoing and that you’re not looking to start a fight. Use this if he has to cancel plans or if he’s busy.

Phrase 4...I think you’re great the way you are

This is something that often goes unsaid in relationships and I think that’s a shame. We all suffer from insecurity and the feeling that we’re not good enough. Let him know that he’s perfect just the way he is and that you wouldn’t change a thing. While he may blow off this compliment, deep down it will really warm his heart.

Phrase 5...What you’re thinking

Unfortunately this is one I can’t write for you because it depends on what’s actually going on inside your head. When I say you need to tell him what you’re thinking I don’t mean to keep him informed of your every thought. What I mean is you need to let him know how things are going from your perspective. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that early on in a relationship it’s easy to read silence as something negative. That’s why when you’re enjoying how things are going I want you to share that with him. And even if things aren’t working quite right, it’s important to have those conversations too. If you’re upset about something and keeping it inside, men can tell. It’s better to just put it out there so you can talk about it rather than stewing. Men love to face problems head on so it’s better to get it out in the open and move past it. Sometimes conflict is unavoidable and you need to show him that you’re capable of handling it together.

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In short!

1- let's take things slow
2- you know you can tell me anything
3- no problem
4- I think you're great the way you are
5- [what you're thinking]
6- I never doubted you
7- I am busy
8- what's your favourite...

[zothanpuipuii]

Who else is single but still watching 🤭🥴

[TheRelationshipDoctor]

Amy you are a true motivator. Your videos gave me the confidence to start my own channel. I am so glad I started this journey. Love from a small youtuber.

[GodHelpMe]

The most exhausting thing in a relationship is someone who avoids conflict at all costs.

I'm exhausted, my soul is raped, and I want to die.

[froxyanicotti]

What about 8 phrases to show your love for Amy over here?

[lucyfunnell]

Thank you so much for your video it's working for me I keep him at arm's-length and I trust him a lot and I'm in a happy relationship. Thanks again for the video. Lucy

[dashiajames]

Better than to take things slow than just dive into a relationship...!!

[indisingh]

No Problem Is My #1 Line To Him And Yes I'm Gonna Learn To Tell Him I'm Busy Too Thank You So Much Ms North

[angelicaelias]

Amy I know there's a video about how to deal with an ex but it's about the latest one. Can you make a video about ancient exes that come back into his life while you're "in a situation with him"? also can you make a video about that thing of "tasting waters"? I'm so sick I've been stuck in these phase with the few man I've dated in my life and I never happen to be the one... u.u
Btw I'm a fan, love the Devotion System

[alialameer]

Wow!!!! You are amazingly good. Truly you know well how we think! Please, stop exposing us 😅

[nikkiblack]

Amy, I'm curious about your thoughts on something. You know the phrase absence makes the heart grow fonder and our of sight out of mind. When does one shift to the other? I know this probably depends on the situation but wondering if you could generally explain the timeline psychology behind it or do a video on it. Can't wait to hear your thoughts. Keep being awesome

[juliapupo]

My crush is so impossible to understend, when he says nice things he says in a weird way, the first time he awnsered my Instagram story was when I cut my hair, and he said "looks good" so dry