Do Narcissists Have The Capacity For Insight?

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. For 40+ years he maintained a counseling practice in Dallas, conducting more than 65,000 therapy sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Since creating his YouTube channel, his videos have received more than 115 million views.

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[BaraSchmidt]

They are so preoccupied with spinning their lies, who to manipulate next and patching up their facades. It is hard to imagine cramming anything else into that busy schedule! Stay Healthy!

[carparthero]

narcissists for the most part actually know what they are doing, because they will wear many different faces to suit the situation at hand, the best way that benefits them.

the thing is, while they know what they are doing, they don't care about the impact their toxic behavior has on other people.

[Hatbox]

You'd need to do it on the sly because telling a narcissist they're wrong, or that they may need to ponder their actions, will be met with anger, criticism, paranoia, and ambivalence. I get stressed out just thinking about it.

[DinaStein]

Ooooohh, so that’s why they lose their mind when you say no or set boundaries. 😅

[davidhanley]

Wow, this hits home. I just spent 5 years trying to reason with someone who has no desire to reason about themselves or their situation.

[a.zavala]

They are too much trouble. Difficult & uncooperative makes them exhausting. I gave decades of leeway only to repeat the cycle of frustration they impose & crave for others. Get RID OF THE narcissist in your life. You won't regret it.

[yellowbird]

Like asking a hunter if he wants to give up his gun.

[leslieanne]

It's a real lifesaver to ask that question of oneself. You are a genius doc thanks for your wisdom

[jillmccarty]

WOW! HELP US JESUS TO HAVE WISDOM AND TO KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THESE INDIVIDUALS!

[celesteinman]

It's still exhausting all the same because you can never ever be yourself around one.

[caroleminke]

He once took a psych course so he could talk about Münchausen syndrome but had zero insight into his behavior. Another time he went to a therapist for ED counseling & she told him that he didn’t have much respect for women 🤦‍♀️ which caused a narcissistic injury that led to rage in a restaurant as well as on the drive home… In the end he wondered why his family wanted nothing to do with him 👩

[christinaackerman]

Love you Dr Carter and thank you so much for all the knowledge you gave all of us for strength hope and encouragement

[watchmeheal]

They feel entitled to harm those closest to them! That’s how they were raised and what they believe is right.

[jacquelinegrace]

Great reminder Dr. Carter!! We can be wise and kind in our reactions/responses… (as we execute the plan to leave.)
No sense in further damaging an already tortured soul. ❤ Thank you

[Anna-rtid]

I appreciate the valid lesson here. They usually aren't capable of genuine empathy (no matter what you explain to them). But they are capable of certain insights. Their sight (and insight) is through a lense in which the world view is they are the grand center of the universe. And you are not really as relevant especially to the degree you are not aligned with that. Anything you think, feel, say, do, or have outside of that lense or world view will seem wrong or irrelevant or non-existent to them. Their insights will reflect all of that.

[maryw]

Thank you for clarifying this on some narcissis trying to make allowances not easy if one is not well and the narcissist as usual needs all the support attention controller and be the Center
Of attention to be ttruthful it’s annoying as hell just not up to this kind of behavior at this time

[jkevinparker]

My covert narcissist ex is in graduate school to become a therapist. But I already waited 25 years for her to learn the skills of being a decent human to me and I’m done.

[anjenue]

Since the person who is very good at math or the arts can’t hurt me but my older brother who has caused a continuous course of immeasurable pain to our family due to his ‘beyond the pale’ narcissism and a severe level of lack of insight, I see a more apt comparison to a type of insect that if you encroach on its environment, and it lands on you, it must bite.

[lorid]

Such great encouragement. Talking to mom raises my blood pressure. I need to remember these wise words & respond as a caring adult. prayers for patience.

[Marc-byfd]

Narcissist use the silent treatment. They don't hear words because of that. They use intimidation and manipulation as a form of control.
God help them. T ❤