Do Narcissists Know They're Hurting You? The Truth Revealed

[davidhynd]

They know to switch it on when you're alone with them. They know to switch it off when there are witnesses. They know what they're doing. They just don't give a crap.

[MegaMoshi]

They know what they’re doing, because they are very selective of when they do it and to whom!

[vdl]

They wouldn't be so preoccupied with playing the victim and twisting the natrative if they didn't understand what is good or not.

[sevenseconds]

They know, because they're able to treat you right if they want to.

[JosephineZammit-vx]

Narc are the most wasted human being I have ever incountered

[Wesenskern]

Either way, it hurts you, and protecting yourself is key.

[dellahhilburn]

They know! They just have such huge egos and they will always justify their evilness. They will answer to God and all of the lies will be exposed and there will be justice then.

[TimErwin]

It doesn't matter, either way. It's everyone else who suffers for dealing with them. They need to be left alone whenever possible.

[chautran]

I'm sure they know what they are doing and take pleasure and pride to hurt someone while acting like angels to others. ❤🎉

[kellyis]

They definitely know because they don’t treat other’s the same

[JohnMartin-gguj]

They are victims of trauma who need to go find somewhere else to heal besides my house. No adult human is innocent, and they must bear their burdens just like I have to do with mine. I suffered trauma as a child too, but I'm no victim... I'm a victor.

[saturdayschild]

Even if they weren’t fully conscious of the effect of their behaviors, I’d never call them innocent victims. Something about the words innocent and narcissist don’t sit well with me. The truth is somewhere in between for many but not the sadists of the group. Most that I’ve encountered have an element of sadism to their behavior. That’s evil.

[suzywilliams]

The damage is still the damage whether they're doing it on purpose or not

[simjam]

They know they are doing it because you tell them over and over that they're hurting you. They just don't care. And they don't want you complaining about it either.

[Snibble]

My narcissist always brags she doesn't know jealousy. She's probably right about that.
She thinks she is better then everyone else and always on the moral high ground.

Someone told her once that she can't get along with people because they are jealous. She really hooked into that one.
It explains everything for her.

[landonmillett]

They wouldn’t lie if they didn’t know what they are doing. And they know they lie

[Xianne]

"Narcissists have a diminished capacity to self-reflect". Richard I love how respectfully and factually you describe things. That takes enormous strength. I would've probably just cut to the point and said, "they don't give a damn about anyone but themselves."

[nala]

My abuser absolutely knew what he was doing. Near the end it was hard not to smirk at it

[MagnysAa]

I think most of us finds this knowledge because we have been through it, we walked into a narc trap.

[olga-gqy]

I think that the question if they are aware of what they are doing doesn’t interest them at all, they just don’t care, because they simply can’t help doing what they do…