Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and Rumination in Relationships

Today I'll be talking to you about Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) and the effect it has on relationships and specifically the anticipation of potential communication with someone where there may be conflict looming. By the end of this video, you will have several strategies to use whether you have RSD or are in a relationship with someone who has RSD. These strategies will help you identify and manage your anticipation and rumination so that you will be less likely to avoid conflict and more prepared to begin the problem solving process. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) is a symptom of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) in which a person experiences extreme emotional pain due to thinking they have been or will be criticized, judged, will fail or rejected. The individual with RSD has an extreme fear of rejection, often avoids social interactions, avoids potential conflict, and either stuffs their emotions and internalizes or externalizes by erupting with overwhelming emotions and big behaviors. They may feel like they have nothing to offer in conversations, think they did something or said something wrong, and experience deep levels of shame, causing them to want to withdraw, delete all their social media, and curl up in a ball and hide in a corner. The main area of communication issues actually begins before the couple interacts with the individual with RSD's high propensity to anticipate the perceived criticism, judgment, or rejection coming their way from their partner. RSD is a symptom of ADHD and ADHD has high rates of comorbidity with anxiety and depression.

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[donniearchibald]

RSD has blown up almost every single relationship I could’ve been in. I’m so glad I finally understand what I suffer with. I thought I was just crazy and now training my mind enough.

[midragga]

Just found out I had RSD . It explains why it feels like I had my heart ripped out after rejection

[PerGunnarGjelsvik]

i am 50 years and with red/adhd. and been in with a spouse for 30 years. with many ups and downs. I guess I have the wolds best wife. it has not been all good! a very understand full wife

[lgaines]

I have never had these symptoms until I experienced a very traumatic event 2 years ago and it changed me. I thought I was crazy until I found your videos. At least I can recognize the mental looping and turn the volume of it down.

[goesbyAustin]

Sir I’ve been to hours and hours of therapy. Even did some inpatient to deal with my depression, and this is the first time I’ve heard of this. It fits me perfectly. Hoping that now that I know I can avoid blowing up my relationship 😁 thanks for the content!

[Bloodmoonkisser]

Learnt a year ago I had ADHD, admitted to myself this year I actually have ADHD, today learnt about rsd and was like wow
Hopefully working with a psychologist will help ease some symptoms because I'm getting awfully lonely in life

[deanfkaseuss]

Not me getting upset because I searched “dating someone who struggles with rumination” (btw I was trying to look into that in order to help myself and my partner understand why I am how I am sometimes) and vwalah this video has absolutely nothing linear to what I was searching for BUT WAIT THERE’S MORE…. This is EXACTLY WHAT MY PARTNER SUFFERS FROM. I feel like I just hit gold and I actually can not believe that YouTube’s wonky algorithm actually paid off this time. Paid off major because I feel like I just hit gold

[Paulbartoszek]

Happened to stumble upon this video by sheer accident but listen to the whole thing because it caught my interest. I have lived this way all my life! I recently started working a lot on myself and these are exactly things that I have issues with. Thank you for making this video and enlightening me on this issue

[moxiemedia]

This sounds exactly like a trauma response. I'm starting to wonder if there is any mental health condition that is purely genetic. Even then, trauma can impact our genes. Imagine if we set people up to be good parents and made sure everyone had a safe home with food. It could change the world for the better.

[confusedDruid]

Im sobbing, im feeling called out but in a good way. I never knew that im not alone and theres a way to fix this i have so many mixed feelings right now but overall this is amazing to know and definitely something i needed to hear

[michaelpinholt]

Do people with RSD ever regret their actions when they’re “triggered”, do they ever reflect on what they say or do later when they’re no longer in the situation, or do they stick to the narrative created in the situation?

[mandadsn]

This is amazing. Thank you for the information. Sometimes a person can think there is so much more wrong with them when really…it’s defining yourself. Accepting and consciously changing patterns. 🌸

[rijd]

The mindfulness book "30 Days to Overcome Rection" by H. Daniels was a help for my RS also.

[waxxxdripdrop]

This was amazing helpful!!!! Thank you so

[MaxineM-lruh]

Love your content, you mentioned a few sensitivities ie light, would they fall under Autism?

[simoneanderson]

ami the only one that KNOWS from the descriptiont that I have RSD but have bee "rejected" from having ADHD by online questionnaires? The RSD symptoms fit SO WELL, but I've "failed" online "tests" for having ADHD. Is it possible that RSD is NOT exclusively linked to ADHD?

[MoonMei]

If anyone has any experience bringing this to Kaiser could you share how that went? I once reached out for what I called depression/anxiety and they replied with the suggestion to call a number. Now I found that I’m most likely RSD without adhd . Did they help at all or did they treat you as someone crazy or over sensitive?