Why DO narcissists apologize? | The narcissist FAKE APOLOGY | Covert Narcissist apology | Narcissism

Why do narcissists apologize and when they do apologize, do they even mean it? In this video I will discuss the narcissist fake apology, also known as the fauxpology. The narcissist cannot take responsibility for something because that would require them to accept fault, which leads to feelings of blame and then narcissistic injury. Relationships with people with narcissism can be hard because gaslighting, where you are made to think you are the problem, and the narcissist's inability to accept blame for their behaviors. The covert narcissist apology is never a real apology and will always be a version of a narcissist fake apology, or fauxpology. if you have noticed the narcissist never said sorry and only experienced manipulation from the narcissist, you are not alone. The emotional abuse inflicted by the narcissist in the toxic relationship can be damaging to your emotional and mental health and lead to anxiety and depression.

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[davidsutliff]

Or... "I'm sorry, apparently I've done something wrong yet again. Because everything I do is always wrong."
I always looked at this as a clever way to escape accountability.

[truthbknwn]

Plenty of apologizing for what others have done to them or others. Plenty of apologies for their failures to live up to their own expectations. But NEVER a straight apology to any one person for a specific wrong that has been brought to their attention.

[hendrimike]

"i'm sorry i reached out to you after passed away. i was naive to think you could have handled that in your head."

[briany]

Thank you for the reinforcement I needed to hear on phoney apology from the narc in my life.

[lorik]

It’s just hopping back into the cycle of abuse!

[bkdnursery]

I’m sorry you feel that way, was his comment after me confronting him going off with another woman

[Krista-rtww]

Perfect description of my sister. I texted her yesterday. She is still mad at me for not doing the dishes when we were 10 years old 50 years ago when I called her on it she said oh no we’re so proud of you are such a wonderful sister blah blah blah blah blah respond to your spot on with this message and thank you so much for it.!

[lovinaeicher]

"I'm sorry if I ever hurt you. I don't expect you to believe me. I forgive you too. "

[emeraldxtouch]

The apology I got was 'I never meant to' and 'ask yourself why you got hurt'. They also claimed they 'deeply' apologized but I didn't accept it. Upon calling them out, THEY were the one to insult and unfriend me. They called me 'violent' for the way I expressed myself. Scary stuff.

[baharrrr]

"I'm sorry I unintentially cause problems." Came from the person who my partner cheated on me with (she knew), who called my husband to lunch days before our wedding saying her psychologist told her to ask my husband to lunch, shortly after being told by my husband that they shouldn't see each other, that he's getting married, and it would severely hurt our relationship if they met. My husband left me to see her, cancelling our wedding, and right after leaving me, he told me, "Now that we broke up, I can have lunch with her."

[flynnnewsblog]

“I sincerely apologize to you”. Lisa (ex narc girlfriend to me 3 months after betraying me for a new supplies and libeling me with lies and defamation.

[sashajohnson]

"I'm sorry I asked you, that question " even though the apology should have been for all the name calling and degradation afterward, knowing the question was the catalyst for all the name calling, and was intentionally asked, I said nothing the whole incident, I answered the question with honesty and fact, so the argument was between the narcissist and themselves I didn't bother me they asked the question, and got a truthful answer, i didn't partake in any name calling so basically the narcissist started an argument with themselves and then called me names and then fake apologized and to me thats a lie to themselves not me so bottom line the narcissist started an argument with themselves ! Degraded someone, else , and then lied to themselves ! So I guess they simply abused themselves ultimately! Not me I realize it, apparently they don't! It's a pathetic situation for them, ultimately and yielded nothing but shame ! Unto themselves not me ! So basically they wasted their energy with no result ! And also a bunch of breath ! They are still stewing, but I'm over it ! To me it's just evil behavior , even the good lord addresses these behaviors and doesn't like them, and even refers to them as dirty rags ! It's sad people like this exist ! To continually try to hurt people! But they do and we just have to ignore them !

[Revival_Momma]

“I’m sorry I loved you sooo much to tell you the truth”

This wasn’t a lover it was a pastor who called me yelling at me because I refused to speak in a conference she put together. And said that I was on the wrong side of God, I’m the whole reason their flyers never got printed in time, and I’m the reason my husband would go to hell bc he no longer wanted to give money to this church. We were the largest givers so withdrawing our financial support might mean moving back to a small office. But I’m sure it’ll be my fault too.

[Itsmeandthatsok]

Mine said. I don’t know what to say! I would have done anything! I’m sorry that’s not enough!

[sherrypalmer]

Just 2 days ago. He just said I'm sorry but never said why he sorry or how it may have made me feel. After he kept telling me his stories I never asked him to tell me. He always tells me stories so I should feel sorry for him about. But when we was together he did not care how I was.

[davemacs]

Would you agree that the focus on regret is more on the offenders pain while the focus of remorse is more on the victim pain.

[billk]

How about .. "I have no idea what I've done to you, but whatever it is I'm sorry."

[ArtandKitchen_]

they won't stop saying sorry until you come back to them againm then they will repeat huting you over and over again, then will say sorry again.. and the cysle goes on.

[ernieblue]

My wife will sometimes apologize for something she’s done that is obviously or undeniably egregious, but her empty words will undoubtedly be delivered with an angry overtone and no sense of empathy or remorse. She is actually mad that she must admit to wrongdoing and shouts her apology with the same attitude as one might use when angrily slamming a door.

[ChrisHager-kw]

If a narcissist asks a third party (from a four person conversation) to apologize to a third party/another person they have offended.

... Is the narcissist is implying that the person they ask to make the apology on their behalf, was in their fantastical mind set to "blame" for "making" the narcissists lack emotional regulation, have a socially unacceptable outburst, and conduct themselves in a deplorable manner, .. therefore in some contorted manner, responsible, .. for their unhealthy conduct, .. rather than accept responsability themselves?