How To Talk So People Listen - Make People Remember You

How to talk so people listen. This video will focus on how to speak with authority and influence. Having people listen to you makes it easy to get the things you want.

Here are 3 ways to develop more charisma.
1. Smile when you talk. Emotions are contagious, so let people catch something positive from you. People treat you differently when you smile. And the message comes across differently when you’re smiling than when you’re not.

2. Be curious and interested in others. The way to find out things about people is to ask questions. Most people like talking about themselves. And they will respond positively to someone who gives them the opportunity to talk.

3. Encourage and support others. People don’t want criticism, they crave support and affirmation.

Body Language
The goal of your body language should be to convey that you are important and open, interesting and interested.

Here are 5 ways to make that happen:
1. Fill the space around you.
2. Lean towards whomever you’re speaking to. You show interest in the other person by leaning in slightly.
3. No fidgeting. You want to keep unnecessary movements to a minimum

4. Slow down. Confident and commanding personalities tend to have slower motions. Nervous and harried people rush around.

5. Practice mirroring. This is something that can happen naturally when two people talking are really in sync.

[ilijasavdic]

I always thought I was weird or different in any social situations, but after wachten this I realized I’m doing these naturally when I talk with people. The only thing that is hard for me is when people dont give me that energy back and I feel stupid for trying to engage with them.

[alpinemind]

Boy. This is the ultimate crash course into human interaction.

[esharenee]

This is me, people enjoy being in my presence because I listen, smile, I open up, be understanding, non judgemental. I love people.

[on-the-way]

1. Smile when you talk
2. Be interested in others...ask questions or be neutral
3. Encourage and Support.. no judging
4. Body language...shoulders relax, don't take up space, sit up straight, eye contact, no fidgeting, slow down, mirror them

[theemptynestchronicles]

I really prefer people be honest with me. I hate the idea of walking around thinking something was great and others thinking it wasn't but not saying it. I also have a hard time reading between the lines so straight forwardness (not rudeness) is a breath of fresh air.

[AudaciousErinBaby]

As an INFJ who loves people, these tips tends to come very easily to me. The two problems that I often run into is: people mistaking my kindness for a weakness and feeling as if they can disrespect me. #2 I attract clingy people that can't read my moods and do not realize that I don't want to be bothered🤭

[karakol]

"I dont know much about it" and not having an opinion is also great way to escape confrontation and those who like to bait. It shuts them down. Great advice all around.

[instanttherapy]

As a psychologist, I'd like to add that when someone is talking, that when it is your turn to talk to repeat the last few words they said in their sentence which lets them know you were really listening. I'm always smiling and I chuckle a little when I repeat their words adding something like that's very insightful or I never thought of it that way or I'm glad you said that.

[christelegassant]

I’m autistic and so I work really hard at human interaction, but I do all of these things! Listening to you has me feeling so RELIEVED that I’m doing okay and that I’ve improved in my efforts. It stresses me out so much. Thank you!

[tennotsukai]

Being autistic, these videos have been some of the best in how informative they are, and I like that they're straight to the point.

[Thislife-pw]

This week I was verbally abusive to someone who didn’t deserve my bad words. So this is me trying to be better at not criticising. Relationships need thoughtfulness, compassion and consideration. Thanks for this vlog! 🙏ℹ️💯

[t.l]

I have to learn how to not give negative feedback. I'm always in fixer mode. I'm learning how to chill. This is really helpful for me. Excellent video as always.

[sandy]

Smile when you talk. Be curious and interested in others. Encourage and support conversation with warmth. 🙂

[psicopati]

This is totally accurate. I am a very introverted and shy person but I naturally do those things. Showing that I'm interested specially with my expressions and body language makes people recognize me as a "warm" person even though I don't talk much. It creates a good balance.

[judygavan]

Depression is so heavy, that it feels like I'm trying to take care of others, did this my whole life. Success comes and goes. Still end up alone and so down that ending it, crying and being sad seem normal. Energy so low that getting up is hard, let alone, doing the things I must to stay in the game. I'm now in my late 60's and still burdened by childhood trauma. Just once I would to know a day without struggle of destructive thoughts and know what it is like to be free, okay with myself and just have a day of delightful freedom and just be okay, I don't know what that is like.

[mvwmorg]

I'm not a native English speaker so I'm very grateful that you speak loud and have pronounced everything clearly.
That's another part of this class..
Thank you

[taki]

"Well that was two months wasted." I laughed so hard at that 💀

These are the exact kind of thoughts that are at the forefront of my mind when talking to people 💀 Although I am a bubbly person I tend to deal out very thorough and frank criticism, especially when it's related to my field because I hate to see nonsense 😩

I realized that I need to soften the blow a little more. Thanks for the video!

[GR-olvp]

Your channel and Polar Warriors have helped me A LOT. I just want to say I appreciate what you do. You are helping a lot of people.

[PortCharmers]

I remember a topic on a model-boating forum that turned pear-shaped: a young beginner had started building a cruise ship model, posted pictures of his progress and asked for advice. Others posted a lot along the lines of "you go, boy" and "well done", while I had severe doubts that this thing was ever going to float, let alone with the right side up. I took a lot of flak for pointing out that a cruise ship is not a beginner's project and that maybe it would be wiser to start with something simpler, but I would have found it much more impolite to watch the kid run into a wall and sink a lot more time and money into the project.

[tiajohnson]

I love how "they didn't ask you for your opinion" needs to be spread. But hey, I'm glad it is.