narcissists see you as competition & will treat you as such by intentionally trying to hold you back

narcissists see you as competition & will treat you as such by intentionally trying to hold you back

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware #narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( #NPD ) and I’ve been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the #Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

[Vixinaful]

"If they can keep you down, they can keep you in a relationship with them" Pretty much sums up a narcissist.

[atxbrighteyes]

They hold you back, then complain about it and call you lazy. 🤦‍♀️

[swansonya]

Some narcs aren't happy unless you're left homeless, jobless, penniless, with nobody to help you. He made me the toughest, most resourceful person I never knew I could be. He made my life harder than I can Express here. But, I win...& he lost 😁✌

[WaterBug]

Yup! H is highly competitive. Must win every conversation. Nothing in our house is neutral. He even had to try and argue who he thought would be the sickest when we both became Covid positive. He thought for sure me. Nope. He got medi-vacced out with double pneumonia while I stayed asymptomatic. There is no team with them. It all is a game for them to win or lose. And they hate to lose.

[marcelastacey]

“It’s all about power and control to a narcissist person.“

[ald]

Woah! Unbelievably accurate. The night for my online final exam for my last class for my B.A., he called me sobbing telling me he was on a bridge about to kill himself. I stayed on the phone comforting and listening to him, when the cutoff time came, he calmly thanked me for staying on the phone and told me he was actually at home. I failed and couldn't walk with my class. It wasn't until many years later that I realize all these occurrences were intended to sabotage me.

[ChristianOne]

The logic of a narcissist is so illogical. I would have stayed FOREVER with my husband if he had remained my cheerleader and dearest friend. Instead, to "keep me" he switched to trying to keep me down, and that is the quickest way to lose me. I escaped!

[brittanyschmalfeldt]

This was my ex when I was starting massage school. He asked "You're going to be at school every day. What about me?" He legit tried making me feel like I was abandoning him for going.

[Infrared]

Mine hid all of my photography equipment in the trunk of his car on the hottest day of the year. That made me late for a big, local publication. When I finally found it later that night the flash cards were intact thank god. The only damage was my camera grips came loose.

In the end he gaslighted me so hard that I couldn't focus, lost my edge, and had to quit freelance photojournalism. It was my dream job, and instead of supporting me, he hated me for upstaging him. He admitted as much to me.

Divorced for 8 years, zero contact. It works.

[marcelastacey]

“If they can keep you down, they can keep you in a relationship with them.”

[notachannel]

My whole entire
Family are narcissistic my parents definitely sabotage me all the time on purpose

[QueenCheandTheBoys]

You’re not telling a lie, my husband did me like that before I was about to take this big test for a job and here come the big argument about nothing and I failed the test and immediately lost my job! 🤷🏽‍♀️

[marshapple]

This is true! I am a year away from doing my lab clinicals and he has made things alot more difficult. His narcissist mother has also doubled down. But i will succeed. I cant wait to see the look on their faces when i graduate.

[eljoy]

Narcissistic partners… and colleagues... definitely do this. It’s hard to come back from. 😖

[dogmom]

This is so true!!! My ex is super competitive with me not understanding that we were part of the same team. Oh well!!!

[jessicayoung]

It’s disgusting and despicable. Mine would complain about me working and I’d work and he’d fight with me. Or he’d argue with me constantly while I was in college trying to ruin it for me.

[barkingpawz]

They see working as an issue like they hate that and you can’t do your job!

[dp]

Which explains why they will diminish your accomplishments or try to tear away at your self esteem.

[mickyj]

That’s so on point.. I had a finals and the date of the finals, he scheduled a fishing trip… I had to hustle to get a meal prepared for the babysitter and I didn’t get to reach the exam early so that I could relax… I ended up getting there on time leaving but left my glasses in the car.. I missed the exam pass mark by a few points… I couldn’t see clearly 😔

[therapymeditation]

So true! I didn’t go to my college graduation because I met my partner in college and he didn’t graduate. I did, and he always started an argument or got mad whenever I talked about my degree and especially that I got honors. Then when we got jobs, mine was a career in HR and his was a gas station. He promised to take off from work when our baby was sick but he’d back out of it until I took so much time off I got reprimanded and ended up quitting bc our baby kept getting sick. Restarting a career and he’ll say, “now you’re going to leave me...” Ugh!!!