How to tell if you're being bullied at work? 🤔 BBC

If you ever feel you’re being bullied at work, this video is for you…

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[vikijuise]

People who do this to others deserve a long and painful visit from Karma.

[lilithtofi]

I can’t even talk to the manager about it cause he is also one of the bullies! 😢

[Roddeeerrrr]

I was just bullied out of my work by an old woman. She made me feel so little everyday and it caused me to become depressed. I complained to the manager about it but they sided with her. The next day I was forced to leave because it made me that angry and miserable. No one should ever be bullied just for trying to make a living every day.

[coreyanderson]

Workplace bullying is WAY WORSE than sexual harassment. I've heard many people say that. I myself experienced sexual harassment, and it paled in comparison to workplace bullying. Workplace bullying is when one person intentionally and repeatedly targets another specific person, with the aim of making that targeted person look incompetent or to drive the target out. The target usually suffers all the consequences, and the harasser/bully/abuser goes completely unpunished.

[ws]

I once worked under a bullying boss for 2 years and lost complete confidence in myself but eventually came out of it after a period of 4 years

[scdonaldn]

It seems that often bullying behaviour is down to the psychological issues of the bully. Those with narcissistic, sociopathic or sadist tendencies tend to bully as if it's normal. I realised early on at work that bullying reflects the issues of the bully and not those that are bullied. I think this is an important point to make, and for those that are bullied to realise.

[kidbuu]

I've been through my fair share of bullying at work. What you need to do is find another job and never be too friendly with your future co-workers. It may sound bad but there is a reason you get bullied, and it's normally out of your control. Be distant, cold, avoid staff parties and minimise the amount of face to face interactions with others.

[oldskoolordie]

I was bullied for years.
It started straight away from senior management. Then colleagues attacked me for my work ethic.
The organisation was completely toxic and it turned out they were terrified of being exposed. Senior management tried to portray them as a world leader where in fact they were actually committing fraud right across the company.
When I eventually presented my evidence to HR they laughed at me, despite evidence of racism, sexism and physical threats/job security threats.
Colleagues initially listened but some told others, isolated me even further and sided with management.
The only answer is to leave, don’t do what I did and try and fight it.
I genuinely feel like most workplaces are dominated by sociopathic narcissists who create cliques destroying the entire organisation yet present themselves as the people who keep the organisation together.
This is why most people hate work. They don’t hate the job, they hate the managers.

[mpvrbfu]

I’m bullied at work, the bullies will constantly criticise my work and make me redo it multiple times. They’re all friends with the boss and will randomly disappear for long periods just so they can have a gossip.

[narmeenh]

I was bullied at the BBC by a Director. I’m going to tribunal. This led me to try and take my life earlier this year. This content is hard to take. Bullying at the BBC is rife.

[Bob-B-.]

Bullying starts at the corporate level: imposing intentionally unrealistic standards from top down to squeeze productivity. Seems simple, but that's where most bad attitude arise.

[jefferyfowler]

My boss tried to bully me at work and always wanted to fight. One day I told him to stick his head up his rear and fight for air. He did nothing. They are all cowards.

[bestYellowJello]

Im being bullied at work and it sucks . They have so much power you would think that they would use their power for good

[rectify]

I am in a new role, and this one guy who everybody loves, bullies the new people, me being one of them.
Soon after I lost my Dad in a past job, I was being bullied and snapped.
I did a Hulk and smashed the place up, they were petrified, and when I think back it serves them right

The Police actually took my side, and were so kind and supportive to me.

[annastone]

Having suffered bullying throughout my career. I look back now and see I had one big weakness:

1: Naivety.. I went in to positions assuming I just had to ‘do a good job’ and I would be treated well.

This naivety was only compounded by total lack of realistic advice when I asked for it - which was basically that same philosophy.

Looking back - I did not assess my surroundings at all.
I did not assess the characters of the people, or the power dynamics or the goals of the individuals and what they might be willing to do to achieve those goals.

I spent my whole time trying to do a ‘really good job’.

In retrospect doing a good job, is way way down the list of what’s important in many organisations. Look at who the people are, look at what their nature is, look at what their career financial plan is. Very very few people will ever care about your best interests. Most displays of help, collaboration etc are ‘performative’.

I just wish I had approached the workplace for what it is, a competitive environment, that is very often hostile. And sought training and support with this reality in mind.

Looking back I really was a lamb to the slaughter.
I believed all the ‘positive speak’ and was duped into sacrificing my time and my career advancement to help others.

[sanfordcurtis]

I used to work at a place where HR targeted me and I was basically bullied out of the company. Hope karma gets them.

[sweetgypsy]

I have always been bullied by women because of their jealousy. I dress well and have a professional conduct and women find that intimidating. I am not pompous and I actually lower myself to be accepted. My manager glares at me all the time as does her colleague. They speak rudely and curtly and I am trying to tolerate it but I can’t. I feel upset going into work.

[michellejones]

My daughter is being bullied at her job! She works in the medical field, and she is a hard worker goes above and beyond volunteers to work extra! She has not had a proper orientation. In fact, the preceptor is the bully. She’s been given too much power managers have came and left, staff members have left in a short timeframe, travelers do not stay at this medical facility. I have one thing to say about this I am helping my daughter file a complaint. I’m also taking measures to help protect her mental health as she has been depressed, came home crying and it’s been one thing after another. She has taken the abuse for eight months now. I say to you bully no more.

[szendrich]

I was bullied through all of my working life. It was all kinds ... being called weird everyday because my accent didn't fit with the elites' accent of my boss, being told everyday that if I don't take on more and more workload, they couldn't afford me, sexual harassment, calumny, being shouted at, talked down to, and so much more. There was no way I could file a complaint because I'd have ended up without a job. I always ended up having to leave, only to find other bullies in the new workplaces. Eventually, it affected my mental health so badly that I'm now agrophobic, afraid of my own shadow, with severe PTSD and anxiety issues. When your pay cheque is a necessity that you and your family depends on, to have to suffer such cruelty in the workplace must be the worst of crimes. And yet, it's still happening everywhere in some form or another and these bullies always get away with it.

[rebeccawills]

Its the absolute worst when you find out your bully is in cohorts with your boss. Its hard to take any kind of legal action if you have no job. Every place I have worked ever has said that they have a no retaliation policy and if you speak with someone about what is going on it would be confidential but it never is. So you just get stuck getting bullied without saying anything about it in order to get your paycheck.