How to Argue Like a Gentleman

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Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
0:42 Mission statement
1:10 Mindset
2:06 DO: Allow others to speak
2:48 DO: Invite others to comment
3:14 DO: Make concessions
3:59 DON'T: Stand up
4:30 DON'T: Shout
5:07 DON'T: Don't point your fingers
5:33 DON'T: Look bored
5:59 DON'T: Rely on statistics
6:48 DON'T: Walk away
7:17 DON'T: Involve others
7:52: DON'T: Drink too much
8:10 DO: Shake hands at the end
8:47 Next steps

[Understated_Constance]

This is the type of content i look forward too gent !...Something actually useful and practical.
Thank you very much sir.

[evanplante]

This is a much needed lesson in civics... and civilization. Thank you, James.

[jjsolis]

I've found that when it comes to politics, it's impossible to have a civil conversation with people who start name-calling. I'm somewhat conservative wth a dash of classical liberal. I've had people (including family members) call me very bad names for that. Best to simply say, "Thank you, but it's best to end this conversation." It took me a long time to realize this. I used to get very confrontational in response to name-calling. Not anymore. Name-calling is the last resort of people who don't know what they're talking about. Sadly, for a few, it's a first resort. Don't be a name-caller.

[maxscriptguru]

I had a great conversation a few months ago with a relative who was diametrically opposed to me politically. But after listening to him I found we were built on much common ground and we both agreed with each other on most things. I hade such a great time that I found a new friend with whom I have very much respect. I now think that much of the media is stirring people up in anger with one another. My anger is now pointed at the extremes of the media who lie to smaller and smaller groups.

[russell]

I really love the teamup with Gentleman's Gazette. Raphael and Jack are awesome.

[justadude]

Three suggestions: (1) Never engage toxic or loud people. Just excuse yourself and walk away. You don't want to be associated with them. (2) Avoid saying anything insulting or degrading about anyone else, even to a friend. It makes you look small. (3) Never gossip (self explanatory as to why).

[dylankeen]

I love the chance to debate with people in person. I am used to seeing stuff online but it is refreshing to physically see the other person when sharing ideas. That's why I never interact with arguments online, I don't know if they are real.

[pensivepenguin]

Great stuff, James. I have a coworker whose politically the polar opposite of me, but he’s one of my favorite people there. We’ve navigated some pretty dicey conversations and come out of it even closer, in large part using techniques you’ve touched on here. I especially love what you said about how most people truly believe that their ideas are what’s best for society, and if you look at most contentious issues – immigration, homelessness, Economic issues, healthcare – I would say almost all of us agree that these need to be addressed; we just often have very different ideas on how. That’s OK

[geoffreysundstrom]

Very creative approach to a contentious subject. You made some very good points and carried the day with your persuasive style.

[andv]

"44% of statistics are just made up on the spot" hahah that's a great sentence

[chrisl]

I belong to the oldest gentleman's organization in the world. There are two things we never discuss: religon and politics. I promise you our conversations are never dull. How to help the poor and distressed, bettering your fellow man... Never gets old.

[Catinasuit]

As a Christian I do like to hear out others on there religions, I met this one gentleman who was Muslim and despite the fact we see life differently, I also try to research others religion in order to see what i personally disagree with, and what they disagree with.

[opkjj]

Thank you for making this video especially in these times. Excellent stuff.

[ResetToZero]

Such a delightful and amusing video, good sir!

[RobertoGarzaro]

Greatest crossover of all time. Cheers from Guatemala ❤

[GeneralSmitty]

I'm glad this is a video topic. I majored in politcal science and history for my bachaelor's degree and I think its very very important these conversations happen. It feels like today in the age of social media we're in many ways losing our way to communicate ironically or getting trapped in echo chambers rather than allowing ourselves to have open, honest conversations about more complicated yet important topics about what is going on in the world. Discussions like this help lead to solutions and new ideas.

[zakosist]

I like your advice and attitude on this. People on any side of the political spectrum, and with any religion, can have both compassion and good logical reasons for thinking the way they do. I think discussing politics at some point can be important if you want to get actually close with someone. You dont need to agree on everything, but you want to know both were their values lie, if the differences are too big (for being close, not just civil) and how they handle disagreement. You dont know someone well enough before you know those things, and it can cause trouble later.

[Popsimath]

If walking out is rude then developing the skill of segueing the conversation would become essential

[IgorMikeshin]

When I was a kid, some of my family members had opposing views on politics. They argued, and argued, and argued. Then there was a lunch time and we went and had a lunch together again as a family.
Seems like a crazy concept nowadays. Yet, I will never understand how families can break up over politics.

[kariukigacheru]

I believe hard conversations should be held to waive off some bad consequences which usually stem from avoidant behavior. A random quote I came across said 'wait until you see the consequences of the things you avoid talking about'. This mostly can apply to parents when raising their children and all other important relationships in life.