“These Create Traumas in the Child!” - Parents Beware! Family Counselor Warned!

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0:00 Intro
00:40 Why childhood education?
03:15 At what age does child education begin?
04:35 What can a baby in the womb understand?
09:15 The child doesn't listen to the words of the parents?
12:14 How did our Prophet (PBUH) raise children?
15:40 How can i give him a sense of responsibility?
19:11 What should working parents do?
22:10 My child changed a lot when he grew up?
24:42 Our child tells lies. What should we do?
24:57 Any last message?

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[arep]

"Our children come to this world through us, but they don't belong to us". That is very powerful.

[cow-veci]

I swear by god as a person who has suffered a lot from his parents yet trying to form a relationship with them when the bond of a parent and a son is not really there…this video made me cry multiple times thank you so much for making it. Every child deserves parents but not every parents deserve children…

[Binkyfinder]

While pregnant and a new mom, I always heard how important it was to not worry, stay happy, don't get stressed, etc while pregnant and during the post partum period. However, our society seems to expect women to take abuse and neglect from work and family with a smile and good attitude. It'd be wonderful if men/husbands/fathers would be taught to take their roles seriously and not expect their wives to take on both parental roles by themselves.

[samsashay]

I was raised by a difficult and abusive father, I along with my other siblings were always scared of him, so was my mother. He didnt take care of my mother, he was abusive to my mother aswell. My mother had a mental breakdown out of stress of taking care of teenage kids alone, and an abusive husband. She expired prematurely in her midlife leaving us the teenage kids. Abusive man (or a woman) should never be tolerated, especially physical and verbal abuse. Get help if you have anger issues, and counseling in your marriage, educate yourself on how to raise kids, but dont let that spill over on your kids or spouse or on your own rest of the life.

[halee]

I learnt more from this gentleman than I learnt from a bookshelf of child rearing texts. Simple, accurate and concise.

[shahiedajacobs]

I honestly enjoyed watching this, one is never too young or too old to learn something new, especially when it comes to raising children. Jazaak'Allahu Khairan

[Tasin...]

This one video is more than a Parenting Workshop.
جزاكم الله خيرا

[pixelated-bz]

What an important topic, as a mother of 4 kids (oldest just turned 7 and youngest is 3months), this advice is invaluable to me

[nr]

i'm a psychology student and my prof said things similar to this. she finds it everywhere that when children cry or yell for wanting something in public places, their parents will react to it as embarassment. they will yell/shout back to their child or even beat or drag them to home and says "you embarass me, stop that!' or eventually when the kid is now at their peak of anger, the parent will buy that thing for them. instead of doing that, my prof gave this tutorial for us: first, never think of embarassment at all. second, response to the child in the best manner possible at the very first time they talk to us if they want something and make our intentions clear. if we can't buy that thing, show kids that we value what if they want something like we value if an adult want something. we can say "oh, you wan't that? oh you really really want it? aww, that's a cool toy, isn't it? but.." then explain why we don't buy it. lastly, never promise them we will buy it in the future if we can't.

[jasminasinanbegovic]

If you grew up feeling as tough nobody ever loved you for who you are, just know that Allah loves you more then your mother ❤😢

[mariamimi]

The first thing a parent should do is give emotional intimacy to their child. Children are separate individuals which means they have a seperate soul, they’re not us !!!! Get to know your child !!!!
How you get to know your child ? By literally watching them and having ears . Children are always themselves, you just need you listen to what they say when they talk to you and watch what they do, this is how you get to know them.

[irfanm]

Please pray for all the children who are suffering one way or another - so they become 'healthy' individuals in every way.

May Allah grant ease and blessed life...

[ahteshaikh]

The best 26 minutes ever spent, thanks a lot brother, Tabarakallahu Fik, May Allah grant u more strength and capability to reach out to more people.

[storyteller]

i have constant guilt but for the things my father did i can never love him, i only respect him for allah i can't do more than that

[Leonardsnotebook]

The point at about 21:00 regarding toys is so true!

My parents did not use to give me toys often, I had very many toys and I would call my self spoiled and blessed. But they gave me only at special occasions like Birthdays and Christmas <- ( I’m not born Muslim ) but only 3 times I can remember getting grifts after they came from work on normal days. THEESE ARE AMAZING MEMORIES! My father would hide the toy he got me and I would have to search for it in our apartment, when I remembered this now when watching the video my heart was flooding with love and joy ❤

[princessraheemasuleiman]

Listening to all of these, I feel guilty about the kind of mother that I am.

I adore my children but I am constantly under pressure raising them as a single Mom.
Their father never took parenting seriously even when he was with us and one time before he finally left, I was sick and yet he couldn't even make out a good 10minutes to be with them. He just loaded them up with sweets and treats and locked himself up in the room with the claim of being busy with work and work meetings.

I hardly felt married and constantly called my attempts to draw his attention to how he was being negligent about his role in the family tantrums and nagging. He said he hated how I was always being soft and needy and trying to "manipulate" him with tears. And children only needed discipline and material provisions which he was "doing absolutely right".

I began to hate every time he would send money to take care of things around the house and won't even be apologetic about not being there. I got depressed and would even cry through a breastfeeding session. I was married but never felt married.

I pray every day that Allah helps me be a better person, parent and help my children grow up right without all the bitterness he holds, anxiety and unrepentant sense of irresponsibility.

[Sheart-qsmm]

As a single mom who experienced depressive episodes from pregnancy, i can verify this doctor words 😢 its really not an easy journey for us, but im sure Allah will help us 💪🤲 may Allah make us stronger from this experience, to mold us into good and strong muslims 😢💖 and also to forgive and keep good ties with parents and extended families..

thanks br and sr SK for the knowledge, may Allah keeps you all safe and grant all of us istiqamah in this deen. I hope a lot of muslims will learn and benefit from this video 🤲 bcs this seemingly simple things is what will contribute to the rise of islam ❤

[tehreemraza]

These videos always make me tear up. I have lived with an impending sense of doom and anxiety since I was 7 or 8. My mother has severe personality and anger issues and all it has made me feel is how invaluable and worthless I am. Now she is surprised and bothered that I grew up to be a depressed adult who doesn't want to meet people or get married. I don't honestly know what was she expecting.

[eggstravagent]

Asalam alakum! Eid Mubarak to all the Muslims reading this comment!

[okman]

This Video is full of Knowledge and Wisdom.
Allahim senden razi olsun.
Almanyadan selamlar.