Example of Vindictiveness with Vulnerable Narcissism #shorts

[lnc-toku]

How could anyone carry a grudge well into their 70's? What an unhealthy waste of life.

[rejaneoliveira]

It is said that revenge is a poison that people drink and wait for the other person to die. I believe that to be true, I just can’t see how being vindictive is a helpful strategy.

Excellent topic for discussion, I think this is something that makes everyone reflect because we all have been wronged at some point in our lives.
Thank you so much, Dr. Grande!❤

[Godlvr]

George had that happen in Seinfeld, and his comeback was upped. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.

[lindanorton]

My mom who is a vulnerable narcissist cleaned up a bunch of dog poop in the neighbor yard and put it on someone’s doorstep and waited and watched for the person to step and fall on his stairs. My mom then proceeded to call me about the whole experience. She was extremely giddy and proud of what she had done.

[jamesparlane]

getting "closure" was more important than getting therapy here. We all like to cut up old torches but sanity is more important than wanting to stalk a childhood enemy.

[patstokes]

My mother lived in a little town growing up, and she was in high school in the 1930. Years later she had never gotten over that one girl had been mean to hear in high school. We went to the 40 year get together for her high school. She was in her 60 and looked forward to insulting that women. The poor women had become a lunch lady, was old and broken down and my mother had married well. I had no idea she was going to insult that lady after all those year. She demeaned that women for her position, and berating her for never leaving the town and then bragged a about her own life. It was the life is was afford by my Dad and had nothing to do with what she had done. She hadn't done anything, she had never even had a job. My mother never forgave anyone, including her children. She lived for 99 years and guess who had to take care of her. ME. Those kind of people are nasty pieces of work.

[elad]

Wow! Reminds me of certain family members. The vindictiveness is a major red flag

[LuciaInman]

This example is so good. I've known a vulnerable narcissist for years now, and she does ruminate on the past a lot, specifically how people wronged her. And now she treats those people with a form of passive-aggressive revenge type behavior.

I would love to see more examples about other mental health pathologies. Fascinating. Thank you as always!

[KimberlyLetsGo]

I get my vindictive narcissist way by ignoring friend requests from the classmates that had bullied me both mentally and physically. I think ignoring them speaks louder than any words I could say.

[MsBizzyGurl]

This is why I tend to diffuse situations or focus on the issues, not personalities. You never know how far someone is willing to go to feel better about themselves.

[quickgirl]

You have no idea how timely this is. Earlier today my husband was trying to pick a fight with me & brought up something that happened 26 years ago. He actually brings this particular incident up often & it involves him being a bully to to my ex. He gets so much pleasure from it & every time he brings it up I see the satisfaction on his face. Today I just sat there & thought, what is so broken inside his head that feels the need to delight in bullying someone 26 years ago & feels the need to use that incident to try & pick a fight with me?
Yeah, I’ve had him pegged as a vulnerable narcissist for a little while now. This just adds confirmation to what I experienced today.

[victoriavitoroulis]

This is exactly why you can’t take a Hoover lightly .. they don’t miss you .. they just want to complete their mission of Destroying you . 😵‍💫

[stephm]

So true. They'll never forgive you for what they did to you. 🤷‍♀️

[Mr_Banker]

Let it go, I was born without a hand and I heard every joke/insult in the book. I never held it against people, it's just a reflection of their insecurities that their battling they see a flaw and go after it to make their ego feel better about why they can't fix their problems. Always move forward and really don't take things to heart life will moves on with or without you.

[humbull]

I was in a relationship with one of these disordered people for 10 years. I'm lucky to be alive. Yet, I still struggle with the fact that I want to go back to her. It's a cruel match.

[evonne]

This is why I don't want certain people to know where I live. Certain people that know I know what they are.

[davidwartski]

This actually helps me a lot. Thanks, Doctor G.

[shawnnewell]

That is so cold. It really is all about them and their fragile egos.

[helpyourcattodrive]

Wow. I’m always learning from Dr. Grande’s channel. This is very interesting to me. Thank you for an excellent video.

[edwina]

Fascinating anecdote! Dr. Grande, can you please do a short video on the differences and similarities of vulnerable narcissism vs BPD?