I Make More Money Than My Husband And He's Having A Hard Time With It

I Make More Money Than My Husband And He's Having A Hard Time With It

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[ir]

Thought this was about him being insecure about her making more. After hearing the story, her impulse spending and bad money management is the problem. Him being away in the military doesn’t help. She needs adult supervision.

[yamamancha]

It's easy to be "accountable" now that you have enough money to cover your habits. She needs to realize that, from his perspective, that's not accountability. That's fortunate circumstances compensating for a lack of situational awareness.
Heather, you are living in different spheres of existence. Time is not progressing at the same rate for you and your husband. Before you talk about "getting him on board" now that you're in such a good position, you need to learn to communicate on his frequency. While he's down range, you've been pursuing your goals, making decisions for you, doing what feels right to you, and not really caring about the repercussions because he's not there a lot. But you've been doing that without enough consideration of the stress and burden he carries just trying to meet you half way in life.
Now you've made this huge jump. And if your tone on the phone is any indication of your tone with your husband, there is a, perhaps unintentional, condescending nature that accompanies your newfound success. If you can't address recognize and resolve that within yourself, you're marriage is going to turn toxic.
Even if you can't get into couples therapy right away, I recommend going therapy and conveying to your husband that while you would love to go to counseling together, you're at least going to seek counseling to address your own issues in order to be a better wife and partner to him.

[rationalsamrat]

"That's not manning up" I wonder how many men have been guilt triped using these words.

[tomdrummy]

Since her salary just should be focused on paying off her student focused on her income being twice his.

[justusbryce]

He doesn't have a problem with her making more money. SHE has a problem with making more money than him.

[Chet_]

My wife makes more money than me and im not jealous. We're a team, and on the same page so it doesn't matter. When she does well, we do well, and vice-versa.

[MillionaireMindsetClub]

Thought this was about him being insecure. But no...

[batman]

I would love to hear the husband's side of the story. She was very quick to prop herself up and place blame on her husband, and Dave was very quick to judge.

[RJRussoVids]

She's crowing about $100K income meanwhile she's got $90K in student debt. She's driving a yacht with a hole in the hull.

[maec.]

We need more information. She hesitated when telling her side of the story but not his. I sure she is hiding a lot from Dave.

[jeanlenor]

Dave likes to judge the other guy without knowing his reasoning behind keeping stuff separate.

[christianc]

She is a major red flag, probably lying about her “husband” being SF

[BonkoemChemiya]

As a vet having worked with SF guys I can say that he is doing that cause he has absolutely no trust in her. Trust is everything for those guys. There is more to this story she didn’t tell us.

[RetirementbyDesign]

Before they combine their money, she needs to demonstrate that she’s financially responsible by paying off her debt and saving for at least a year. Then he would probably trust her. This is a trust issue.

[FirstnameLastname-etfy]

The military offers marriage counseling for veterans and active. This is more than a finance problem.

[neofthem]

She needs to use her new income to paying off her own student loan.

[magicworld]

Her husband is keeping everything separate because she has bad spending habits. She makes six figures but she probably spends five.

[ir]

All the people commenting about the husbands insecurity didn’t listen to the video. They titled this wrong to probably pander to a female audience.

[juancarlosmontes]

Can we just take a moment and thank Heather and her husband for their contributions to the betterment of society. Huge kudos and thanks to each.

[Datnigromeo]

With what he has to deal with in the military and then her impulse buying played a part. She paints it as if it’s his problem but he’s just detached and reacting to her.