Ask Lynn: I make more money than my man, what do I do when...

Ask Lynn: I make more money than my man, what do I do when. . .

1. We are going out to dinner with two other couples and it’s my man’s turn to pay. He can’t afford it but I can. How do I handle this?

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2. I don’t mind paying for the things he can’t afford, but I want to know where his money is going.

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3. My man wants me to give him a business loan, how do I handle this?

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Watch the video prior to this: “Ladies, Don’t Be afraid to admit that you want a loving relationship!”

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[qmakesithappen]

Such an amazing and timely message! My wife has always out earned me significantly and I have no bones about it, neither does she. She works hard in a specialized field and deserves every penny. We laid all our financials out in year one from income, to debt and credit score and navigated accordingly. We continue to talk about our finances on a bi weekly basis and our 2 kids sit in on every discussion. Team work makes the dream work and "happy wife happy life" is cool but "happy spouse happy house" is better 😏

[iammahalieka]

I like that statement happy wife, happy life. But really we both need to be happy so we should say happy spouse, happy house.

[Manguy]

Iam not intimidated by any woman who makes more money than myself. I make a great living too. However I also know as a man that it is NOT her responsibility to support me as a man. If she decides to quit her high paying job, I still have to support her and take on a second job if necessary to make ends meet. It is not the woman's job to support the household even if she make more money

[EnlightenOne]

Wow just wow…..I’m sorry but I’m living this nightmare and it’s hell. My husband constantly throws it in my face and does the bear minimum for me. He’s a good father but not a great husband. He’s 9 years older and quick to say when we started neither of us had anything. I remind him yes but I applied myself, study, worked hard and achieved what I wanted. He has had the SAME opportunities. I WILL NOT let him guilt trip me into growing and being successful.

[crod]

I can relate to this. I think back to the days when I was a single mom and divorcing. I was starting over and the people I met were always gracious and willing to be generous. I didnt accept extra help $$$ because I wanted to do it on my own. But it was nice to be treated with consideration. So now, 15 years later my circumstances are different and I think, " People weer willing to be generous to me. Why not be generous to those you are spending some time with as well?." That doesnt mean live under blind stupidity. Have the convo. AND execute YOUR due dilligence. I dont hudge men on their net worth. I prefer to focus on character, shared interests and the effort in their grind. Thank you Lynn for this convo opener.

[dtincworldnews]

I remember my father had told me one time, he said "Son, do what works for you because no one is going to live your life for you." And I have applied that even in my love life. In other words, some advice I take in and some I don't. If it works for me then I will take it in and apply it.

[alfredgifford]

Awesome advice, every couple should hear this message.
Wise beyond your years, thank you Lynn.

[thekreativeculture]

Yeah i cant be with a lady who makes triple than me. I just cant. I want to be the one to protect and provide for her. Not saying she cant have a career but me personally, i wouldnt feel like a man. I would feel like her child.

[bubbly]

I respect this. I personally want it the other way around but respect when people do what’s best for them

[havva]

My own experience.. I knew what was getting into. I have known my husband for 10 years. Most ppl know what they are getting into, but always believe there could be something more, more growing together in the future.. That is not always the case. I have been in charge of my families finances, all bills, working, cleaning, etc for 10 years now. He contributes financially, but not enough. His is 20% to my 80% and probably will be like that for as long as i am with him. I made my peace with it. I get the rest of his contributions from him through his mental, emotional, etc. support that cannot be measured in money. Is this hard? Yes. Do i get frustrated that everything is on my shoulders? Yes. This is my choice and i am comfortable with being in charge of finances.

[alisonfranklin]

Lord have mercy Lynn!!!! The truth will set us free!!! Thank you so much for walking us down the path to Freedom.

[katrinalynch]

You said she live a beautiful life but she wanted to protect you she is Beautiful Queen 👑 Rest In Peace

[alexiscook]

Thanks Dr. Lynn. This has helped me to get over a fear I had.

[legacywithoutlimits]

This message right here! Yes Lord, it was much needed. Thank you for being so candid, transparent, and offering practical real world solutions!

[swtdrh]

A lot of the things she going over takes maturity!

[patriciaguy]

Wow Lynn thank you for your insight and especially about old school verses new school. You truly open my eyes

[karn]

I dont share bank accounts and i dont lend money for bussiness😂

[riyaadrhoda]

It doesn't really matter if she makes ten times more than you. To get the best out of marriage both parties should be independent. Decide beforehand what each is responsible for. What's yours is your's and what's mine is mine is the best way to go. You've got your car and I've got mine. As an independent strong man don't expect any special favours if you women earns more. That's the way you are going to get her respect and keep your self respect.

[kage_]

Such wisdom and knowledge. God bless you and keep you in strength 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[chandlerc]

If your husband is a good guy and he doesn't have the money to take the couples out, either let him pay with the joint account card or give him cash before yall leave home. Never embarrass him or make him feel less than.