My Wife Makes More Money Than Me...

My Wife Makes More Money Than Me...

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[amamadarkly]

The fact he feels insecure and is bold enough to admit it means he wants to be the provider for her. So it means he is NOT a leech. He should get over it and enjoy their success together. There are other men who actually want their wife to be their provider, envy her when she relaxes, and don't care if she is chronically stressed. Sounds like he is a good one and just married an ambitious woman.

[fundamonium]

Don’t let it make you feel insecure, let it motivate you and feel loved by your woman!

[zerocrutch]

I worked 50-60 hours a week helping put my wife through nursing school and now she makes around 10K more a year than me and I was like…finally. It was nice to take my foot off the gas and we can just build a good life for ourselves and the kids. Count your blessings dude.

[Kknderbueno]

I would 100% take a husband who makes 1/3 of what I do but is a wonderful person who fairly shares other labor with me than a husband who makes 3x as much but doesn’t contribute elsewhere.
I really do understand a lot of men have this insecurity in part because they have been socialized that they are useless unless they are providing more than anyone else financially, but I hope men like this caller can see they have much more to offer their spouse’s than money.
I have seen multiple times a man’s insecurity like this contributing to him to lash out and losing his spouse, which often they inevitably end up believing was about the money when really it wasn’t the money, it was their response to the money.

[DropsofJupiter]

My last relationship. Only he tried to destroy everything I worked so hard for to put me lower than him. Never saw it coming.

[soniachambers]

He is afraid she will leave, because she is financially on top. That could be one reason.

[vrunner]

With time he will get angry, jealous, and she will leave him. He must find his purpose and find a non monetary way to compensate for the imbalance and be happy about it.

[JustxSaiyan]

Recently turned into a stay at home dad while the wife goes out n makes double of what we both use to make. Best decision ever!

[juancolon]

Its a marriage brother. Ive had jobs were ive made more than my wife and shes had jobs where shes made more at times as well. Dont worry about it. Youre not a leech as long as you're doing your duties and responsibilities as a husband and father.

[myshadowstalksme]

My ex husband was jealous of my accomplishments. It’s a real thing. He even tried to get me fired from my job.

[jhpt]

I've never understood this insecurity. My wife makes quite a bit more than I do - she has a terrific career, and I couldn't be happier for her. I've never once felt challenged or threatened or whatever. I want the best for her (and, by extension, us, since we are a team).

[mariatorres]

My dad would get angry about my mom, she made about $10/hr more than he did, & he had a government buildings job. She could never stand up for herself. She'd try to explain that it didn't matter which one of them made what money, because it was ALL 'their' money. Sigh. Men just don't make sense sometimes. 😒

[pattytheseeker]

It's about power, my husband finally got over that mess! I'm really happy about that. In my marriage it's "our money." Certain things, I make the final decision, other thing, he does. Sometimes we disagree, all couples do. We work it out & it's not about our money. We've been married for 35 years.

[mollygrace]

I’m not worried about the income, but the lack of direction. If she makes good money, he should use this time to explore things he’s passionate about.

Also a woman won’t necessarily leave because she earns more money but she won’t stay out of dependency or fear, either, so you’ll need to treat her right.

[MommasPeachCobbler]

Insecurity comes from a belief of loss of power, creating fear. That mindset creates tension in home. Insecure man begins to subconsciously treat his wife differently, unkind. He believes he is in competition with her, instead of an equal partnership. Some weak minded men actually cheat on wife over this fear.

[jessicasmarker]

Then don’t be a leech. Do some extra things for your wife around the house so you feel valuable and she feels appreciated for her work ethic. Make sure the house is clean, have some meals prepared. If you have kids take in some more responsibility. She will appreciate that and the extra work might help you not feel like a burden.

[heatherward]

My husband felt relieved he could count on me when he was down. At one point, I was the main breadwinner. I think it gave him confidence knowing money wasn’t the reason we’re still together and he can be vulnerable without being seen as weak. He’s awesome!! We’ve been married 24 years and we still support each other. Money is such a small thing!! It comes and goes, but we know the other will always be there

[blueblazestar]

As a woman, I can’t relate to the feeling but as a wife I understand that my husband would feel the same way. This guy feels like he has lost his sense of purpose, which to him was to provide for his wife and family. I really hope he can get through this and realize how him being there for her is crucial to her mental stability. One thing he might try to do is make her things, plan dates, or make sure the house is in peak mechanical condition. That would probably give him the sense of purpose he’s lost and make her super happy that he’s contributing so much in his own way that she doesn’t have to dedicate time/money to

[mimichelle_]

I have witnessed a similar intense insecurity. I wholeheartedly tried to understand and be flexible for him.

Long story short — I diminished myself in the spirit of love. Minimizing myself almost ruined my life.

Never compromise yourself. That was my lesson

[raysimms]

I have always been the bread winner my wife has been in nursing school and now she starts off making abiut 15k more then me and I feel great about it.doesnt matter one bit to me who makes what.we are one and it feels amazing