Making Friends as an Adult | Mark Shapiro, MD | TEDxSonomaCounty

Making friends as an adult is hard. At the same time, the benefits of friendships are multiple and powerful. In this compelling TEDx presentation, Dr. Mark Shapiro makes the case for pursuing new friendships and offers a step by step pathway to help you move forward in an authentic way.

[joshbarros]

Making friends is hard, keeping friends close is 4 times harder

[nithishrajk.b]

With the same note.. Maintaining childhood friends in adulthood is equally hard.

[wy]

The essence lies in the fact that relationships between adults are always based on transactions, and there is no place for relationships to germinate without selfishness, as innocent as in childhood.😑

[szilvijuhasz]

For me the main problem is to find people who have similar values and interests.

[suzannerodriguez]

It gets quite frustrating when I am always initiating phone calls or texts and none of my family or friends even bother to reciprocate.

[razia]

There are friends for a reason, friends for a season and friends for life. I only met the ones for a season 😞

[garrettspeakeasy]

Multiple reasons.
We are so busy, everyone is so fricken busy. Another is social media ironically has made us less social and way more unauthentic as well as making us lack vulnerability which has been the biggest point of recreating my social life in adulthood. Joined a mens group which has helped alot.

[TheSapphireSprit]

I have attachment issues (abandoned at one month and then foster care) so I have extreme problems with making and keeping friends. I have one friend now and she is distant lately. The loneliness is crushing.

[ajwalker]

I've had friendships start the text messaging route that have turned into meaningful relationships. All it takes is both people being willing to extend that hand and ask "Do you want to be my friend?" I've seen kids do this all the time.

[shubhasreedharan]

We need to be very careful. First you have to observe the traits of the person and make sure that the person is totally harmless. Never become friends with anyone who takes advantage of others.

[sharminiserasinghe]

You can find plenty of fairweather 'friends' if you have money to spend on them. But the moment you fall ill or need their help, they simply disappear.

[DaTJo]

The most important friendship I will ever have is with myself. My friendships with others extends from there.

[gerikyte]

I never feel lonely..I have plenty of things to occupy myself with and frankly I prefer to be alone..

[carpo]

Making friends is easy, maintaining friendships is the difficult part. That's why we stick with those we've known for a long time because they can accept absences for a long time and then reconnection

[KW-mzpn]

I believe it’s the current society and culture in which we reside.

[naimulhasan]

Making friend is easy
But Maintaining Friendship is hard.

[annieconway]

Moving around as we do nowadays also makes making new friends again and again becomes more like hard work

[TheSjsicilia]

In our culture we do not revere the older and the wiser...

[ThePleasantPixel]

loneliness has spiked after covid for understandable reasons

[plaurenzi]

Great talk! It made me thing of a meme I saw the other day that said "When you are in your 20s, 15 people can show up to the door and you're always ready - When you are in your 30s, it take 2 months preparation to see a friend." Now I wonder how it goes as we get to our 40s, 50s, 60s, etc. ?