3 Easy Ways To Make New Friends As An Adult

Discover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression:

Here are some more tips on how to be a leader so you can meet cool people, friends, or a social circle after college!

Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account:

Once you graduate, it can be very hard to figure out where you're supposed to go to meet cool new people or how you're supposed to actually make them your friends. And that's why in this video I want to give you three awesome ways to meet cool people after graduating and this is gonna be really useful if you've just graduated or you may have graduated a long time ago but you're moving to a new city and you have to start over or quite frankly, anywhere in between; because these are the principles for making friends in any situation.

So first one is this — be the hub. Now, what I mean by this is if you think of a bicycle wheel, it's got a bunch of spokes coming into a central hub. And the question is — in your friend group, are you more like the hub — the person who is organizing events saying, "Let's go to my house," or "guys, do you wanted me to this restaurant at 7?" or "go to this movie on Wednesday night," — or are you the person who is the spoke? — sitting at home waiting for the text to come in which sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't.

That is the downside of being a spoke. Yes, you don't have to take charge of organizing events but you're only invited some of the time and even worse, when one of the other spokes has a party or a cool event and they can't invite everybody, who is the person that they invite? It's inevitably the person that invited them; it's that hub.

0:32 First tip on how to meet cool people after college is to be a hub
1:43 Second tip is to be the beacon
4:27 Saying yes to things that you'd never say yes to

Connect With Us Further:
Instagram: @CharismaOnCommand

Or if you want to see our personal stuff (regular life + playing music):
Instagram: @CharlieHoupert
Instagram: @IamBenAltman

[msaali]

1. Be the inviter/hub
2. Stand out by stating outstanding hobbies
3. Say yes to whatever

[noahbrandini]

The more relaxed you become with your own differences, the more comfortable you will start to feel just being YOU. Celebrate being different, off the beaten path, a little on the weird side… your own special creation. If you find yourself feeling like a fish out of water, by all means, find a new river to swim in. But DO NOT change who you are; BE who you are.

[hawkfandan]

As an introvert, this is sounding like a chore. Kinda like housework, you don't wanna do it but if you want a better life, you kinda have to. What a drag... lol

[danman]

Do you guys think you can do a video on how to be articulate? I often stumble over my words when I try explain something, and sometimes my words don't match to my thoughts. Any solutions?

[calebford]

"A man that wants friends must show himself friendly"

[SeanJung]

1. Be the hub - Be in the charge of organizing event
2. Be the beacon - become the type of person whom people want to hang out with based on my hobby or whatnot
3. Saying yes to things that has never been said yes - try something new that has never done before

[rebeccac.]

Please make a video on how to accept yourself as you are while you improve yourself?? I’m not sure how those concepts can coexist! Thanks! So much respect for the dedication you and Ben put into this channel!!!

[lilaah]

The beacon one is important - even in some modest sense, you have to demonstrate value for people to come to you 'spontaneously' or to include you. But if you're a true beacon, you're going to have to deal with most people being more drawn to you than you to them, which is strangely taxing.

[Hades]

As a natural organizer, you're right. The person I always seem to want to talk to is the person with the most stand out traits. In the sense that their quirks are a symbol of how we'd get along and are similar to one another. Like wearing a video game t shirt, or talking about philosophy.

[brenkielty]

Hey Ben and Charlie! These videos have been super helpful and I have grown so much more social and less shy ever since I started watching. I have a challenging situation... I go to an exclusive art school with only 10 students, and yeah, they are all 100% introverted. I've done everything to try and converse with them, invite them over to hang out, shoot em a smile or make sure to say hi every day, but no matter how talkative I can get them to be, they always revert back to square one (their super-shy selves), the next morning, and it's like I have to coax them to socialise with me again and again. I've felt like giving up and not speaking to anyone at my school ever again many times. I'll probably be with these other students for 3 more years, so I want to build strong relationshps with as many as I can. What might I be doing wrong, or what more can I do? Thank you guys for making these videos!! Saved my life.

[epiczacko]

Thank you so much for this video! I was signed up for a college I didn't want to go to by my dad and everyone there is at least 30 years old. I've been desperately wanting to meet new people and I've been laying awake at night trying to find a solution.

[yitzgoldberg]

Remember this: Random people aren't strangers, they are just friends you haven't met yet. Great video Charlie❤

[carlosm]

Just wanted to say, thank you thank you thank you for all that you do. You are an inspiration, and thank you for all the advice! ❤

[florflor]

Thank you, Charlie. All my closest friends moved out of town and I'm not good at meeting new people. I get invited all the time to different places but I never say yes. I suppose it was obvious, but I did not realize till I saw this video. Thank you!

[Bladeclaw]

Awesome Video Charlie!
Yes. Some of my friends do create hubs where we meet up with people who share interests and then you have to get to know some people and invite them to your hub to continue the friendship. Cause in school you are always seeing the same people over and over in a group every day for a set time and you eventually become friends. But out there after college you only talk to strangers just for a few seconds or minutes. And if you don't create a strong impact, chances are you won't see them again where you would have if you spend more time with them like in college.

I learned to go to activities where people are doing what you like or try something new that you are curious about. Then create a new event of something you like and invite that group to a different activity. For example going to a salsa dancing class and then taking the group to sushi or BBQ right after. This also depends on the group of course. Some events I went to, the group just sits, watches, does not communicate and leaves. So you have to break the ice with people. And always remember to change venues with them. :)

[Tom-jupb]

Love it!! I even believe you can take these tips and use them while you are in high-school and college if applied correctly! Especially the first two! Anyways, thanks for bringing us value in every video! Cheers :D

[allybelly]

Making friends after college is such a struggle. Thank you for the helpful tips!

[swampfox]

Love the channel. This was a great video. I graduate college in May so I am sure it will come in handy very soon.

[theoderichgothe]

I was waiting for a video like this. Thank you!

[Lev-The-King]

This is what I was looking for and thought of recently. I came up with 52+ things to do per year with different people every year and have them invite someone new