having an identity crisis? watch this !

having an identity crisis? hopefully this will help! life is complicated and sometimes when you’re sad or confused you just don’t know what to do. i’ve tried looking for videos when i was in the midst of my multiple questionings of life’s purpose but i didn’t really find many helpful videos. i made this video to hopefully crystallize what to do when you feel unsure about yourself. this video is also about mental health and finding yourself and self-discovery type things.

UPDATE: HEY it's me from the future, I made another video, 3 years later talking about having an identity crisis, here's the link:

i make music so this is the link to my single called the ground that holds you

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[lisawilson]

I'm 20 and I have this constant feeling of wanting to combust. every time I see a movie I want to take on the personality, dress sense and every other trait of the main character as if that'll give me purpose. SO MUCH FUN

[reikaken]

One of my main problem is that I can’t seem to find what am I really passionate about. I have so many interests but I never put something that I could say I love.

[dean]

I feel like I’m constantly changing and I act extremely different with different people, and I feel like they see me completely different. Also I base how I see myself on characters I like in shows, and the picture of myself always changes. And when I try to ignore it I just feel like I’m acting and literally do not know who I am :/

[angelshares]

I dont know, i have this weird feeling that i have so many personalities inside of me. One day i am sure i want to be some free spirit living in Thailand and drinking coconut milk, other day i feel like i want to be some classy lady living in ny and drinking champagne, and it is every day. I just can’t stand that i can’t find my identity. And it is not that simple as “just be yourself”. No, everyone around me has found who they are and are happy with it. Im just stuck. It is 1000 harder because i have IG with thousands of followers, and people are waiting to see their view of myself, i hate that they have so many different views of me. And i feel like i confuse them too because one day i am some girly girl and other i’m just completely different, i change my style of clothing, speech, feed, vibe every day. And like.. aghh.. it is not easy. :(((

[katieharrison]

I really needed this. I'm 18 and I feel like I've lost myself entirely. I don't know who I am anymore.

[nonsuspicioustrenchcoat]

I thought that I had a good sense of myself and my self worth, but today I realized how flimsy it actually was. I based those things on the fact I’m smart, a high achiever, etc. when that was even slightly challenged, it started to crumble. It came down so fast I didn’t even realize I was in the ruins and rubble of my own identity. I began to question what my identity was before, what even is a self identity. I thought I made so much progress, but now I’m realizing I was only able built so high because the materials I used for my tower were cheap and flimsy.

[johnrainsman]

I do. I have reason to believe that my ASD makes me stand out and makes others perceive me a certain way. Do you know how often I said dumb things, like at work? I stupidly mentioned a man’s right to hit a woman for self-defense, and a new coworker proposed a new topic. And I doubt she likes me, because when I was casually chatting with a baker while waiting for the desserts, she entered and said “harassing the baker, John?” I asked why she thought that, and she said “Because you’re John.” Or how about the time I told a coworker (whom I didn’t think would resent this, since he’s clownish, snuck up on a guy, and once made a weight joke to him) “put a sock in your àss. I mean mouth.” Of course, he actually did resent that and told me I can’t speak to him that way. I didn’t intend harm; he had interrupted a question of mine to another worker to (if I remember correctly) playfully diss me. I guess I was annoyed with the clownish interruption, but I didn’t mean for it to be obvious. When I apologized later, he replied unfairly: “you’re good, man. You just need to learn how to speak to people.” Way to make me feel better. And that's not the worst part. I was once taken to my boss's office with her and a high-ranking chef. The chef told me that I've been touching my coworkers too much. Not THAT type of touch, of course not! Just casual ones, like on arms or shoulders. I was always very outgoing at work. When I asked her if anyone reported a complaint, she said it didn't matter (so I guess yes). She told me that we need the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment; that I pretty much shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school (we're a university's catering service). That I shouldn't tell my stories because they may be inappropriate to my coworkers. Now yeah, I pretty much don't have a filter, and sometimes I guess I do say "inappropriate" stuff at work, but not horribly nor intentionally. I just like to joke around and have fun with people. I really didn't get specific information from the chef about what and who. She understands/ likes that I'm outgoing, but she made it sound risky and in need of limits, for good behavior and my coworkers' sake. And again, that I shouldn't touch them without consent. But seriously, I'm not a creep or Joe Biden. I didn't mean to be so "handsy." I'm so embarrassed about the lecture. Have I really gone that far at work? I've been hating myself since then. If I got into some accident, I would actually want the chef and the boss to see it. Now that might sound harsh and maybe spiteful, but let's just put it this way: if someone I disliked got injured, I wouldn't care at all about their faults, I would just want them okay. I would suddenly appreciate them, you know?

[mirandac]

stop I love how calm and beautiful your voice is. it makes me feel a lot more reassured about this. thank you! <3

[zescarn]

I’m 21, and I feel complete hopelessness and confusion. Thank you for this video, it’s such a joy to find a person who came across at least some similar problems. I hope one day I can wake up without any addiction and feeling of total white noise 24/7. Thank you and I wish you all the best! You’re beautiful in every way imaginable, never forget that!

[Lunar_DeBrie]

you summed it up perfectly, i'm gonna go cry about how there are actually hundreds of other people experiencing this exact same problem and i hope we can get through it together ♡

[Ilikecats]

For me, like I’ve been criticized for how I talk and how I look, but one of the main problems for me is that I’m acting differently to different people and I don’t know which one is myself anymore. I’m not quite sure if I like some of the things I do or if it’s just something I do because others are doing it. Thank you for the video! I will try to write about it and hopefully this will be over soon!

[zainahalireza]

I feel like I don’t wanna know my real self cuz I’m not sure what type of person I would be, I don’t like that I have fake personalities but it’s very complicated and it’s easier to just be fake

[lalalanding]

I've read this somewhere - "the sense of self is developed by the sense of self that is given to you by the people around you"

[praisethesunstudios]

Thank you so much for making this video. I’m an eighth grader and I just realized how much of an identity crisis I am going through. This really helps. Thank you.

[theotauriainen]

I do journal buuuut it’s so crappy, just found it under my desk and I was like meh why not.
I’m constantly questioning myself and my place on earth, right now I have a choice to make, either I go with my artsy passion or I go with my science passion. It’s hard but I’ve realised that I might have to go with the artsy one to put my health first because I’m not really in a good place to go through the kind of pressure I would if I go with science (I’m talking about a Swedish thing where you are to choose a major for 10-12th grade and switch school, it’s kinda hard to explain) this video definitely helped, just knowing that I’m not alone in this is helpful enough. Thanks

[alantis]

Very underrated video and honestly this should be shown in schools. Thank you ^^ (love your vibes btw)

[denaejones]

Just wanted you to know that your bangs are gorgeous. They flatter your face and person so well❤️

[jenniferanderson]

I am about to turn 20 and feel really empty, i thought i knew what my true goal is, and i thought i knew how my personality is like. Today I call off school just to sit alone in my room because it might be overwhelming to be around with a lot of people when i am feeling conflict inside. I experienced so many kind of experiences growing up because i moved quite often and somehow surrounded with toxic environment. Some years and places are amazing and some are really traumatizing. It changes me over time. I am sometimes hella confident then some day feeling insecure and hit the rock bottom. Thank you for the comfort, it makes me feel that i am not alone :)

[noahbowman]

I feel like this video was make specifically for me! Almost all the things you mentioned perfectly described me! I’ve been overthinking literally everything about myself, my character, and my interests. There’s parts of me that I want to improve, change, and there’s a type of person that i want to become, but I want to still have a uniqueness and an individuality to myself! Thanks for the video!

[llyr]

sooo i'm trying to solve my own little identity crisis rn, with just journaling, I've made a looong list of the things I'm unsure about, and now I'm just writing a paragraph about each of the things and it already started to help, so thanks a lot💖