3 Types of Identity Crisis You Didn't Even Know You Had

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About this video essay:
An exploration of 3 different types of identity crisis, how they are reflected by stories, and how we can deal with them.

Chapters:
0:00 Introduction
4:11 Type 1: Displacement
7:18 Type 2: Constrictment
10:43 Interlude: A Premature Victory
13:39 Type 3: Overwhelming Freedom
17:23 What to do?

Further Reading:

Media included:
300; 500 Days of Summer; A Beautiful Mind; A Fantastic Woman; A Star is Born; Ad Astra; Arrival; Avatar; Beautiful Boy; Before Midnight; Before Sunrise; Before Sunset; Billy Elliot; Blade Runner; Blade Runner 2049; Bo Burnham’s Inside; Brokeback Mountain; Call Me By Your Name; Cinderella; Cloud Atlas; Crazy Stupid Love; Dances With Wolves; Dead Poets Society; Easy Rider; Eat Pray Love; Eight Grade; Fight Club; Garden State; Ghostbusters After Life; Good Will Hunting; Green Book; Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone; Her; Ikiru; Inside Llewyn Davis; It’s a Wonderful Life; Jurassic Park; Jurassic World; Knight of Cups; Last Night in Soho; Lost in Translation; Mid90s; Minari; Moonlight; Mr. Nobody; Noah; October Sky; Office Space; Paterson; Pig; Rebel Without a Cause; Silence; Sorry to Bother You; Sound of Metal; Spencer; Spiderman; Star Wars; Synecdoche, New York; Terminator 2; The Danish Girl; The End of the Tour; The Farewell; The Fountain; The Great Beauty; The Intern; The Last Duel; The New World; The Perks of Being a Wallflower; The Pursuit of Happyness; The Road; The Royal Tenenbaums; The Secret Life of Walter Mitty; The Tree of Life; We Are Your Friends; Where the Wild Things Are; Whiplash

Music:
Slow Meadow – Tethered to the Earth
Dexter Britain – What is Lost
Dexter Britain – Lost in Light
Jesse Brown – Light With Factor Eight
Jude Cosmo – Fade Into Light

Additional Music:
Caleb Etheridge – Shooting Star

[LikeStoriesofOld]

Happy holidays everyone! If you can, please do stick around until the end, I put way too much effort in that sponsor bit :')

[NevisYsbryd]

"The enemy of art is the absence of limitations." -Orson Welles
An overabundance of 'choice' indicates that the choice is actually meaningless. To have or be something real, necessitates the sacrifice of the potential for the actual(ized).

[_Odyssia_]

It's that time of the year again where we are going to reflect on the things we done. Achievements, failures and just ask ourselves have we accomplished the goals that we wanted that we set for ourselves and became wanted to become, etc. This video couldn't have come at a more opportune moment because I was just having an identity crisis myself. Ive finished my studies and I have no idea what I should do next: do I apply for a job, start planning for a business or just take a break from school and work and do some soul searching? This was just a blessing and reminded me to live in the moment and remember that all that I have done is sufficiently enough and I should love myself and enjoy everything that life has to offer. Thank you, LSOO. This was the best Christmas present anyone could ask for. Happy holidays, everyone❤️.

[daves-c]

I came across the phrase “True Freedom is necessity understood”, and it’s been stuck in my brain since as a mantra against the third identity crisis you speak of.

[jeremymenning]

My own existential and identity crisis led me on a journey that included finding and following LSOO.

And for that part of my journey I am quite thankful.

[anybodysouthern]

I grew up pretty privileged and believed that I had most if not all the answers about myself and the world. As I grew up, that all fell apart quite quickly and what was left was someone asking questions about personal meaning. I learned more about myself and my failures and about the world which ended up up-ending my sense of self. This deconstructed my identity to the point that it now feels like Wikipedia. I don't inherently feel like a person, just an accumulation of knowledge about the world. I have no true dreams for my future or anything else pertaining to me as an individual.

All that said, this video is quite good and touches on this state of being with no answers, so I just thought I'd give my perspective for reiteration and fun.

[JaydevRaol]

There are so many video essays channels out there (oversaturated tbh) but LSOO is one of those few channels that I've seen that consistently produce quality content that's both meaningful to its audience and engaging to watch. Thanks, TOM, your videos have helped me a lot. ❤️

[kymelatejasi]

I've been needing help with this feeling of being lost and you post this. Thank you. Many of your videos have been very informative and usually help, even if just a little bit. 💖

[di]

People don’t really care about your story. At the end you are the only person that truly cares about you and sometimes you have to free yourself even if you cannot physically escape your situation.

[sonchik]

The fact that you just uploaded a new video already made my life better

[Maverick]

Four words to describe it all: "From becoming to being"
Thanks for the video and happy holidays!

[meanderingmarley]

I finally got back in touch with the funny, carefree guy that I was in high school. It happened, after three divorces, during a five-year deployment to Iraq/Afghanistan. How'd the real me wind up so far away? Oh, well, it's great having him back. 🤗

[Renee]

Moved beyond belief.. coming across this video came at just the right time for me personally. You were able to explore, explain, and converge such a complex topic with just the right film references, in a hugely impactful and harmonious way. It made me think, feel, and want to watch films I haven't seen yet, and rewatch some of my favorites. And like others, I ended it with tears.. New subscriber and patreon member here.. thank you, thank you!!!

[miguelhenriquecosta]

Your stories remember me of a friend's stories, and she passed away a few years ago. Hearing your storytelling is the closesr thing to hearing her rambles. Man, I miss her so much. Thanks you, friend. For keeping her closer.

[ImAFuckingDuck]

Four minutes in and I can already tell this is going to be a great one. This is just what I needed!

[oliverdurkin-cinematograph]

You Tube is a richer place by the presence of this channel. Sincere gratitude and respect. There when you need it, like stories of old.

[dharmabum]

Watching this for the 3rd time and seeing myself in everyone. In many ways I feel I am experiencing all the types of identity crises. Primarily letting go of my mothering role as my children are adults (and we've grown apart in our interests...). Thank you for this. Off to watch some of the films that were highlighted in this video.

[anishkumarmondal]

I'm feeling the identity crisis from past couple of months and you posted this. Thank you❤️

[connor]

Haven't even had time to watch but I know it will be some of the best content on this platform. Seriously, your writing and presentation are exceptional and I look forward to every video you make. You're also the reason I'm going to be subscribing to Curiosity Stream

[cesarmorin]

This video is the hug Ive been longing for.