Why Can't I Fall In Love? Dr Sheri Jacobson

Do you feel like no matter what you do, a secure and loving relationship is just out of reach? You're not alone. In this short video, award-winning retired psychotherapist Dr Sheri Jacobson explores why this struggle is more common than we think—and what may be going on beneath the surface.

Whether it’s down to attachment patterns, early life experiences, or self-esteem challenges, understanding why you feel stuck can be the first step toward creating meaningful connections.

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This video is for informational purposes only and does not replace personalised medical or psychological advice. If you are struggling emotionally or in your relationships, please speak with a qualified mental health professional.

[maedenashagre]

I never understand what love(relationship ) is. It makes me feel weird! But, I have a big compassion heart.

[akk]

I never knew there were others with whom i can relate to

[meilanodarwish]

I feel so sorry for the people who had to search this... It's hard i wish we were normal

[eldiablonoob]

I can't feel love I don't know how but all I do is act that I love people around me is that a
Disorder or something??

[BrianBloop]

Seeing all these comments kinda makes me feel better..knowing I'm not the only one that struggles with this

[Warriorlyy]

this honestly needs more views, even though im not fully in its already helping. its hard when everyone around you has their crush of the week or they just love another, while you’re standing here wondering if maybe there’s something wrong with you or that maybe you’ve just missed the signs of love snd you’re just blind.
honestly i don’t get how people fall in love so easily.

[Backend.tattoos]

It's weird like I never got the feeling of loving someone like I know what love is but I never felt it. I tried wanting to be with somebody but never felt romantically in love. When I try to act romantic it feels like I am pretending because I don't feel anything while doing it. I never talk about it in person because I don't want ppl to think I am trying to be edgy or pretend to be broken or some dumb shit but I was just curious on if ppl grow up to be this way or are born this way or if there was something wrong with me

[gachahazel]

I’ve dated so many people but never actually loved them

[littleswallow]

1. Your notion of love is idealized
2. You have low self-esteem
3. Fear of intimacy
4. Fear of abandonment
5. You're co-dependent
6. You've experienced childhood abuse
7. Addictive behaviors
8. Perfectionism
9. Personality disorders, e.g. BPD

It hurts to learn you fit 6-7 of these things. I've always fled all opportunities of being in a relationship because they terrify me more than they bring reassurance. At the beginning of a potential relationship it feels great and exciting but soon it becomes overwhelming, burdensome and I want nothing else than flee away from the other person

[minicc]

My heart feels so cold when it comes to romántic love. Nothing has been able to melt it, I'm a kind and gentle person tho so I dont get it. I'm 25 and afraid I will never fall in love, I've tried before too.

[fauziafafa]

i never date anyone, simply i just dont find anyone that attractive. but deeply in my heart i want to love and be loved too, i want to depen on someone, share my days, i want to be someone's home. but i barely find anyone. i found 4-5 points mentioned is relatable.. it hurts to think that i might never find love. im actually scared i would die alone at this point.

[janejanier]

My last relationship was toxic and he often neglects me. He hurt me with his selfish decisions. And now, I'm at this point that I'm empty and just sad. I can't just feel love anymore.

[twishaghosh]

All of this comment made me feel so seen, and finally, I am feeling I am not alone with this feeling!

[asrielandciara]

I don’t think I’m capable of falling in love. I never get crushes, and haven’t ever dated anyone. I also have no interest in sex what so ever despite being nearly 16. I just feel like everyone will dissapoint me and nobody really gets me (I’m autistic). I do WANT to fall in love and spend my life with someone and I’m really lonely, but I just don’t seem to be able to form true connections with anyone.

On the subject of the video, I have a mood disorder, low self esteem, am definitely a person looking for a ‘perfect partner’, am afraid of abandonment and I always push people away.

I know I’m pretty young, but I’ve already pretty much written off the idea of a relationship in my life.

[roxanniemiller]

I have never been in love and I've never seen anyone who catches my eyes . I don't even know the meaning of love romantically. Sometimes it feels as if I don't know what I want in love because I can't feel it or understand it

[Ninovium.]

I thought I loved someone, but sadly I didn’t I just thought of them as a very good friend

[KRISTINAGMLS]

I am logical, and I dont know what the hell is this LOVE thing everyone talks about is, like the butterfly in your stomach. I do care and help my friends and family, I was also married for 16 years and am still in a good friendship with my ex, I dont like stupid drama and I do not tolerate annoys crap. I can love and care, but I never ever felt the butterfly, hell I can brake up and move one in less then a min lol sounds crazy. But I do wish I one day feel this butterfly feeling everyone brags about .

[ephyaphink]

Low self-esteem, this is so true people keeps admiring me all the time buh I'm still not kk wit myself making me think I don't deserve to be loved

[isam]

I don't know what love even means

[azure]

I don't feel scared of falling in love or have bad self esteem but I am really worried I can't fall back in love ever again after I got rejected to someone I was extremely attracted to. I never felt the same way again and I miss that feeling even though it was one sided with me making all the effort. I'm confused