How Covert Narcissists Use HUMOR | It's No Laughing Matter

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This is no laughing matter when it comes to how covert narcissists use humour. Beware those award-winning smiles and the infectious laughter that some of them have. The covert narcissist is not your friend.

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[runarantila]

The narcissist doesnt have humor. Instead they seek out to put you down if you attempt to be funny. Their sense of humor is about belitteling others

[reneemorgan]

Every single word about this is true...I was told most of my life how SENSITIVE I was because of the jokingly said put downs and negative projections. What I know now is all of it was evil intentioned....

[TheTeganOsmondChannel]

They appear to use their sense of humor, or lack thereof, just to be sarcastic and put others down. They really are not funny at all if you scratch the surface. They are actually very dry and boring

[carriedillmann]

Yes he did
He said “ you don’t have a sense of humor
I said “ I don’t find you funny”

[dontbelongherefromanother]

I once had a narc out of the blue say "I was dressed like a prostitute" around classmates. I shook my head in amazement. You are caught off guard and don't really know how to react. It's so quick and spontaneous that you don't see it coming

[jessicariddell]

I find that they use humor in a different way too. You touched on it when you mentioned they use it as a disguise. However, it is far more than just a disguise for their bullying "joking". Mine used it to hide his insecurities behind. He was so ashamed of his true self that he created his false self to be a class clown, thinking that no one would like him unless he constantly behaved as a comedian. This was quite detrimental to any conversation where sincerity or seriousness was required because everything was spun into a joke.

[susmitak]

Yes, many times he did that in public to belittle and devalue me. When I protested, he said I am over sensitive and not smart enough to understand his sarcasm and subtle humor. He is more toxic and nasty than Coronavirus...

[alethiamillner]

My ex was a story teller. Then he used his "humor" to make subtle digs that were always just"jokes". He also would laugh from the belly at other peoples plights and at scenes in movies where the good guy would be made to suffer. Smh

[orchid]

You are so correct the eyes and the smile total disconnect, smile warm an brilliant, eyes dark calculated laser accuracy nothing there ever.

[tturing]

Yes the worst are parents who do this to their children. And then retort that the child "can't take a joke". Reprehensible

[northofthefray]

Right on!! I agree, they always want to be the center of attention and use you as their scapegoat to get there. Over the years, I've learned to pick up on this type of behavior and I make sure I"m the voice in the room to bring in a follow-up joke against the narc. They absolutely hate when I do this but I love to avenge those who don't feel strong enough to fight back. This was a great video! Thank you!

[GS-stns]

I was married to I don't know what, a psychopathic covert narcissist I would think. His eyes and smile never engaged. I noticed that when I was 19 and I didn't know anything about borderline. His mouth looked like he was trying to pronounce the letter "F" and got stuck . Other people don't understand they think he's just a lovely man, but when I look at a person and they smile, their eyes have got to engage or I dismiss them.

[jensbasement]

What makes it difficult to discern a covert, is the fact that not everybody is going to call them out especially in social situations. Awkward social situations is where coverts thrive in using superficial charm to comfort people into trusting them. No one is seeing the other side that manipulates, gloats, and instigates drama behind the scenes. You'll know when a covert is in the room because it might seem normal on the surface but something feels totally off. They can be nice to your face, but as soon as you leave the room, be trashing you behind your back or devaluing you in some way. They really are insecure and get a sense of security by playing this "nice guy" card, so no one will question them.

[josephosullivan]

They are actually not funny at all, of course they think they are so funny, but it is always at someone else's expense and with the intent of cruelty. In my family of 7 siblings I was gang mobbed. Mocked, humiliated, degraded, belittled, minimised, all in the name of "humour", but I wasn't laughing. Humour is perfect for gaslighting a target, it's just a bit of fun they say. "You take everything literally" and "You're crazy" were two favorite lines family members would chorus together at me. They would look each other knowingly in the eyes as they laughed callously. I really resonated with you said about the eyes. I used to go clubbing with an ex covert narc friend and every time our eyes met on the dance floor, it felt really wrong and I would have to look away. Her manic smile did not match her eyes...at all! At the time, I just brushed it off, but my gut instinct was telling me something and I was too enamoured and entralled by how magical she seemed as a person. She also had a nasty mocking laugh. They don't really 'get' humour and have no clue about satire at all. An actual funny person makes everyone in the room feel better and that is never the intention of the narrcissist. Like you said, they can give it, but they can't take it. A joke about them will ensure that they will get you back at a future date.

[TheLordsbattleaxe]

Yes, a narcissist has used humor to devalue me in public.

[belindamoore]

These 3 characteristics need to be put on billboards across the world!

[ambershaw]

Narcissists knows no boundaries even at funerals, they use their humor as a shield & sword.
At the wake, my NM ripped apart jokingly my cousin who just buried her mum.
I can sympathise that my NM was hurting but it's not a free get out of jail card. I walked away & left the group as I was disgusted with my mum's behaviour at a funeral.
When I raised the incident up months later she changed the subject completely.
What's what they do & they can't help it. & people enable them to carry on with their bad behaviour. 😖😔

[plantisspeaks]

I have experienced this from narcissistic ppl and toxic ppl in general. I find that when ppl try to put you down, it showcases their internal insecurities. I'm a confident person, but I haven't always been. I shared with a narc that I hated that I have weak enamel on my teeth due to it being inherited. So one day when I was happy and on my way to work, he made an undercover comment about the enamel on my teeth and I said, What did you say? He thought I wasn't paying attention. His reply was that he was just joking. I said, why would you joke about something that you know bothers me? He proceeded to tell me I was being too sensitive. I told him that on the contrary...I told him he was being insensitive and that he had better be careful about how he speaks to me because I don't have low self esteem and that I love myself despite my flaws. I was too much for him. He truly wanted to break me down. Thanks be to God that he showed me the light and I had a loyal confidant who supported me when the narc ghosted me and I went no contact. During the two weeks of being ghosted, I became knowledgeable of NPD, alerted others, and I NEVER allowed the narc to come back in my life. Once the spell rubs off and you're able to see a narc's ugly ways, it's up to us to exit left stage as quickly as possible. Since then, two more narcs have tried to get close to me. I know the signs now. Thanks Clarice for your commitment to exposing these real life energy vampires and demonic entities.

[dobler]

Very good video! I was a victim of covert narcissist “humour” before I knew what a narc was. I’d be cool until reaching boiling point and go beserk and I noticed that those POS loved it then I decided to give it right back in a laidback humorous way and that was beautiful!Their over inflated ego deflates quickly!From super bullies, they become super victims and they will still gaslight and wonder, like in my case, how I could be so mean to them and I will say that it worked on me at first.Then, they would go right back to being a bully and I would let things happen until I had enough and gave blow for blow and their gaslighting didn’t work because I simply didn’t want to hear it and their egos would shatter in a million pieces.Yes, they will smear but it’s possible to own the situation and become polarizing, some(the covids😂😂 and their supply) will hate and smear but some will give a lot of love and that’s when those covert narcs will lose it🤣🤣🤣.My downfall was letting things happen with my siblings and that was a big mistake. I know that it’s not for everyone, just my experience really😀.

[yonettekelly]

Omg Omg! I am in utter disbelief. For 13 years am married to my husband and this is exactly what he does to people. I always pick it up and noticed that this is not right and every time I talk to him about it he would get defensive and upset and say he is joking and am too sensitive.
Every thing you are saying here are the behavior of my husband. My eyes are now open to everything.
I am in utter shock. Omg!