ENFP Love, Dating And Romance

What is it like to date an ENFP and what does an ENFP need to have happiness and satisfaction in their relationships? Let's talk about the ideal ENFP date and what ENFPs need the most in a relationship.

Communication (Introverted Feeling)
Privacy (Introverted iNtuition)
Independence (iNtuitive Judging)
Kindness (Feeling Judging)

These are the golden four needs for ENFPs in relationships. They are the primary fuel an ENFP needs to get through their life and day to day struggles. If others can communicate with you as an ENFP and show sensitivity and listening, you’ll have a more easy time entering a flow state. You’ll find it more easy to connect with them and express yourself. A sensitive partner will make the ENFP feel they are taken seriously and that their words matter. ENFPs, do you remember a time when you tried to express your feelings to somebody, but it felt like you were talking to a wall?

Another important one is privacy. The ENFP is naturally free spirited and wants to be able to speak their mind and make their own decisions, but needs people who can give them privacy and space when necessary. If the other person can know when to look away and respect your time alone, it will be easier for you to lift your wings freely. People that are private and show hidden depth are highly attractive to ENFPs and other extroverted iNtuitives. The Extroverted iNtuitive loves the thought of cracking open a nut or discovering the hidden wisdom inside something.


The third thing is independence of mind. If you feel that you have your partners or friends permission to do your own thing and to do things your own way, you will be able to show more creativity and more openness. Independent types won’t need you to constantly micromanage them. They will take initiative and keep things interesting. A partner that can stay focused and does not easily get distracted will give you a feeling of a potential future.

Last but not least, the ENFP personality type in love and romance needs kindness and support from other people. A partner that won’t try to compete with them or one-up them every day. A partner that will aid them so they can achieve victory in whatever they want to do. Small acts of kindness and signs of support can get you a long way.

[cherigreen]

I am ENFP married to ISTJ for a long time and our grown married son is an ISTJ. I find the ISTJ's are very loving, kind, and loyal people. They put great value on family and home and close friends. They are very logical types and good listeners. I hope they appreciate my enthusiasm, affection, and free spirit style. I don't think I would enjoy someone that processed information the same as me, I enjoy a different perspective to keep me grounded. I liked your thoughts on the ENFP and INFJ.

[OnsceneDC]

ENFPs have a lot of emotional depth. They need someone who is also in touch with themselves, and their own values. They seek authentic connections, and they need someone who will be real with them (and thus real with themselves).

[ErikThor]

Long story short, there's no perfect match, but if a partner is willing to listen to you and can become more aware of your needs, they might just become one! :)

[conor_tobin]

I am attracted to ENTJs and ESTPs because of their dominance and excitement. I like INFJs because they are deep and fascinating people. I admire the intellect of ENTPs and INTPs. - ENFP

[giuliapasanisidefoscarini]

i’m dating a wonderful INFP boy! he’s the sweetest, dearest person i’ve ever met and we bring out each other’s best 🥰❤️

[mahlina]

I like INFJs as friends more than lovers. Ideally, we’d make a great perfect match as partners, but I just truly enjoy the friendship that comes about it. But people can’t be friends when feelings are involved so there goes that. I always wondered about INFPs. I’ve dated SJs in my past and we don’t get each other. I rather enjoy my independence and love the singles’ life more than couple-hood. I love the freedom of my autonomy to go wherever I want, do whatever I please whenever I want. It’s nice!

[kinethecoach]

I feel so seen, heard, respected and understood (as an ENFP by listening to this video) that I had tears in my eyes! 👏🏼🙏🏼 You really understand the ENFP so much it’s incredible! Also so much respect in the way you talk about each type! I’m going to listen to this amazing content when I need a reminder about who I am in my core + what I need in my close relationships! 🙏🏼

[silentgrove]

"I told you so" goes over great with an ENFP :(
Expanding on my sarcasm. I told you so feels judgemental. It's a disempowering mindset.
We need someone that can see our blind spot and strategize with us.

[snuppeluralei]

I’m an INFP dating an ENFP, after being married to an ISTJ, and let me tell you, the depth and interest in communicate all the time, to go deep, be authentic, the mutual understanding and feeling normal😂 and the creative imagination we share is truly amazing. To be with someone who truly gets you is so safe, compared to someone being opposite, which just leave you lonely in the end, especially for NF’s.

[ecchinacea]

"My ENFP", that sounds so adorable! 😄

[eliciathompson]

I love your videos! Thank you! I'm an ENFP dating an ENFJ. I was married to a troubled INFJ for 16 years. We had a truly wonderful relationship at times and at times, truly terrible. I love watching your videos. They truly do help me to feel validated, understood, and encouraged. I do share these videos at times to others to help them understand themselves and sometimes so others can better understand me. You are such a gifted speaker and so introspective. So intuitive. Really in awe of your insight. Very thankful for the time and effort you expend in seeking to understand other people's personality types in such a non-judgmental fashion. Thank you again!💫

[alicecsend]

I’m ENFP currently dating ISTJ, and for now it’s the best relationship I’ve been in. The hardest part is the fact, that you’ve told about - him being bossy. But I’m trying to be honest with how I feel and how I perceive his words and action. He’s good at taking these words and using them to improve his actions and choice of words. He’s not putting away my enthusiasm almost at all - on the contrary. He was the first man that I’ve ever dated who saw my great enthusiasm, passion, happiness, and he’s been doing everything he can from that moment to keep me happy, and goofy and he loves that in me. I’ve been with ENFJ before, ESTP, probably INFP and probably ISFP, and these were terrible relationships. With my ISTJ I feel really happy, like flying high in the sky for the first time in my life ❤️

[hanksung]

I just wanna say that: A LOT of his outfits looks REALLY GOOD!!! I wish that there are (more) clothes that looks like that is selling out there in H&M or something, you know? Something that is good looking and special, and affordable.

[dvnnixo]

I'm an Enfp and I find the part where you messed up saying "ho hey" 🤦🏽‍♀️ So funny & cute lol

[David-icnu]

(ENFP) Male here Dated an INTJ female. Was the most horrible relationship I've ever experienced. We were both extreme polar opposites, and although I appreciated her insights and different perspectives, her cold and distant demeanor that drew me in wore off. She was very cruel and unforgiving to my mistakes and punish me harshly for it. My heart is still reeling from that relationship.

[prariepryer]

I'm an ENFP firmly in the INTJ camp (our traditional match alongside INFJ who I enjoy more as friends) INTJs represent everything an ISTJ does except they have more tolerance and appreciation for our extroverted intuition, on the surface they may not seem as loyal and dedicated as an ISTJ but that's because they're notoriously hard to win over and it's the sort of challenge I enjoy taking on.

[brainiacK]

It’s hard for me to find potential partners that are interested in or willing to take the test. It’s very hard for me to determine for them what their personality type is. The four ENFP demons you cite are perfect descriptions of the failed relationships I’ve had in the past. Brilliant insight. I wasn’t aware of how much I bristle at the four types, save for The Performer. Being one myself I can be with them, but distraction is always waiting to take us both down. I have a close ENFP friend but we’ve been getting bogged down in who will be the “designated driver” while the other is coming up with something amazing but needs the other to keep our feet on the ground a little.

[ANGEL-ehpd]

I am an Empath too, so QUARENTINE has been an extreme struggle.

[sapkakaplan]

Dating wise Enfp matches an Intj the best and friendship wise a infj the best. If you look at how majoroty enfp's describes the relationships in forums. And look at cognitive functions, compatibility.

[mavr]

Focused, private, sensitive and kind! You just described my husband of 30 years(ISFJ), he keeps me centred 🙂