The Cry It Out Method #shorts

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#babysleep
#sleeptips

[frozensky]

Pretty sure I learned in my psychology class that letting babies cry without meeting their physical and emotional and responding promptly could be disastrous. Erik Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development states that even as early as birth, a child is learning and determining whether the world is a safe, dependable place or if it’s dangerous and shouldn’t be trusted. Letting kids “cry it out” is a direct gateway to trust issues later on. In more extreme circumstances, they could even develop personality disorders that CANNOT BE FIXED no matter how much therapy and medication you do. Their brain structure is still growing, it’s critical that you make sure they know they can rely on you instead of being fearful of you or feeling helpless because they know you won’t help them

[organictribe]

This is abuse in my mind. IT'S A BABY!!! Soothing is love, touch and hearing a parents voice. There's a few studies on this that were 20 year studies. Causes stress on the baby. THEY ARE BABIES!!

[lanaaa]

CIO has been proven to not be harmful. CIO is only done for a few short days typically so the child understands it’s time to sleep at night. Parents are still responding to cries during the day and are there to comfort them. Honestly if a child isn’t sleeping and it’s putting the parent through extreme sleep deprivation where it’s unsafe to care for the child because of risk of falling asleep while feeding them on the couch, it’s a greater good.

[ra-ckzi]

Babies don’t need to “self soothe” when they’ve got a perfectly capable parent to soothe them. Self soothing at such an early stage in their lives only make them seperation anxiety when they’re older and abandonment issues

[zee-zmio]

I’m so sleep deprived, I’m adopting this. I’m losing my mind

[BevRandoms]

When i was an infant probably newborn, my dad slept with me on cold bare hard floor

My dad got a hell yapping the next day from mom😂😭

[djscandel_]

Follow your human instinct to love and nurture your beautiful new born. Don’t use this method it’s not a good one, I have never seen any animals in the animal kingdom let their offspring cry themselves to sleep. All Mammals tend to their off spring. Humans should TOO.

[didipop]

Personally I haven’t done cio with my 14 month old yet, BUT I can see how it’s beneficial. If lack of sleep is impacting the level of care the baby gets during the day cio may help. One has to weigh cost and benefits with babies, it can’t all be perfect no matter how hard we try.

[preacher]

Im not against any methods, I know being a parent is stressful but its a choice.
Honestly to let a small baby cry like that in a dark room?
Imagine we as adults are all alone in a dark room without any mobile phone too and its the middle of night. Everyone is scared and as adults we dont cry but babies express their fear that way. Obviously in the end that baby will sleep after crying for long time.

Its heartbreaking to watch. Poor babies.

[BlueCielo]

It's learned helplessness, not self soothing. I find it absolutely astounding that people think a 6 month old child crying out for emotional support just needs to be left in a dark room alone. I've read stories about people saying their child screamed for over an hour, at that point I'm sorry but that's straight up emotional abuse and neglect. It's biologically normal and natural for infants to wake through the night, to cry and to want comfort. Children don't just have physical needs, like feeding, they also have emotional needs. Babies don't cry for no reason. There's always a reason. And wanting you to hold them and comfort them is not something we should down play, they need physical connection for emotional support.

[manofculture]

Didn't work with my daughter, because she'd only ever cry if she needed something, like feeding or a nappy change.
Leaving her to cry it out at night meant leaving her hungry or with a soiled diaper overnight. Which obviously isn't good.

[darrenmc]

If your 6 month old baby is crying, it's probably because he/she needs their mum or dad. My partner tried to get me to buy into this, I soon put my foot down on that (and I'm fairly passive). Pick your child up, cuddle them, reassure them you're there no matter what. That's much more rewarding. Also, your baby is only a baby for a few short years. They soon won't want to be held. Enjoy the moments. 😊😊

[michellemcneill]

It’s interesting that as a society is seems that we’ve become more depressed, more anxious and we have more addictive tendencies but I’ve never seen anyone question if it’s because of how they were treated as infants. It’s purely speculation but I’d wager a lot of the people today who are mentally ill might have been a poor infant child left alone in a dark room to cry for their parent who never came

[ecard]

Not rely on parents to interject. . .

An infant?

Not rely on parents. . .

You shouldnt have had a kid then, just sayin

[d_voko]

They DO NOT sleep by They convince themselves that they are left alone and none will save them by their stress!!! My god!!! This is illegal!!! I cannot even look at this small crying angel. My heart hurts! Methods like this are the legal way to abuse your children!

[ramxtriya]

This is cruel. Humans don't deserve babies anymore.

[maryjanenoneofyourbusiness]

Make sure their diaper is clean they have eaten and if they are teething maybe a lil baby oragel

[puredust]

These modern techniques are selfish. Babies don't need to self soothe, it's the parents job to love and care for their baby. Letting them cry it out is harmful

[RiaByMe]

This is the most cruel thing someone can do to their babies. How about if your partner lets you "cry it out" all alone just because you are dry and fed and "don't need anything other than a hug to feel loved or safe". "Loved and safe"? What a crap. You can just "cry yourself to sleep".

[marie-ellenjosephides]

Next time you have a bad day at work or problems with your significant other or friends or distress in general. This is the key. Go eat something, use the restroom and then self soothe. Don’t ask anyone to listen to your problems. Self soothe!!!