The Top 4 Boundaries That Make Him WANT You More

Too Many women feel caught between a rock and a hard place when balancing having high standards while not scaring great men away. So in today’s video, I’m going to show you what are the top 4 boundaries you can set that increase desire in great guys while simultaneously pushing away men who'd waste your time.

[melcarter]

I set the boundaries, waited and watched. He was not only incongruent, he made excuses. Such a lack of accountability was an additional turn off. I finally told him, “we’re not a good fit” & “If I dated you, I’d feel both physically and emotionally starved”.

[Tof]

#1: Boundary regarding (common) intention early on (are you going towards the same direction?)
#2 : Boundary regarding physical contact, especially if you get anxiously attached (holding hands, kissing on the lips too soon etc)
#3 : Boundary regarding sex (make sure there is compatibility, emotional connection, exclusivity etc)
#4 : Boundary of exclusivity ( do NOT become exclusive before the 3rd-4th month mark)

[KatErina-iiru]

Number two is huge with physical contact!!! And many women don’t have boundaries in this area or if you get entangled with a narcissist and they start love bombing you and like you said if you haven’t had contact for a long time, you have to be very careful. It’s easy to get swept away.. and quite literally being “swept away” is bad.

Excellent advice thanks Bern ❤😇

[gretchenburton]

This is so helpful. I am a widow of ten years now and have not had relations since 1994 due to something that happened to my husband. Explained this to a man who showed interest and we spent 3 months spending time together. He was astounded. He suddenly found another woman. It was swift and a neighbor lady who drove by, they started flirting, she teeated me with intense disrespect, they connected. The following day I discontinued contact with
him. The relationship was not feeling safe with him. So it was God's protection but still an energetic blow.

[deannapaquet]

I wish Mama said these things when I was young

[shirleyannegoguen]

Ladies, your life will be so less complicated when you apply these healthy boundaries and date with intention.

[Mkr]

All the things you said, I felt instinctively but didn't know the reasons why. The bit you said about a guy making you feel bad for setting boundries: happened very early on in life to me. But since I don't have much dating experience, some of this stuff is news to me. Thanks so much for putting it out there.

[MsLilac]

Sexual chemistry is also important in a relationship. 😊

[iamwisecrowtarot]

You're like the Dad that my inner child needed but never had. Turning 63 in June and never been married, and not a priority. Focusing on my spiritual growth. I find that I outgrow men spiritually quickly.

[lizashone]

Bern, it's such an amazing video. "I'm not the kind of woman that will have early physical contact." This is so consice and clear. I am very sensitive, a widow, and have an anxious attachment style, so I need to really keep myself safe. Also, such great advice to date more than one man. Why be exclusive if I'm checking them out for compatability? Many thanks.

[cguadalupe]

This was so practical. This was helpful and useful. I have those boundaries but I had no idea how vulnerable it would make me to have physical contact. It had been years since I had a romantic hug. Although I waited a month. I am too sensitive to allow too much touching. Now I understand that #2 physical contact is about me as much as it's about the other person.

[monetstallion]

Wow!! I learned SO much from this video!! I have always been affectionate and touchy-feely, but this really made me understand the importance to waiting things out instead of jumping into things gung-ho and giving it all I got! Wow! Now I really understand how important it is to protect myself. Thank you SO much!!

[bbghillini]

Bernardo, you are not only handsome but wise. Thank you for your well-thought-out advice.

[JenniferBell-Gibbons]

Your advice videos have been helpful and I find myself leaning on them for support in my search. I applied and was turned down but still, I've been grateful for the advice you make available through the videos. Thank-you, Mr. Mendez.

[MariaBanholzer]

All true true true! So helpful ! Merci, thank you! Had to hear that again.
❤from South of France

[lesawilkes]

Thanks, Bernardo. I am a fairly open and honest woman and am not into games anyway. Your points tie in 100% with my own instincts. It is very difficult to maneuver with some men. There are plenty of women out there willing to "give it up." I want fulfillment as much as anyone, but know that a too fast "intimacy" tract is a bad bet. Men take advantage when they can, they typically require less emotional involvement, the opposite of what I Need. It hurts to get "dumped" for refusing to have sex right away, but the alternative is for me worse, i.e./ becoming attached to a man who doesn't really want what I want, even though he may profess that he does. It's good to hear you saying what I've figured

[emgee]

Bernardo. Agree 100% Top presentation. Deep down, people actually DO know what they do or don't want . They may believe they can't or won't find it. They may worry whether or not they're "right" or "good enough" for it. However vdeep doesn't, they still DO know what they truly, really do want. The challenge, the problems, the issues, the trip wires happen, is that it takes courage, honesty and integrity to actually say and share what they truly do want. And say it up front and early on. And that's where the stumbles occur. Men as well as women. Women to men. Men to women. Regardless of gender.

[naomikamau]

Awesome advice...for sure..
The physical bit hits home...

[casperinsight]

When a guy claims or sells himself
When he portrays himself a certain way
Ask yourSelf WHY is he trying so hard to CONVINCE you ?!? 🚩

[bettywinn]

Excellent advice. (Wish I would have found your video long ago. It would have saved me a lot of heartbreak .)💔
Women "need" this information very early on in life. We don't get it from our parents or school. Young men and women do not understand each other. We are all out there floundering around without a manual. Thank you.💗