'My Wife Is So Selfish' | Paul Friedman

Selfishness becomes a habit so I want you to start seeing your wife more objectively. Don't take her selfishness personally. Her selfishness has a direct impact on you -- that's true but it is you, your mind who is weighing that impact in relationship to everything else. It's very important for you to recognize that this is sort of a disease of hers. It's a good thing that got out of hand. We are souls, yes, but we are in a physical form. We have a physical body. It's a possession. We have a mind so we're souls. Yes, we're very spiritual. I'm sure you're very spiritual but you have a body and your body is designed all-around one ethos which is survival. So your whole drive to survive is guiding your psychology. Your physiology is guiding your psychology same with your wife and it manifests differently. And what happens is as we mature, we're able to modify the physiological impact on our psychology, that's what thinking is all about and weighing things and analyzing things, and we keep it in perspective. You have to be selfish enough to survive but it does get out of hand. In western psychology is all about making excuses, explaining away these things for the purpose of working on them and that's nonsense because they're missing something very important and this is what I'm going to share with you. You have this little thing called free choice, free will. It comes with the package.

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[TheMarriageFoundation]

Sincere and determined people need truthful information and a good plan to escape the cycle and hole you are in. Incredible marriages ARE possible. They are achieved by:
1. Learning about the mind and mastering it so your changes are permanent and you are always growing.
2. Learning how to behave, and not behave in marriage friendly ways
3. Making unconditional love and ever-expanding happiness your primary and constant missions.

[rafaelflores]

By doing this wouldn’t I be passing my happiness by to keep her happy?

I mean don’t get me wrong, I love my wife and I tend to spoil her but sometimes men want to be spoil as well.

Take this for example: yesterday I went to I.C.U. due to a potassium decompensation. After I got released from hospital and not eating a bite throughout all day, she just gave me our baby and started eating cause she was hungry.
At what cost her happiness should be more important than mine?

[djlamic]

What if she is spoiled and selfish how can I keep being selfless ?

[marketingmatters]

I agree 100%! This video was wonderful! 😀

[takeyouwithme]

thank you
i think it s an advice for both genders