The Fear of Being Alone & Anxious Attachment Style

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In this video, Thais Gibson tackles the fear of being alone faced by the anxious attachment style (anxious preoccupied attachment style). Learn about the negative associations with being alone and how you can take steps to overcome that fear as Thais provides helpful guidance and understanding. For much deeper insights, explore the empowering course, "Stop Abandonment & Rejection in A Relationship," for powerful tools you can begin using immediately.

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00:00:00 - Intro
00:00:28 - Abandonment Fear In Childhood
00:03:02 - I Am Alone Core Wound
00:03:52 - Negative Associations With Being Alone
00:04:48 - How To Be Alone
00:06:23 - What Could You Do Differently
00:07:19 - 7-Day Free Trial: Anxious Preoccupied Reprogramming Course
00:07:42 - Practice Embodiment Work
00:10:37 - Summary / 7-Day Free Trial: Anxious Preoccupied Reprogramming Course
00:11:33 - Conclusion

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[ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Please share your experience with fear of being alone in the comments below!

[roshalllambert]

"If we are afraid of our emotions we are afraid of ourselves"- that line was bang on!!

[AM-utdg]

I’m an FA currently leaning toward my anxious side. Historically, I have always leaned avoidant, but ever since the end of my 6 year relationship I have had struggled with intense separation anxiety. I had no problems spending time alone throughout most of my life and while I was in the relationship. But now that I don’t have a partner, it’s different. I don’t think km afraid of being alone per say, I think im afraid of never being seen, that if I am seen I’ll be rejected, that im a burden to others or that im not good enough, never feeling belonging, im afraid of my biological clock and that I’ll never find love again and never be able to have a family.

[leesburg]

My anxious attachment comes from never being chosen in school. My parents were always around and great. I spend a majority of my time alone and my job is a “lonely” as well! So I still have the problem but don’t fit any of the reasoning. I am tired of being alone though and my partner (hard to call him that) is DA. I’m about to give up and get a dog.

[LasBlackUnicrn]

This is something I’ve been trying to work on in therapy. I have fear of ending things because of perceived FOMO of what could be or fear of not finding anything better or anything at all if I walk away 😣 I don’t know why I have has such low self worth and confidence. It makes me so sad for myself. I want better and I want to feel better.. I am trying hard to heal this deep wound

[susanmackey]

Previously I did not like being alone. Now, I'm in this space of preferring to be by myself as I work to become secure. I even take myself on dates to wherever I want to go. I appreciate the passion Thais has for PDS, and more so the members

[lyndaarnold]

Thank you Thias! Since the pandemic, I ended up retiring early. These last few years, I’m realizing I am an ap person, and I do not like being with myself. Because I have stuttered most of my life, I have complex, childhood, and developmental trauma. I am 63 years old. I’ve been married for 37 years, and stayed married because of all the issues I have.
Thank you so much for all your videos! Can your program help an older woman who has less of a stutter now, but more aware of the issues she’s carried most of her life. ❤

[melissamcqueen]

i was literally just lamenting to myself "omg i'm so lonely" as this video was being uploaded. great timing lmao and tysm thais!

[megameg]

I’m going to need to look up more on this “embodiment work” - I’ve always felt like I spend a significant amount of my life in a mild dissociative state, but I’ve never had an idea as to why until now! Things are clicking…thanks again:)

[carlosbautista]

Story of my life. I was exposed repeatedly to perceived abandonment in childhood, so no wonder I’ve been in chronic self-abandonment and in freeze mode for the longest time I’ve definitely gotten better ever since I started PDS, and I KNOW I will keep growing and becoming better and better over time, until I get to a point in which I can consider myself an earned secure. I don’t know when, but I know it’s coming.

I went once not that long ago to the emotional resilience routine with Rennee inside of the school, and I have set the intention to keep attending as much as I can. In that one session that I attended I could confirm what I already knew, that I’m clueless about somatic processing, so I really want to get good at this. I really want to get present with myself. The fact that Renee is a healed AP also gives me hope that I will achieve it.

Thank you as always Thais and PDS team for your work ❤

[lilove]

🤯I’ve been listening to Thais in these vids for years, but this one REALLY nails the root of my AP side. OMG. No problem doing stuff alone=keeping busy and avoiding feeling…but sitting with and feeling my emotions? 😱Thank you, thank you, thank you 💚

[rijd]

I'm an introvert and INFJ personality type, but there was a time a few years ago when after a breakup I went through a few months of deep loneliness, it was existential in nature. What helped me was finding eastern meditation practices (it's not for everyone, but it helped me). Books like the Tao Te Ching and simple meditation books like "30 Days to Overcome Loneliness" by Harper Daniels were helpful, and a book called "Awareness" by De Mello. It took time but I'm in such a better place now :) Perspective is so important

[joansandeen]

This is me, totally!! It's very scarey for me to be alone and I need to be busy with people to be content. Very good advice, thank you!!

[dangfd]

Thank you Thais, this video helped me realize and differentiate my associations between being alone, and being LEFT alone. There was a time before the relationship when I was truly in a place of comfort alone, but the balance in my life changed dramatically when someone entered my life and left when I fell for them. The whole tone of what it means to be alone has changed in my life. I used to find great peace and joy in silence because I did not fill it up with repressed pollution. My present now feels consumed by my reflections on the past. I need to do further work, and alone!

[pistachio]

Really value these longer formats Thais, which let you go deeper into the subject and all the interconnected aspects. Thanks

[ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Please like the video if you found this to be helpful!

[weilin]

I wonder when it comes to uncontrollable circumstances like what happens in life. For example, you’re in a situation that you feel stuck because there’s only that much you can do( illness, family drama, visas, born defects, etc) Life happens and sometimes I can only cope by managing my expectations and standards. Or in other words, ignoring my needs? I’m not too sure how to draw the line here.. I’m only thinking this is just temporary and someday I’ll get through it😢 maybe if it’s false hope VS to suck it up.. that’s when I feel like I need connections with other humans.. to actually feel I’m here on earth. But it’s really helpful to watch thru the videos of an AP on what I can work on❤

[IanRoyball]

I think only once as a kid.
And
Once as an adult.
Both times were scary

[JacobCarlson-uqmy]

Connecting with the bodies feelings &maybe you said the word embodiment. Such intriguing material to me. I'm not sure exactly why, but I feel Very drawn to this all.
Like it seems to not be fading either.

🕯

[josie]

Every time I come home and spend time away from my partner, I get a pit in my stomach and this sadness that doesn’t disappear until I know I’ll be seeing him within a few days. I feel like removing that is impossible.