The TRUTH About Friendship | Mel Robbins

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What do you do when your friends judge you because you are trying to do things that improve your life?

That’s a big question, and it’s one about friendship in general.

In this video I am not holding back when it comes to who you have in your life and how that impacts who you become. The reality is, you can love someone and still not enjoy hanging out with them because of how it affects you. To improve your life sometimes means losing people who are in another stage of theirs.

Watch the entire video. There’s a lot of information here that will help you understand who your reason, season, or lifetime friends are.

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[gkadnams]

The only people who will be upset by you setting boundaries are those who benefited from you having none.

[querida]

The older I get, I realize the value of privacy of cultivating my circle and only letting certain people in. Dont be trapped by dogma. You can be open, honest and real while still understand not everyone deserves a seat at the table of your life.

[rachellecox]

I am at a point in my life where I don't have many friends. And even though I feel the lonlines, I am reluctant to let just anyone into my life.

[CzarinaMcCoy]

🔹Friends for a Reason
🔹Friends for a Season
🔹Friends for a Lifetime

[idontknow-msmc]

Some of this doesn't only apply to friends but family too.

[YogiRed]

As Oprah once said (non-verbatim), If you have one good friend you are lucky. The older you get the less good friends you have.

[apriljoyce]

I wish I still had friends! Once I Changed for the better I lost some...when I didn't want to do drugs I lost more....when I Realized my Worth & discovered the guilt free No...I lost the rest!!
Making new ones at 40 who aren't dramatic, miserable or totally fake is Impossible! Where I live anyway😕

[rajubose]

We have came in this universe alone and will have to go alone . So enjoy the beautiful gift call LIFE. Try to find a lifetime friend within

[johnschaal]

Setting boundaries can intimidate others, that’s because you’re growing, expanding and experiencing self-actualization! So, others don’t know who you are, who you have become, you changed. They embrace it or walk, tough crossroads!

[irreduciblerascal]

No one is your friend, no one is your enemy. Everyone is your teacher.

[kristimeenan]

OMG-I just lost two incredibly close friends - one was a lifetime friend and one was "my person." As I started changing, standing up for myself, they weren't use to the new me and chose to leave. It hurt like hell but I guess their "season" was over. Thank you for this.

[nouramy]

When u dnt hav frnds but still watch this

[tamaro]

I respectfully disagree. I believe that friendships deserve just as much nurturing, reciprocity, love, and attention as any other relationship in your life. To say going to their funeral means that, that is your friend is mind blowing to me. Give your friends their flowers while alive...not dead! Cheers to those who take time to put the work in. It's worth it.💕

[mspixiedust]

A friend who's who's there for you in need, is a friend indeed.

[Ab.eNormal]

I was/am a therapist to two of my closest friends, talking about relationships ALL THE TIME! Its exhausting, I can't do it.

[monicamejia]

"You can tipically put friends in three buckets:
You have friends for a reason
You have friends for a season
You have friends for a lifetime."
💕💕💕

[xofancy]

YESSS! I am a firm believer in the adage "you are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with." It's hard to level up if you allow yourself to be influenced by people with no goals or different goals. I had cancer a few years ago now, and I learned quickly who is there only when it's fun and who is there until the end. Don't feel guilty for looking after yourself, your family, and your goals. Great video, Mel. xo

[kimlock]

True friends accept you no matter what and with your transformation weed out the false ones.

[evelinboerner]

I guess it's also a question of cultural background. As a German, I noticed Americans refer to people as friends very easily. You meet someone several times, he/ she is a friend. And then, the question if you would go to their funeral to find out if they are a true friend applies...
My notion of a friend is very. very different. I left my former best friend back in Germany after I decided to do a massive life change and move to the USA. We had already grown apart before and I feel like she is still stuck in her patterns. We barely talk, both of us have moved on with our lives. Would I still go to her funeral? - I would go above and beyond to help her out in situations, before it even gets to a funeral...

[rfs]

its been ruff outgrowing your friends. it has not been easy to make new friends over 40. and I find most women are so insecure they cant truly be friends bc of their jealousy.