How to Know Your True Friends - Prof. Jordan Peterson

Psychology professor Jordan B. Peterson proposes a simple set of tests to find out who really is your friend.

This is only a small excerpt of Jordan Peterson's lecture “2017 Personality 21: Biology & Traits: Performance Prediction” held at the University of Toronto. You can watch it entirely here:

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[skiny]

"I don't have many friends, I just know a lot of people" - Heath Ledger

[mmiller]

Use this, not only to identify your real friends, but also as a blueprint to being a better friend

[darcyduncantech]

Summary:
1. You can tell them bad news = they will listen
2. You can tell them good news = they will help you celebrate
3. Surround yourself with people who facilitate your development/are good for the best part of you = If they do not support you or do not try to help themselves, lose them

[rburrows]

If you’re lucky enough in this life to have one or two true friends, you are truly blessed. Most are just friendly acquaintances

[itsGuy]

My buddy said to me once, "you are my true friend, because you called me out on my shit when everyone else let it happen"

[johndecker]

A sorrow shared is half a sorrow. A joy shared is twice a joy.

[rufusgreenleaf]

There is a humble warmth when being around true friends. It's a good feeling, the level of care is real.

[cassy]

Friendships are rare and sacred. Be your own best friend first and then you will align with people who care and love you the way you’ve learned to love yourself. All the best on this journey!✨

[samuelking]

“I’d rather have four quarters than a hundred pennies.” -Al Capone

[spacecaptain]

A wise voice once told me “If you want a friend, be a friend”

[bballstrategy]

You can be friends with someone who is also real with you rather than a bunch of yes men who will only tell you what you want to hear. Someone who will listen to you but also offer real solutions that sometimes show a flaw in your own approach is a good friend. There is no over sensitivity in true friendship

[mukeirabluetemple]

"You have both the right and the responsibility to surround yourself with people who are good for the best part of you." Quote of the day

[midamultitool]

Everyone wants a good supportive friend, but nobody wants to be the good supportive friend.

[danielsmith]

I knew I had a friend when my car broke down around three o'clock in the morning, 25 miles from home, on a cold, frigid February morning in Michigan and he got out of a warm bed and came and got me. Thank you Thad.

[american_jackal]

I feel so lucky to have a friend like that. He's like the brother I never had. We've been through highs and lows and everywhere in between, but just being around him fills me with strength and grace. He's always willing to lend an ear, crack a joke, or lend a hand. He's the kind of guy who'd give you the shirt off his back in a blizzard. Even with all the darkness he's dealt with in his life, he's still the kindest most generous and genuine soul I've ever met. I can't wait to go back home permanently so we can go on some more whacky adventures together. Love you, Duncan.

[DaddyGerLo]

I love this guy. Throughout my life, I've also learned that a true friend will share stories back and forth with you. A bad friend will think you're trying to one-up him/her with your stories.

[poisoncurls]

This didn't teach me to find good friends.
This taught me to BE a good friend.
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[What]

“Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future” - words to live by.

[AG-yjjv]

As a person with a disabling injury and 2 surgeries for cancer, I love that Peterson's advice is NOT about how financially successful a person is, but rather about their level of complaint and the kind of friend you can be to others and how others are friends with you. So often people who have experienced traumas are in so much pain, they cannot have empathy for anyone else. When you have a disabling injury at a young age, often the people you end up spending time with are older folks because they're not out punching a clock. But there are "retirees" and then there are grumpy miserable able people who only discuss their bowel movements, and with whom anything you try to do is met with, "Oh, that will never work." Dr.Peterson's advice is vital for not absorbing the wrong voices into who I am. Awareness, empathy, and productive thought/action are all executive functions. Practicing these things, and deciding that today is a good day, require conscious choices, changes in perspective that keeps a mind alive.
Well-done, Dr.P! And...Thanks!😊