Responding vs. Reacting | How to Avoid the Narcissist's Trap

This video is about the difference between responding and reacting. It's one of the most important things to understand when dealing with a narcissist or other Cluster B personality. Learning to respond instead of reacting is also a very valuable life skill and a sign of emotional maturity. I explain how narcissists try to provoke your reaction in order to get narcissist supply and how to avoid giving it to them.

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NOTE: Meredith Miller is not a therapist or counselor. She is a holistic integration coach, helping you to self-heal and transform your life after narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. Meredith teaches the mindsets and tactical skills to help with recovery. She works with a mind-body-spirit approach to wellness that is a valuable complement to traditional psychotherapy. Meredith recommends that you also seek out a licensed therapist who has experience with narcissistic abuse and relational trauma in order to help you with the complex-PTSD symptoms. Thank you for taking responsibility for yourself!

[MegaSthlm]

Got it. People say, don't fight with a pig, you will get dirty, and the pig will enjoy it.

[ZenjaGlass]

She said “Reacting is giving AWAY your power and responding is empowering yourself”. Wow!!! Just... wow!

[mreese]

Cluster B: you'll be wrong even if you agree with them. They change their mind instantly and make you be wrong again on the spot.

[donnastitz]

We CAN'T control how others act...BUT, we CAN control how WE react

[acmaeve]

Don't defend yourself. Only you know the real truth about yourself! Don't waste your energy on defending yourself!!

[trayalwalker]

The world is over flowing with Narcissists. Lead a singular, quiet life and avoid those who love to hate you.

[lindabermudez-hafer]

“Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?” is a priceless statement! Perfect thing to stop and think about; to focus on. 👍🏻

[dlwsport]

My RESPONSE is my RESPONSibility .... I have repeated this SO many times in the last 25 hours.... yes, I am counting because it’s painful to grieve

[RicaRoseHopeful_Voluntarist]

My narcissists punish me by staying away from me, it's fantastic!

[trispr]

Here is woman who gets it. Hallelujah! I don't feel crazy. I'm not questioning my sanity anymore.

[a.c.]

Getting Healthy is the best way to inoculate yourself against the Narcissist.

[kolyah]

Once you are aware that they are a narcissist, just leave! Forget about response vs. react, and other such techniques to counter the narcissist, just go! If you stay in the narcissist's game without playing by their rules, they will burn you or they will discard you. Its simple, as soon as you know, you go!

[amyp]

“If you say something they disagree with, they take this as a criticism, an injury” 🙌🙌

[tennyc]

Thanks Meredith I need to be reminded that narcissists LOVE to get you to behave below your Integrity. Silence and no contact is the best and only answer

[katbird]

"you seem upset all the time, are you ok?" quoting Narcology

[phoebe]

In one of my worst moments of my life, exactly when I needed support, my mother, started with her usuals attacks. I said stop. Don’t speak to me like this. Results: she got angry as crazy. Since then, 3 years, we are 0 contact. Is sad, but she’ll never change, and I don’t need more of this in my life.

[yourtub]

if you heal you dont get triggered, they lose power over you. Your triggers are the wounds that make you open to them.

[rgx]

One of the hardest decisions you will ever face in life is choosing whether to try harder or walk away.

[janieclements]

I really like how she starts out with owning one’s own response - she focuses on techniques not bashing the narcissist.

[MsPili]

It’s so energy draining
I just blocked him from every thing. Hope this work