Easily, The Narcissist's Most Maddening Gaslighting Tactic

Narcissists take great delight in throwing you off course. They perpetuate conflict even as they accuse you of being the problem. Dr. Les Carter clearly identifies the single most exasperating tactic they use, then discusses how to steer clear of their efforts to bring out the worst in you.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. For 40+ years he maintained a counseling practice in Dallas, conducting more than 65,000 therapy sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Since creating his YouTube channel, his videos have received more than 115 million views.

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[carefulcarpenter]

"They make you crazy; then blame you for being crazy."

[brucefriedman]

Whoever invents narcissist repellent should win the Nobel Peace Prize.

[alicecoleman]

Accusations by a narcissist is nothing more than confessions...

[claycooper]

My father used to attack my character and say hurtful things to me every day (literally) after school. One of his favorite responses if I became upset was "You're so sensitive! You need to be less sensitive!". I'm sure people here can relate.

[yukio_saito]

I walk away from anyone who falsely accuses others of being the problem. 🚶‍♂💨💨🚩

[mariehughey]

I had trouble identifying gaslighting because it was how I was raised. But once you see and understand, you can’t unsee it.

[visitorcat]

The narc also knows if you get away from them, and go no contact, you will be able to think more clearly, and recognize their deceitful ways. As long as you maintain contact with them you stay in a fog-like state of mind.

[TAnderson-si]

The awful part is after years of confusion I now realize I should have walked away a long time ago😞

[CodeDusq]

Gaslighting is all a reminder of how easily we can be fooled and how shaky the truth can feel in a world full of manipulation and deceit.

[Dosser]

Throwing it back to you, pretending that they don't know what you're talking about, muddying the waters.... classic tactics 😢

[HoneyBadger]

1. They drive you Nuts. 2. Then call you Crazy. 3.Then blame You for it. 4. Then tell you how to feel about it.

[roxymovie]

The long-term effects of triangulation can be devastating, impacting your ability to form healthy relationships and trust others.

[ibdonsie]

Confronting a Narcissist and pointing out their faults and tactics, fuels them. It gives them more opportunity to gaslight you and point out your faults.

[edenalicerosebelovedchildo]

Strongly Opinionated. They believe their opinion is truth, the ONLY truth.

[Chrissy]

I live by the motto shared by my mother…It’s better to be alone than in bad company.

[obscurum]

Cultivate INDIFFERENCE towards them. And not just on the outside, really let go of giving a sh*it about anything they say or do.
If you're finding it difficult to cultivate indifference towards them try imagining how you would feel if a complete stranger just talked to you like that, why would you care or react to a stranger? You shouldn't. So just don't care about anything they say or do.

[findadventure]

I love when they get you all upset and after the conversation ends ask you why you are so angry. Then they proceed to tell everyone in the room how angry you are to get the greatest amount of attention and supply without telling them the root cause. It's maddening.

[andybankston]

The “double standards” and hypocrisy really gets me the most . The intentional criticism and constant complaints about certain actions, situations etc etc. then to only turn around and do exactly what the claim to have a problem with or the best, complaining about something you’ve done or do as they are doing that exact thing. It literally melts my brain

[lunadogs]

They are deeply dangerous people psychologically and emotionally. Especially if they're sociopathic. And when it's an aging parent from whom you cannot escape, you better learn to deal with them in order to stay alive, 'cause they can push you to the brink of insanity. No joke. The abuse is incomprehensible.

[la]

This is exactly how my narcissistic mother loves to gaslight. I have learned to just ignore her and walk away from the conversation. When I point out her hypocrisy she just starts screaming STOP like toddler because she can not handle any kind of criticism at all. Talking to these people is a waste of energy. Just ignore them and leave. Don't even respond.