honest advice for surviving your early 30s

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[lisamckinnon]

I’m 53, my 30’s changed my life, I got divorced from a crap relationship, admitted I was bisexual after suppressing it since I was 10, got with my now wife, dealt with losing my home, went back to education and started my own business! I think my 30’s was when I became me 😊

[JoMakerOfMovies]

The 'safety over the sublime' section reminds of the Julie Andrew's quote 'When in doubt, stand still'.

[annamartin]

Appreciate these little field trips outside your living room.

[BeckyC]

The biggest thing for me at 33 is feeling lonely! Many friends drop off the face of the earth once they're married or have kids, and in our 30s we might find the strength to shed toxic friendships from our vulnerable 20s. I've tried the tips of going to meetups and groups as well as the apps, but haven't yet found anyone I connect with, or meet up with someone once or twice and one or both of us isn't feeling it. My few favourite people are ones I've known since I was 16-18 and still love each other's company, but none live nearby and we all have other responsibilities so I get to see them maybe a couple times a year. I feel like it can be a lonely stage of life and it's important to learn to be okay with that, but would also really appreciate new friends too - hoping that's not just wishful thinking and that new, amazing friendships can still happen in your 30s!

[Miss_Lexisaurus]

I'm 36 (although I'm convinced I'm 37... maths remains not my strong suit!) and can so relate to this! I especially love the "every decade is a do-over" and the message that just because you didn't monetise your childhood dream doesn't mean you can't do it anyway.

[Guppie_K]

34 here! Seattle. (Spent 2018 in the UK, loved it). Just wrote my yearly review about how I don't appreciate being judged by "redwood" standards because I'm not trying to climb a corporate ladder, and how I'm happy to be a chunky cherry tree, who grows fuller roots, nourishes life around me, and branches out of I'm interested.

[stephaniem]

As a 33 year old this all feels so accurate. At 30 I quit my 'career' job because it was eating my soul at a rapid pace. Went back to uni and have been taking my sweet time about it because I can. I live in a rental, work part time and get welfare (because classes eat up a lot of my time) which are all 'shameful' things but I love it. I love having the ability to just breath for a bit before getting back into it in a few years.
The one thing I've really noticed is that my parents don't know what to do with me anymore. I don't go to them for advice and I don't listen to the advice or opinions they try to give me
unsolicited. I've also shed a few friendships and most of my closest friends live far away but I feel ok with that.
It feels like I'm living life on my terms and in my own way, instead of what everyone thinks I 'should' be doing. 30s is getting sick of being 'shoulded' to death by everyone around you.

[kslaney]

This advice felt like a warm hug. I am now firmly in my late twenties and honestly your series about entering your thirties and videos like this have made me way more chill and excited about this next chapter in my life compared to my pals who don’t watch your videos.

[GetOfflineGetGood]

I'm 31, I'm about to move into my own apartment and live alone for the first time since 2018. My bad debt falls off my credit next year and i finally landed a stable job. This all rings true to me. I'm so excited to get to meet and reshape myself again now that I'm much more healed from my childhood and my turbulent early adulthood. I'm gonna Make so much art

[TheGFeather]

Just hit 43 today and on the whole this sounds about right. Me at 29 and me at 39 were dramatically different people. My 30s were very liberating and I made decisions on my career and lifestyle based so much more on what would make me happy than what I thought I was "supposed to" be doing. In my 30s I gave so many fewer F*$%s about what other people expected of me and took care of myself. And I'm far happier for it.

[buddelhippie]

I will be 45 this year and I agree with everything you said about your early 30s, BUT my early 40s were so much more transformative and my view of myself and my place in the world and the impact I could have, changed so drastically... I feel like I wasn´t really aware of who I wanted to be, and how easy it would be to get there, before recently. I don`t know if this makes any sense to you, but look forward to turning 40 everyone, the best is yet to come!

[AndroidInHumansClothing]

cn: mental illness
I'm turning 30 next week and have been dreading it because I've been struggeling with a colorful cocktail of mental illnesses for a long time and in darker moments, turning over to a new decade seems to be the start of yet more suffering. But you saying "every decade is a do-over" gave me a bit of hope just now, thank you for that ♥

[GhostsOfThings]

"Do I actually want to do this, or do I just want to have done it." Safety over sublime really hit me. Growing up I couldn't wait to have the money to travel. I had all these plans. And I've slowly discovered that I don't think I'm meant for big trips. I travelled all the way across the country (I live in Canada so that's a long way) for the solar eclipse in April and while I am glad I went, it absolutely burned me out. Travel is so stressful that while I'm not going to write off big trips completely, I'm learning that it's ok to embrace just travelling to the places I'm familiar with and love instead.

[ellapietsch]

This is why I'm going to my first ever con at 33! Lost my nerdy thread for a bit but it's back, baby!

[madi]

I'm turning 39 tomorrow and I remember feeling too old to start learning to play the drums at 21. 😂 That's probably my biggest take away from nearly 4 centuries of being alive: You're never too old to try something new or do something that makes you happy. Your life is not over just because other people (who do that thing you like) are younger than you.
On the other hand, I've never been as interested in hiking, knitting, reading and drinking tea as I am now... 🫢

[The.Spoonie.Witch]

At 38, I feel like I am finally the person I was trying and wanting to be my whole life. Turns out the person I was is just fine and actually pretty amazing. Learning to be who you are and surrounding yourself with people who also are themselves and love you for you makes your life so much richer.

[victoriajohn]

I turn 39 next week, I’m hoping that counts as having survived my 30s. One of the things I know now, and didn’t know before? Tell people who you are. You don’t have to let them figure it out for themselves. Vocalise it. Your values, how your brain works, what does and doesn’t work for you. It makes navigating things that much easier. To be a recipient of that is really helpful too!

[catvalentine]

As a mid-20s girl, these tipps felt very reassuring :) I'm looking forward to me 30s so much!

[jazzamrazz]

I’m finishing my PhD in next year and i will be 32 years old! After so long in school (or developing my career depending on your POV), i’m feeling a bit of delayed adolescence. I often feel self-conscious about the fact that I’ve not had a “real job” or a “real relationship” so it has been very comforting to watch this video and read these comments. I have to remind myself that it’s STILL ok to try new things and to make mistakes and that will be true for the rest of my life!

[FeatherpawStudio]

I quit my crappy dead-end job when I turned 30 to pursue a small art business venture and help my husband with his small business... I got pregnant 6 months later! Now I'm nearly 32, a mum, and still helping my husband with his (now very successful) business. A lot can change in a VERY short amount of time, and although my business plans have gone a little squiffy at the moment, I'm more happy than I've ever been!