First date advice #shorts

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Who else agrees at the fact that Spencer is like an older sister to all her viewers! Her advice is so genuine and I appreciate it so much.

Amrasmr
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Tell someone that you trust, you're going on dates till it's official.

fareshtasadaqat
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I recently turned 18 and FINALLY GOING ON A FIRST DATE! I have absolutely zero experience. Wish me luck boys

2023 update, I had a few goofy dates and went out with a bum with a little under two months but I went on another date with a guy who bakes sourdough bread homemade. He completely got me head over heels for him, our first date lasted ten hours because we both really didn't want to stop hanging out.


I've been dating him for six months, going on seven, our families just shared a thanksgiving together! Things are going really really well, I'm convinced he's the man I'm going to marry.

justlilly
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Guys, I think I'm going to meet him for the first time today 😭 wish me good luck!💜

ADDIGOTCAKE
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I’m in my 20s and been with my girl for over 3 years idk why I watched this lmao, but those are solid tips. I got into some really sketchy situations on Tinder, that I imagine would’ve been even worse if I was a girl, so… yeah definitely make sure somebody knows where you are and can get you if needed. Especially if you’re drinking and don’t know the person super well. Some of the most memorable dates I’ve had were literally just sitting on the floor eating food. Or that time I got talked into jumping into a pool at like 3am.
Movies/restaurants not needed for a good date if the vibes are good. But can also be great.
Do not go to anyone’s basement after dark in general if you’re looking for a first date lol, yeah, absolutely.

And if it sucks? Leave. Literally get up and leave. Have someone fake call if you want, but you don’t have to stay if it sucks or you’re uncomfortable. I’ve sat through (done a lot more than sat) too many dates in the name of not hurting feelings. Fuck that, they will get over it. Literally leave. I wish someone had yelled that at me repeatedly when I was 18 lol

grayskindablue
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Spencer would be the best person to have any conversation with! 😊 I feel so comfortable listening to her advice on things I’m usually afraid to discuss.😂

PROVENRACING
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Girls, if you make the first move, you're like, 98% successful

LouisPlaysDrums
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Marinette from miraculous ladybug needs that they're just a person one for when she goes on her first date with adrian 🤣

jellyviolet
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I’m 11 and I asked a girl to be my valentine as friends and this kinda helps bc I like her:) and we’re gonna go on a walk / have lunch

kylie_spamzzz
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It's not just a person, it's my FUTURE HUSBAND!

liviablanche
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I love how she shares her opinion I’m more old fashioned like I think guys should make the first move but I ain’t no hater she’s so great and I love how she spreads so much love and positivity ❤❤❤🎉🎉😊😊

Jessica-ea
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So accurate! I’m pretty sure you got lots of followers from Philippines. Keep up the great content Spencer

mpost
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This is very good advice that girls and guys now days need to hear! Very well said Spencer! Love you! ❤️❤️

ashearhart
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You feel Luke my big sister I never had😊😊😊😀😀❤❤💙💙🌺🌺💜💜

thegirlscorner
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You're the big sister I always wanted/needed💖💖💖

GemmaJewels-Aqua
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You're the first and only person who've said a girl asking a guy on a date is okayy!❤

ashalmenezes
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Appreciate these tips, will try these some time in the future. Btw, you look so beautiful and your smile is so attractive. Keep smiling!

arnoldong
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I'm going to put this on all the posts I watched. I watched this video the morning of my first date and it helped a tonne. Stories about my life I was struggling to think of beforehand but funny ones came to me during the date just as I needed it. If you ever start discussing something negative, always turn it positive with a funny story. Make her laugh, never sit opposite if you can. Always get there before her. The bouncers gave me one last tip before the date arrived. I was standing in the cold lol. Don't wait outside; it makes you look desperate. Also how you feel, she feels so push away nerves by talking to those around you before she arrives and familiarising yourself with the environment. Make bets with her and lose so she can buy you a drink too. Let her repay the evening with only a drink/ice cream or whatever during the same date (she should offer). Go kino EARLY. Start with a hug, she may or may not choose a peck. Be decisive but a gentleman e.g. about when to eat or do things etc. Don't ask her where she wants to go, have things planned out. Flow in conversation. Move environments, even if it's seats in the same bar. Have things planned like a competitive or team work activity that allows you to interact. Gentle taps on her shoulder whilst laughing, briefly move your hand over hers and let go whilst your both laughing. But don't go too early on this, it has to set up a relationship for a bit. So maybe an hour in if it's going well. Move in close sitting next to her. Maybe even lean close to say something funny (make sure your mouth hygiene is impeccable. Floss, Use a tongue cleaner/scraper with tongue gel and ultradex to be sure). If it's going well you should have tonnes to talk about. Someone here said FORD family, occupation, recreation, dreams. Don't reveal too much about yourself if you want a second date. Tease her a little, to break down her wall but don't make her feel insecure. Compliment something she has done e.g. hair/worn rather than a feature of her body. Never compliment makeup; the reasons for that should be obvious. If the date is successful she'd set up the second one in some way, it might be mentioning she's doing something for charity etc. Take interest in HER. Generally if things are going well, her eyes won't wander, this is why it is so important you set up an environment you're comfortable with. The worse you are with conversation, the more external focus you need e.g. bowling to fill the gaps/tour a stately home, palace together or go on a boat ride. Point out similarities between you rather than differences. Choose DIFFERENT drinks to her on purpose after asking what she's having to show you have a mind of your own. Do something spontaneous at least once during the date like do something you're both willing to do to make you both embarrassed like dance randomly for a few seconds on your way out. It will show her CONFIDENCE and fun and exciting. You'll only have confidence if you calm your nerves that's why I'll say it again, talk to people around you and make small talk to compose yourself before the date. Finally go kino again at the end, with a hug, hopefully she'll give you the peck this time. Remember the aim of the first date is NOT to get a kiss (that's a Hollywood thing), but instead, a second date with her. Hopefully it's her that sets you up. Walk her to wherever she's going to get her ride home. Be a gentleman and put your arm round her, asking her if she doesn't mind you bringing her close if she's cold. Finally after an hour or two text to ask if she got home safely, she'll probably text saying she had a lovely time before that though. Give her a chance to do it though. Resist the urge to text her the next day before she does. Resist a further urge to text back straight away. That urge will be the hardest you've done. Respond with things that follow up on things you talked about during the date. Make her feel good about herself but always make yourself the prize and like a kitten, she'll keep interest in the ball of wool. Never boast though.
I learned so much in one night and can't believe how many years I feared this day... And it went beautifully. She set up the next date.

I just want to thank all of you in the comments section and the creator of this video who literally changed my life. Don't be put off if it goes bad, not everyone is made for each other and it is better you break off and stay friends than force something that won't work. Take it all slow. Don't be disheartened. Perfect practise makes perfect.

Good luck brothers.

NASSAfellow
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She's that one bestie we all need💕

mdzafor
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At the end about not being nervous it's just a person and you shouldn't be so nervous

Best advice ❤

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