Rebuilding Trust In Marriage (3 Key Principles)

If your spouse has done something that violated your trust, it IS still possible to trust again, but doing so requires 3 specific principles.


So if you're wondering, “How can I learn to trust again when my spouse broke my trust?” Or, “When trust is violated, can you get it back again?” Pay attention to these three things.

First, decide that you’re willing to “risk it” again with your spouse. What does this look like? You may need to ask yourself the following questions: “Am I willing to trust my spouse again? Am I willing to take the risk that I may be hurt again?”

Second, the person who broke the trust in the relationship must understand the pain they caused. They must be sorry, willing to make changes, and ready to build the trust again. (And, better the relationship!)

Third, criteria must be made using STOPs- safeguards that offer protection. These safeguards are practical and reasonable to protect your relationship as you rebuild trust. For example, if your spouse struggled with gambling, a STOP may be you needing to know where the money in your bank account is going. And remember that you are NOT trying to control your spouse. No one likes feeling controlled, and it does not help your relationship.


Our marriage coaches want your marriage to be saved and can give you guidance in a one-on-one way, unique to your situation. (Marriage Coaching can also be done as a couple.)

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[Trickorvr]

After 21 years I find out that she was cheating the first 4 years. Now I question everything. I confronted her at year 3 and she said I was crazy, then she did it again. I just found out in June. I've put so much into this relationship and put all my trust. I was not happy at year 3 and now it was cause she was not emotionally available because of her cheating, if she had told the truth I would have ended it. At year 2 I was going through some hard times and when I thought she was by my side, she was cheating. Now she said the last 17years has been everything I thought. We r still living together with 2 kids but it's so stressful for me but I dont want to make a decision on such emotions. Oh God there is so much more on why the betrayal is so impactful

[mrs.christiehannaalexander]

Howdy from The Gulf Coast of Texas y'all 🤠! Hope everybody is having a good day.

[Iammriniofficial]

But how to rebuild trust with someone who is way to insecure because of his divorce and already broken emotionally and only want you to put efforts in order to build trust, where I also have insecurities but without taking any efforts he simply don't want to help me so that I can also take that risk to rebuild trust. Please help

[Serinity_Bliss]

I'm not sure that I can believe my husband again, he had an affair and lied for 2 years about it, It's like every word he said was a lie. What should I do?

[lean]

Please pray for me my husband has filed for divorce, so that he can marry another woman saying I'm barren.

[chicabebeh]

How can you trust that person who denying his affairs, well for now I’m busy doing my SC and PIES..