If Your Relationship Is Rocky, Do THIS To Save It | Mel Robbins

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It’s really easy to take your frustrations out on your relationship right now. Whether you’re the one who’s nagging or it’s your partner who is nagging you, this video is a relationship saver.

Resentment is poison and once you start to go down the road of blaming your partner, bickering, or judging them, you’re only adding to the stress that your partner already feels. If you’re the one who’s being made wrong, you know exactly what I’m talking about. If you’re struggling to communicate, there’s only one thing that will turn this around and get you back on track. You need to triple down on the encouragement.

It’s easy to bitch about the things you don’t like, try spending the next 24 hours calling out all the things you see that they’re doing right and that you appreciate and you’ll be shocked at how quickly it changes your relationship for the better. Even if you’re the one who’s getting picked on, being more encouraging will show your partner what YOU need.

Everyone feels beaten down right now, so the last thing you need is more negativity. Share this video with your partner and sit down and talk through how you can both be more supportive of one another ❤️

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[unstoppable]

When someone makes you the happiest person and the saddest person at the same time, that's when it's real. That's when it's worth something.

[eduardoramirezjr]

As male, I want to thank you ‘cause you hit the nail on the head.🔨

[guillermosanchez]

This def hits home. Feels good to be validated when trying to make changes within yourself for the betterment of a failing relationship

[josephmedrano]

This is so true for me. I have tried my hardest to make the best decisions. I feel so defeated now that I’m left with nothing and the person who I believed would have loved me through everything no matter what is gone as well. I’ve got so many pieces left to pick up and no closure.

[brianhartley]

Wow, that was great advice. Good men would move mountains with that kind of support in times like those.

[chynahutchinson]

I keep finding you at the times I really need to and I just wanna say thank you for being here for so many people who need your advice and motivational words ❤️

[stewiegriffin]

Damn you literally just narrated what I'm going thru myself now. Fell into a depression bc of finances, closed myself off to everything bc I was beyond embarrassed and pissed off at myself and now my and my gf are literally at rock bottom and she's thinking of leaving. We decided to try to save our relationship and are going thru that now. It's been super stressful up til abt a week ago and now seems to be going better thanks to people like this. Thank you you're one of the few that are actually helpful with sensitive situations like this.

[rogeriorodriguez]

You are spot on the nail very intelligent very true to life very observant thank you for sharing your knowledge with us along our journey 👍 my friend

[djeddiecue]

I know that this is an old video, but the message is never late. I can relate to this.

[lunagabriella]

Thanks for being here when I need it 🎉❤️❤️❤️

[hazelperri]

Wonderful idea. I think encouragement and validation also work for adult children living at home...

[miracunini]

This is the type of stuff I'm already stressed about as teen cuz I ultimately broke communication by not being able to properly answer his questions as he is someone very meaningful to me

[TallisNewkirk]

I'm a woman and I NEED THIS FROM MY MAN!! Will he learn after friggin ten years that I need hom to keep saying "That's a great idea. Yeah, you could do that.Ok, let's try and do this. Do you want me to do something that brings you closer to this goal of yours?" (Whatever the goal of the moment s)
Ten yeyand he keeps saying out loud only the things that could go wrong.
I yold him, Shut the heck up, woman! (In those words, I thought only women did this) Those are your THOUGHTS. Train yourself to not say your negative thoughts out loud, for chrissake. Think them, but don't ever say them out loud. Because it doesn't achieve anything good, it achieves no progress. Use only words that do achieve progress. And those are words of encouragement. Words of positivity.
He refuses to re-train his brain.
He grew up in an abusive family where his mom and her third husband yelled insults at each other all the time.
And he's a very intelligent man.
What a shame.

[gabourizk]

The first mistake is when she said does he deserves it. Men need to start seeing this and wake up

[KishaCole]

Omg. I totally have bread winner resentment. Whoa. Not sure if that's like a real thing but fuck. That's 💯 how I feel. He's so down and depressed and low and lost. And I'm going through a spiritual awakening and mindset transformation. And he's 1000 steps behind me.

[evempozende]

Actually my husband is getting really annoying and he doesn’t sit down with me and talk so I’m really stressed out 😢😢

[trainingsingh]

Mel is so worth listening to but some1 please fix the mike and sound system.

[cburri]

I've tried encouragement and validation. It doesn't seem to work. My husband has zero ambition. Not interested in working on himself and resents that I do. How do you motivate a negative, arrogant man who believes all self help is bullshit?

[tcantrell]

The fact that you feel like this is the same😅

[jenniferfrazierlpc]

What if it's not a good idea? Do we just lie and still say it's an amazing idea and watch them fail?