What is Resilience and How Do I Improve it? | Kati Morton

Resiliency is defined as “the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties or toughness” but when it comes to our psychological health it’s a bit more than that. It’s about our ability to manage any crisis or upset and get back to baseline quickly, meaning that life’s ups and downs don’t throw us off for that long, we have tools and resources and we can bounce back quickly.
I have often used the poker chip analogy to describe resilience, if you don’t know what I’m talking about, I have shared in other videos how we wake up with a certain number of poker chips, and stressful or difficult things cost us some of those chips. Others prefer the spoons analogy, but either way we are talking about resilience.
And I know you are wondering how we know what our resiliency is or how good or bad we are doing with it, and the way to find that out is to notice, or even think back to the last crisis we had and think about how long it took you to get back to feeling like yourself. Was it a quick turn around? Or did we struggle for weeks, months, or even years? If we bounce back easily, we have more resilience, and if we struggle to move past it, we have less. But no matter how much resilience we have we can all benefit from more of it...

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[paulaarevalo]

The best bridge statement I’ve found is the premise that “if I were such a bad person, I wouldn’t be worrying about becoming better, so I’m actually nice for trying”. It’s an universal truth and it can be quite relieving and motivating!

[Winnee]

How to build resilience.
1. Journaling
2. Create a support system
3. Take care of basic needs
4. Notice your self-talk
5. Live with purpose
6. Become Friends with your feelings
7. Manage impulses
8. Learn to problem solve
9. Coping skills
10. Set goals

[hii-rkxz]

Your "welcome" cures my depression temporarily OMG I love u

[rea]

I don't even do it on purpose but whenever I feel bad, I always write, and when I am feeling great I feel no need to journal, I almost have to force myself to start writing. But when I am down, there isn't enough paper on the planet. 😀

[racheljcooney]

Resiliency is easily the biggest issue in my family. From now on, at bedtime I'm going to have my kids say 3 positive things about themselves and I'm going to list mine as well ❤️

[brandonmarshall]

Has anyone ever talked about the art that’s often behind Katie in her videos? A myriad of colors and textures, it reminds that everyone, regardless of their mental health, fits on the spectrum. We are all connected — all beautiful in our own unique ways.

[madisyncarter]

Thanks for the video, we all appreciate your work. Everyone have a great week

[ukaszb]

No matter what mood I'm in, the way you say "welcome" always makes me smile.

[hii-rkxz]

You seriously don't have any video that doesn't help me😍😍

[PracticalInspiration]

Keep talking about self talk, it's so fundamental!! I've learnt to try and catch those moments where I do start negative self talk, giving myself a moment to step back and remove myself from it

[PinkYellowGreen]

People have to learn to cope with and work through very challenging life experiences. Resilience is SO important.

[meganroberts]

This was seriously like a personal therapy session for me. I needed to hear so much of this and didn't even realize it!

[gentianviolet]

I just can't thank you enough for these videos ❣️(almost feel guilty for watching it for free)

[oytser]

I appreciate that you left the list on the left side of the screen as you continued to speak about them, it helped me follow along well. Everyone needs a little more resiliency!! 😊😊

[SurvivorRevive]

I would say resilience is the number one ingredient in any healing journey....just keep getting back up. Thanks for another great video, Kati!

[admirbarucija]

I’ve been working on improving my resilience for a long time, there’s always more work that could be done!! ❤️

[phoeni]

This channel is by far one of my favorite channels of all time

Thank you for everything you do Kati

[LisaDaVonne]

This was so helpful! My car burst into flames on my Birthday... Sept 25 2019... It was a day I was looking forward to for a long time. And my car engine literally started on fire for no reason. I have been so sad for the past week and I know it will be better... thank you for this video

[auntieree]

I've been journaling off an on for the past year and last night I had what I call a "butterfly moment" as I was writing in my journal. A butterfly moment, to me, is a major a-ha moment that dramatically shifts a person's thought to the core that their perception is forever changed for the better. In that moment, all the stress I had been carrying for months -- just lifted.

[mschrisfrank]

My number one way to keep my resiliency up is to take care of my basic needs...the days when I can’t get enough sleep, eat often enough, or stay hydrated are the days I’m most likely to experience a “crisis.”