Seducing the 16 types - INFP

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INFPs are painfully difficult to seduce, but who doesn't like a challenge?

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[anemon]

"Get them to talk about something they really like... than you'll have the problem of getting them to shut up" that cracked me up lol

[AlexHolland]

A deadly pessimistic ray of sunshine hahaha that's entirely accurate

[lalakuma]

You don't start by trying to seduce an INFP. You have to earn their trust and respect first.

[stavsonnenfeld]

Some others tips:
1. Be yourself. INFPs can sense when people are faking it, and we really appreciate authenticity.
2. Don't be pushy, but do try and make them do stuff they probably want to do but wouldn't do it because they don't have enough motivation or they're scared. If they end up enjoying it, they'll probably feel better around you later. But don't push them too hard if they resist!
3. Be serious. Most INFPs seek long term relationships, and we're more likely to date someone if we know they are serious about the relationship.
4. Show affection. If an INFP is not sure someone likes them, they might get insecure and pull away.
5. Be open minded. To anything.

[cfavarel]

As an INFP i love it when people tell me about their lives, what they love etc and i love encouraging them to talk abt it by asking more questions but I noticed that most ppl don't do the same for me. When they will be finished talking they will ask me abt something and then will link my response to their experience and will go on talking.
That's why I sometimes know a hella lot details on someone while they barely know anything abt me because i don't like talking abt myself if nobody asked, i feel like they don't care.

So to me, someone who is genuinely interested in getting to know me, what I love and is willing to hear me talking abt it without interrupting me is very attractive, and kind of rare haha

[jessicacroteau]

_Any attempt to be pushy will be resisted out of principle_ but I'm also dying for your attention

[NoopyP]

"INFPs CANNOT STAND to be controlled or pushed into things. Any attempt to be pushy will simply be resisted, out of principle." That is ACCURATE.

[LolaMaria]

As an INFP, I automatically shut down any sense of true affection for a person who is not willing to be vulnerable in conversation. If I quickly ascertain that a person wants to keep it “surface”, I know things have hit a dead end. That’s why we often start convos with people living on the street. We’re like “ooh! They probably want to talk about life’s struggles!”

[juliedorman]

This guy on a utube video knows me better than anyone has in my whole life.

[chuiyich]

'One week, they're free living hippies. The next, zen monks.' 100% accurate ahahahahaha

[helenadetroya]

Yeah we're indeed a contradiction. Getting us to like you is quite easy, but the hard part is to keep us.
I would recommend something that may sound contradictory: be confident enough to be awkward. Being confident is not acting like you already have us under your sleeve, acting like you never loose, like you're always happy and cool. Being confident is acknowledging your own strenghts but also your weaknesses. So if you're shy, just act shy, we'll think it's adorable. If you're extroverted, act extroverted, we'll think it's attractive too. Don't fake it, we'll notice.

Once I had this guy that liked me, and he was really awkward, and instead of acting like himself, he acted like a playboy. Like, he would grab me by the shoulders, he wouldn't take a no for answer and he would say he liked all the things I liked. So at last, he was uncomfortable, I was uncomfortable, everything was a huge failure.

Don't be afraid to stutter, to dance terribly, to laugh awkwardly, we love authenticity.

[danab]

This guys intelligence is attractive. Infp-

[bellagoth]

holy shit, i feel attacked lol
yeah, when infps talk -- and like really talk - don't try to counter us with too much logic. we know that we talk like a crazy person especially when it's about the things we love, and we know that we can be incomprehensible (that sometimes we don't even know what tf we're talking about), but give us the moment and just listen. our mind is a rollercoaster that goes up so high and so low, and you just gotta enjoy the ride with us even for a while.

[clau]

Be pushy and it's over. Then we will complain when someone doesn't give us enough atenttion cause were annoying in that way but don't listen to that, it's a trap.

[daydreamerallieas]

You want to be with an INFP?

Really, were hopeless romantics! Just be yourself and do it the most natural way such as being friends with us! And we will see more of you and we'll eventually be in love!

[unwrittenfall]

If an INFP doesn’t feel a connection with a person they shut themself off from that person. They are very particular on their feelings and emotions.

[aryamoghaddam]

Another great video.
I can completely agree that INFPs are very hard to seduce. Becsuse of their innocent, dreamy and cute stereotype, many people may think they can easily manipulate and seduce them, but that's not true at all. They have a strong sense of morality and a belief system that stores all of the "right"s and "wrong"s for them. Just like INTPs, who are said to have a logical framework and an inner system for everything, INFPs have an ethical framework for everything because of their Fi/Ne. So you can't easily convince them to do something that they don't like or -god forbid- something that is contrary to their beliefs.

[luisa]

Also, if I may add something, be yourself! I'm personally attracted by authenticity. People being unapologetically themselves without fear of what others may think really spark my interest, and I'm positive it may be the same for other INFPs.

[ivanab]

I have this image in my head how should my ideal relationship be like because I want to have a meaningful relationship. In general I feel like INFPs just want someone who will accept them and not to try to change them

[xiala_]

As an INFP I’m usually the one listening. Well, usually.. is actually and understatement, probably. I think. I’ll admit though, it’s my fault– I ask the questions, get the other person talking, and then contently listen.

It would be very strange having it flipped over– being the one who’s talking and not listening for once. I’m afraid of getting into what I’m passionate about, because I’m aware that I’ll talk too fast for too long and just make the person I’m talking to confused– Everything I’d say would be like one run-on sentence.

Which is why I like being the one who listens. Everyone deserves an open, unbiased ear, that’ll listen and at least try to understand. Two sides to every story. Or y’know, someone who’ll just laugh with you on a nice sunny day about the tug of war that turned into a beautiful, chaotic–
I’m gonna stop myself there. I’ve already typed maybe– what, three paragraphs?
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There’s a lot I don’t say. I should make a book so that way I don’t murder someone’s ears. Thinking of books, I wonder how my other friend is doing on her book. I should go check up on her and maybe send her some disgustingly positive gifs, I don’t want her to give up and all that.
Yeah I’m gonna go do that.

Bye random stranger that decided to read this mini essay of a comment for some unknown reason.