Why I choose to be selective

In many parts of my life, I neglected to operate in a space of boundaries with those who expected so much out of me. I began to realize that I had to become selective with the people I involved myself with, the places I went to, and the environment I shared with others. Being selective provided me with a newfound life that allowed me to operate freely with my “NO” and be ok with it.

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[aprilgriffin]

When I started to be selective I noticed I started creating a safe space for myself ❤

[Spillitent]

Rehearsing is not crazy. Thats how you prepare yourself to set boundaries

[esotericdarkangel]

After I watch this video, I literally burst into tears. When I was being selective, I was experiencing so much peace but I’ll begin to feel guilty or isolated so I open back up and here comes the chaos again.. I tried to convince myself that maybe I was being too judgmental or maybe I felt the way I did because of some subconscious reason stemming from myself. You help me to except that I’m just uncomfortable because I don’t resonate anymore and that’s OK. Thank you.

[neferishajohnson]

I have been accused of "not wanting to be anyone's friend". I have simply always been selective...It makes life so peaceful.

[mindfulfairy]

I’ve learnt that, not speaking your truth is a form of self-sabotage. ❤thanks for the video

[MemphisMuseTV]

“I wasn’t tired with other people, I was tired with me.” 😮‍💨 That was it right there. I got tired of me stretching myself so thin, trying to show up for everybody and everything else even when I feel depleted. I deserve better.

[iam_Riri]

Learning to say NO is a fundamental step in getting ahead in life.
Thanks for sharing

[blankcanvasaudio]

My wife says I'm the most introverted person she knows. I actually wear a sweater that says “nope” on it whenever I can. And yes not being easily accessible is the way, I have no enemies and I'm drama free.

[courtnesingleton]

You don’t understand how this made me so happy. People always tell me I don’t like people and that’s not true. I like real human being. People who are true to themselves, who respect themselves so much that I want to be around them.

[daniellerandall]

Right now I’m learning to say no to sexual encounters with guys, especially with ones I’m interested in. I want a deep connection with someone but I can’t have those with just anyone. I felt empowered and proud of myself for putting up boundaries, saying that I’m not having sex with anyone until that person commits to me and loves me. I want a secure and healthy connection. If I don’t have that I can’t interact with you any further.

[Melanie-deiq]

I don’t understand why someone who is supposed to be your friend, all of a sudden stops talking to you just because you tell them your not comfortable going. That’s a fake friend, and yes your right, I’m not hanging around people who talk smack about others and are so negative. I respect you!

[wandafrazier]

Powerful! People think your acting funny, but as you grow you become more selective and learn where to place people in your life.

[JonesyFit]

I recently began being more selective with my time and energy. I was the friend that was always there, even if it was to my detriment. I began to find that when I needed or wanted the support for whatever it was that I was doing it wasn’t there. I wasn’t getting the same energy back. Once I realized that I began being more selective with my time and energy. Now those same ‘friends’ haven’t hit me up in about 2 weeks. Ah… still trying to find my tribe I guess!

[mariaantonia-rsty]

the way you phrased "if my 'no' was loud, then my rejection would be louder" just described perfectly how I feel. thank you so much for your work and this video!

[thg]

I'm selective with social drinking and clubbing. I'm no longer comfortable around drunk people, in bars or in clubs. It's not my vibration and being in a long term committed relationship, it's no longer appropriate. I invest my time into health, fitness and spirituality. I noticed that I'm labelled the 'too serious' or 'boring' person now. People love your toxic behaviours but won't support your healthy habits. Love your channel! It's the voice I have needed for so long now.

[AndImHailey]

Nothing but facts. Once you set your boundaries don't be surprised when certain people stop coming around 💯

[ayalovenaturals]

I went through this and pulled back after 20 years of fitting in with people that intentionally did things to make me feel less than. Realized it was a reflection of how I saw myself and once I treated me better, nurtured me, loved on me and embraced who I was, the right energy came along. Your vibe attracts your tribe 💫

[levrnacrawford]

I learned to be selective because when people don't have peace in their own lives and they see you know how to keep peace in your life they tend to try and disrupt yours .so I'm at peace being alone in my own self space.

[msnicolevickers]

I needed to hear this . There is a man in my life that I'm always "available" for and he's been clear about not wanting a relationship. I have no boundaries with him and although he's fine with all the "benefits" he receives from me otherwise he gives me the bare minimum. I've decided to say "no" to a situationship, close the door and move on. I'm working on myself and making space for someone who honors me and what I have to offer.

[bamarealist]

A lot of times the enemy, will have people be cordial and friendly enough to supposedly earn your trust, so that when they do shady things, you are less likely to notice or speak up. Remember, a dealbreaker is a dealbreaker, no matter when it occurs.